My girlfriend said:
"Sometimes it is good to just be on the side of your loved one"
and I have no idea how to do that.
We've been together for a bit less than a year and it's my first serious relationship. A similar issue already happened and it was just ignored in the end, and I'd like to know what to do when it happens next time. And if it's still possible, what to do now.
This time the situation was about her job as a teacher. She received a complaint from a parent about how she handled a situation with a child that got into a fight. She told me about the incident and we joked about it a bit, everything seemed fine, but then today she got the complaint and showed it to me.
As she previously told me she doesn't want me to tell her she's not doing a good job when I agreed with one of the parents, I just sent a shrug emoji. Right after that, she told me she doesn't want to talk about it and I replied "ok", ready to drop it. That got her angry at me and sad that I don't support her.
I don't know how to reply in that situation that would show my support while I don't actually think she did the completely right thing, but I don't know all the details either. If I ask for more details to actually make an opinion she gets upset because I'm questioning her and not supporting her. And if I avoid the topic she gets upset because I'm not very clearly supporting her so I must be against her.
How to show my support without outright lying and saying that I think the other side is completely wrong?