So I draw little caricature-doodles for fun and am decently good at it. Sometimes people ask me (very casually, not for pay or anything) to draw them. What if this person is overweight or has an obvious flaw like a big nose or acne? Should I draw that in or try to make them look attractive?
Now, I know a really self-conscious person won't ask me to draw them in the first place, but nobody has 100% self-confidence. Do people expect me to make them look attractive even if they know they are not?
However, if I leave off a flaw then the drawing will not resemble the person. Also not drawing in an obvious flaw will ironically highlight it because it says I've noticed it and know it is unattractive enough to modify my drawing.
Is it considered rude to ASK such a thing? Sometimes asking is considered bad like if somebody wants to know if they are fat and you respond with "do you want the truth or flattery". I'm much in the same position
Ok: to stick very close to the interpersonal skills guidelines, here are my official questions:
Do I modify my drawing or not? This is an action to be taken in response to the interpersonal situation of offending somebody by highlighting their flaws.
Is it rude to ask directly if I should make them more attractive?
What phrasing should I use in 2 such that the phrasing doesn't overtly say "should I cover up your ugliness"?
2 and 3 are subject to the person LYING to me, then magically expecting me to know how to act. Americans love to do this. So this brings me back to 1.