I'm job hunting again because, in my current job, things went horribly.
People were not being aware of my Aspergers or of its impact and so I was on a team that simply was unhealthy for me. I'm looking for a company that is able to get along with me on long terms. It is clearly set for me that I will tell interviewers about my condition, to prevent getting in a situation like I'm in now, again.
The 2 major points I identified so far as problematic here, are when talking about the work of others, I come across as very critical without actually intending to do so. So others generally get very defensive towards my ideas or when I try to get help understanding something.
I'm not trying to justify this behavior in any way, but I would like to clearly communicate that things like this might happen, and that they are a consequence of my Aspergers, not just the "personality traits of a troublemaker". I'm working on this with a therapist, but for now, I have to convey that I need people that can understand this as something that "just happens" and that I'm working very hard on it to prevent it from happening.
The second problematic point is understanding tasks assigned to me correctly, as described in How to make sure I understood a work assignment correctly?.
I'd like to communicate to a future employer that things like this might happen, but also make them understand that there are ways we can work on these situations.
I don't want to dictate how I have to be handled. I want to explain/ask that I need a very structured working environment to be most efficient, that they have to consider my Aspergers when planning to let me work for them as it might affect my performance tremendously. Once there is a working routine set up I can/could rely on, I will be very efficient. Furthermore, especially such an achievement would be very attractive for me to stay with a company on the long term.
I would really like to communicate all this in an interview, without making it appear like a demand. I think I communicate ok verbally, but I fear I might express nonverbally something different and hence the verbal part could be not strong enough. So, given all this, I'd like to ask:
How can I convey this message in an interview, without appearing like I'm demanding them to hassle around with that?