My boyfriend's brother-in-law (Bob) visits my boyfriend from time to time. Because he owns a bakery he always brings us a bag full of goodies. The bag almost always includes the following :a traditional sweet bread that I'm afraid I don't like at all, a very generic chocolate cake, and either cookies or a second kind of cake.
Don't take it the wrong way, I do think this is a really kind gesture and I shouldn't be complaining but I don't really want to eat them. I am trying to limit eating sweets, I still eat chocolate from time to time, but when I ask my boyfriend if he will eat the bread and cake, the answer is "I don't know" or "Perhaps". I'm really tired of decorating my table with cakes and breads in wrappers or basically being the one throwing them away because they have gone stale. And then the conversation is pretty much the same every time:
Me (baked stuff in my hands):
Hey babe, I'm throwing these away, they've gone stale.
I guess, yeah...
I don't want to hurt Bob's feelings and I don't want to sound rude so how can I politely tell Bob that while I appreciate the gesture, I avoid foods that contain sugar? He's always so happy to bring us the same stuff over and over again, and I hate to ruin the mood. Alternatively, is it weird to ask for something else from the bakery that doesn't contain sugar instead, and how?
What I have tried so far:
- I have told Bob that he really doesn't need to bring anything
- I have hinted in the past that I bake my own bread and I avoid refined carbohydrates but I guess Bob doesn't get the message.
- I have asked my boyfriend if I can throw them away or donate them, but the response is usually, "Leave them. I might have some at some point" (and that point usually comes when I unwrap them and have some first, which isn't good for me).
- I have asked a couple of relatives if they want any and they don't.