2 days ago my dad's father passed away due to cancer after lying to everyone in the family about his health and keeping his pain hidden for over four years prior. My dad, his sister and his mom are in deep sorrow right now.
When grandpa was hospitalized me and my mom never went to visit her due to school or having other things to do. My grandma has said that I sent my best wishes each time they visited without me actually saying anything.
Granddad's action have caused us a lot of issues, and a lot of frustration and conflict stemmed from his actions and the things we had to do to take him to the hospital and back multiple times each week. Suffice to say I am not exactly sorry for him after what he's put us through.
On top of all this, the 3 of my granddad's relatives that I started this question with have unanimously decided yesterday that the funeral is going to be held at a specific date and time without discussing it with me or my mom first, and the decision is final.
Normally I'd have no issue with having to attend the funeral even after all this, but I've been given internship at a multi-national company about a month ago, and my first 2 hours of work start exactly at the same time as the funeral would. I've informed my parents of the start time long ago, but it's probably not the first thing on my dad's mind right now. I'm torn.
I have the option to either miss 2 hours of time where many essential information is likely to be said that they probably won't want to repeat and I'd also make a bad first impression, or to disappoint my dad and the rest of our close family for who knows how long. The workplace would probably be understanding of the situation, but I'd much rather go there and not miss a minute than attend the funeral, all things considered.
Of these options, which would make the most sense?