I am on the cusp of moving to a new part of the country (1000km from my current location) and start a new job. I have just signed a lease to an apartment (that I am able to pay by myself if need be) and have suggested to my girlfriend to move in with me.
She will be unemployed as we are both moving to this new city, but assures me that she will try and find work as soon as we move. I am not convinced that she will try at all, as she hasn't shown any initiative yet for job-searching, and is making excuses to why she cannot start. How do I tell her that if she doesn't get a job in a reasonable amount of time, or at least show me that she is trying to get a job so that she can pay half of the rent; then I will have to ask her to move somewhere else. I don't expect her to immediately start paying her share from day 1, but I do think that she at least needs to be making steps towards getting financially stable with high priority so that all responsibilities are shared equally.
My attempt was essentially asking "When we move, how long of job hunting do you think is a reasonable time frame for you to get a job before you decide to move back"
Her response was "I am shocked that you would kick me out at all, I haven't applied at all yet because ABC123XYZ, I am hurt that you would give me this ultimatum."