Working in an average university, it's pretty common to get flattering comments from students (who more often than not pass it just to please the teacher), but recently I am facing a new problem of flattering comments from colleagues.
I would give some real examples to give you an idea:
- There is one colleague who is pretty close like a friend - the first time I heard some flattering comment, I tried to pretend as if I didn't notice/hear but despite my best tries (even trying to tell him politely that I daily see myself in mirror and there is nothing which you saw) comments like, "you look handsome", "looking a hero today", "you get a lot of looks", etc. keep on coming.
- There is another colleague who isn't close like a friend but he often passes through and passes a comment like "Programming Guru is here" and I have politely told him a number of times (last time in detail) that I am not a good programmer at all.
What I have tried so far
I have tried both approaches "Pretend as if nothing happened" and politely asking them the reason behind what did they find in me to name me as "Programming Guru", etc. (Should I show them my StackOverflow profile as evidence?)
Why I don't want these comments
Maybe they are honest but 1-) If I said, I don't like it, then it must be respected. 2-) I know myself and I find very embarrassed by this advanced way of pinching. Whenever I hear someone being over-polite or some flattering comments, it gives me huge nightmares as I know myself from inside. I thought about trying @TinkeringBell's "bore them out" approach but it's not working either as I feel pretty insecure by these comments and want bit rapid response (without losing a friend/colleague).