We live in Berwyn, IL, and commute to Chicago (well...my wife does, I work in Berwyn). I'm a transplant from Los Angeles, been here for 8 years now.
Anyway, last Monday night, my wife's ex, a guy called John* showed up at our door, he said he'd found our address through a WHOIS (my wife has her own websites), and he told us he was a cop in the NYPD and was in full uniform, said he couldn't cope on a cop's wage and was asking for a loan of $50,000 to help get his life back on track. He was very polite, told me he needed to see my wife about something.
My wife Jenny* was civil towards him, told him straight off the bat that he wasn't getting a loan, and it seemed fairly civil. I was there the whole time, decided since he was polite, and it concerned my wife, not to interfere.
Jenny told me how he explained to her that although he liked his job as a cop and was Manhattan-born and bred, he felt his cop's wage wasn't enough to live on and wanted a loan towards buying a penthouse (my wife told me this over dinner later that nite).
He left that same night.
However, he returned again this Tuesday when I was in work, and my wife told me about this.
Why would an NYPD cop come all the way to near Chicago to beg his ex-girlfriend for money, and also, why in his cop uniform as well?
I don't know what to do for the best... do I tell his employers or do I let my wife sort it out for herself; she's actually asked me for advice on what to do.
What is the appropriate response in this situation? Is there even one?
*: Names were changed in order to protect the privacy and anonimity of the people involved.