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The subject says it all: There is no one specific incident I can summarize, but in general I have had encounters with people who endlessly ask loaded/leading questions and statements that are simply uncomfortable to respond to. These are in casual, non-work/non-professional situations in which nothing is really at stake. Questions such as:

  • “Who wouldn’t like that?”
  • “Who could say no?”
  • “I never met someone who didn’t like that.”
  • “Why would anyone do that?”
  • “Why would anyone say that?”
  • “Here! Have some! I know you will like it!”

And such. These are non-sales/non-pitch situations in which there are no high stakes: I’m not buying or selling something so these kinds of questions/statements are even more frustrating and baffling.

At least in a sales/pitch situation one can be more assertive and even act in an alienating way since in most sales/pitch situations there is no deep relationship at stake. In casual social situations when stuff like this happens I find it to be more uncomfortable because this type of interaction seems even more unnecessary.

Is there a simple thing that can be said or done in response to an interaction like this that can move the conversation past this question/statement without too much friction?

  • Who is the person saying that, what is their purpose and why are they saying that? Genuine inability to understand why you "wouldn't like that" aka solipsism? Trolling, manipulation, attempt to make you look like a fool?... Proper reply will vary a lot depending on that... – peufeu Oct 30 '17 at 11:03
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    Hmm... Although you've said 'there is no one specific incident I can summarize' --> Can you provide us with an example of a conversation/topic in which these reactions are made? Also, as @peufeu asked, who is saying it and is there any indication why? – Tinkeringbell Oct 30 '17 at 11:09
  • @peufeu I have edited to clarify. Additions are: “These are in casual, non-work/non-professional situations in which nothing is really at stake.” and “Is there a simple thing that can be said or done in response to an interaction like this that can move the conversation past this question/statement without too much friction?” – JakeGould Oct 30 '17 at 11:14
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    Also take a look at this... It might give you some insight into 'why' these statements are made, and that might help you figure out a suitable reply... – Tinkeringbell Oct 30 '17 at 11:20
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    @JakeGould the close votes are piling up, you should add more information before it gets closed... – peufeu Oct 30 '17 at 12:18