When my parents are on holiday, I take care of their house, it's an arrangement that they and I have had for years now. My brother and sister know this. My parents really don't like it when people come into their home when they're not there, including us. But the yard has to be mown and stuff, so that's the exception to their rule.
Last week my sister sent me a text message asking me if I was at my parents' place. I said no. She replied with: I just wanted to check if you're there, because I figured you wouldn't like it if I came by without notice. I am headed there my way now, just to check on the grass.
Upon entering my parents' house yesterday, I can't escape the notion that she wasn't alone when she went there. All four of the chairs in the garden were moved, so my thought is that she brought the children with her.
Before my parents went on a holiday they told me that they would have a conversation with my brother, letting him know that they wouldn't appreciate him flocking to the house in their absence. I am not sure if they had the same talk with my sister (could be a no, but that would then be because they didn't see the need to tell her, because she just isn't the type of person to do this). I am positive tho, that my parents don't like it if she's there in their absence. This has been a struggle for them for years, because they don't want it to come off as unloving.
Please, no responses to the decision of my parents to whether my parents are right or wrong in this one. I respect their decision. It's their house, not mine.
Since there are a couple of assumptions in this story, I sent my sister a text message yesterday, asking her if my parents told her that it was okay for her (and the kids) to be in their house during their absence. I also wrote: I wouldn't want to be in on something that wasn't supposed to be happening. I also said that they asked me to take care of the garden, so unless they asked her this as well, I don't understand she went over there to check on the lawn. I ended with: please read this message in the kindest way, I don't know how else to phrase this. Love.
Okay. Now she doesn't reply back. Should I have said something different or differently? The relationship between her and me isn't a good one. If it were my brother, I would have confronted him about this without getting anxious over it.
Does anyone have a new perspective on this? Thanks.