I gravitate towards being an INFJ.

I had a romantic relationship for a few years. A few weeks ago I was completely devastated when I was on the receiving end of a heartbreaking breakup.

So I talked to some of my friends about this. And gradually I shared about that relationship, heartbreak, breakup, certain other aspects of my behaviour, and some moments of my life.

Now I fear it's too much! And it gives me some anxiety that they know a lot about some aspects of my life and behaviour which were previously hidden.

I guess for an average individual this isn't that much to fear about. But it could be a watershed moment for me regarding my behavioural aspect of being "reserved/closed".

Since they now know about my life, if they enquire something how should I handle it? Should I say "no" or "leave it" or "I'm fine" or are there other, better ways?

How do I not open up further (to be reserved as before) to those people without jeopardizing friendships/relationships?

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    The first question seems like an internal conflict, possible best handled by a therapist. The second one can be on topic here, though. Have you already tried not opening up further and gotten any negative feedback, or tried anything else to deal with the situation?
    – Erik
    Nov 19 '21 at 7:48
  • Regarding second question : No negative feedback whatsoever. However since they now know about my life so if they enquire something how should I handle it? Should I say "no" or "leave it" or "I'm fine" or are there other better ways?
    – ShivCK
    Nov 19 '21 at 8:57
  • I think I have to agree with @Erik here and you need to discuss this in a therapeutic environment where everything can be completely fleshed out. There seems to be more involved than can be addressed here. I wish you luck. Jan 13 at 7:23

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