I have a disability that cannot be seen (diffuse scleroderma and a recalcitrant and relapsing polymyositis). I seem to walk around ok, but my muscles are wasted and continue to rebuild and waste, making it difficult for me to walk long distances and climb steps. There's also a multitude of internal issues, I've had a totally stenosed SVC which was unblocked with venoplasty, but still causes me issues with breathing.
Sometimes the weakness is better than others and I do not require a disabled parking permit, but when I do, it's stressful.
I have been confronted for parking in the disabled parking, even though I have a sticker. I had one man watch me leave a supermarket and load my shopping and got into my car. Then he noticed me lifting my leg with my hand to get into the car and walked away.
A woman called out to me as I got out of my car, "you don't look very disabled to me" and I walked over to her and said I was, she didn't believe me.
A man yelled out and was very aggressive, I walked over to him and told him off, telling him what was wrong with me. Although he wouldn't have understood the medical conditions, he understood my tone and was apologetic.
This all makes me upset, I feel like some kind of cheating criminal when I use the disabled parking.
I can ignore people, but I would really like to communicate with them that what they're doing is unkind and that not all disabilities can be seen.
Does anyone have a suggestion of how I can handle people like this when confronted about using disabled parking? Maybe it will be just better to accept that this happens and learn to ignore it and not be upset?