I scolded a fellow college student of mine based on a misunderstanding.

Later on I realised it wasn't his mistake.

Since we kept a not-bad friendship for more than 3 years, I would like to solve the issue and apologise to him.

How should I do that? I feel reluctant to face him because I scolded him severely and he seemed very upset by it.

  • how long ago did you scold him? Also did you resort to insults? A little more detail would help here
    – user57
    Jun 27, 2017 at 18:29
  • just 2 days back. @YvetteColomb
    – Sagar VD
    Jun 27, 2017 at 18:30

3 Answers 3


Be honest. You made a mistake, acted in a way you're now embarrassed of, and want to patch things up. You'd be surprised how far a bit of humility will go in these situations. If you've been acquaintances for 3 years this other guy likely knows you well enough to see that you're genuinely apologetic for behaving the way you did.

Even if things don't get immediately back to normal, if your acquaintance is an even tempered person and all you did was at worst yell at him he will likely want to patch things up as well.

  • +1. but I mentioned in comments in my question. We just talk once or twice a month. that's it. can't say friends. That's why I used not-bad relationship
    – Sagar VD
    Jun 27, 2017 at 18:29
  • @Sa͞g̛͘a̢͞rV̷d̛ - just read your comment and edited to reflect that
    – LMGagne
    Jun 27, 2017 at 18:30
  • @SagarVD I don't think the frequency of your contact makes a lot of difference. Simply take them apart the next time you see them and apologise in private. If you make it clear that you feel bad about it and are sorry, only the most vindictive person will keep holding it against you.
    – Cronax
    Nov 7, 2017 at 14:26

I would first contact him in a nonconfrontational way: email, text message, or some other method where he doesn't have to immediately respond or worry that you're going to scold him again. Say something like, "I want to apologize; can we talk?" Offer circumstances as if you were setting a date or a meeting: "We can get coffee on Thursday or Friday" or even "I can meet you outside the dining hall after Biology."

When you meet: admit fault, say how you feel, clearly apologize, and request forgiveness. An example might be, "I misunderstood something and scolded you. Now I feel embarrassed. I'm sorry for doing that. Can we put it behind us?"

It'll be a difficult conversation to have. He might not accept your apology or be willing to forgive you. If he doesn't, that's fine. You can't force him to overlook your mistake.


Just be straightforward, and honest. You could do it by email if you don't want to do it in person. A simple message stating how you feel about the incident, followed by an apology will do. I'm sure the other person will respond with their thoughts about what happened, and how they feel about it. Whether that person will accept your apology, or not, is upto them. But you tried, and that counts. Good luck!

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