About 1.5 months ago I got to know a girl that lives 5 minutes away from me.
We wrote for 1-2 days, then met. The first two times just talking with each other and then, at a concert, making out.
Long story short. We have been kinda "dating" now for the past 1.5 months. Sometimes going out together with friends. And mostly me going to her place in the evening to spend the night together. (If relevant we already did everything from making out to sleeping with each other a couple of times).
She can sometimes be a little hot headed, but I really like her and I believe vice versa. The thing is that she seems very locked at telling emotions or saying things like "I love you" (like in the non-relationship style "hab dich lieb" in German. The not so serious version) and very rarely says that she really likes me, although when I am with her she is a cuddle beast, so to say. Let's say, she shows the affection that she seems unwilling to spell.
Now what really bothers me a bit is that I have no clue how this will continue as we are in the same position as we were a month ago. Not in a relationship, but openly "being together" if that makes sense? So we show that we are "with each other" in public with friends, family (my brother, cousin who live in the same town) and she is talking about me and us openly with her parents as well. That confuses me a bit.
She has also hinted that she does not want a relationship, but because she is a person that cannot express emotions that well, I don't know if that is really meant seriously or not. (She said that when we had a small fight, nothing dramatic.)
How could I determine if she was ready and/or open to a relationship through talking to her using IPS, but not asking directly as I believe that she would deflect the question. And has someone been in a situation like this and how did you resolve it? I don't believe that I am just a "friend-with-benefits" because we spent countless nights just cuddling and watching films and most importantly talking. (I believe that leans more towards a relationship than "friends-with-benefits".)