I'm in a long-distance relationship with my girlfriend Alice. We often text every day from the moment she wakes up till I sleep (time difference, not constantly because we have work, school etc.).
We do send voice messages and videos occasionally. However, when I suggest a voice or video call, she gets very shy and refuses unless it is a special day like a birthday or anniversary and even then it is only voice calls, we had a video call like once over the course of about a year of long-distance.
I would like help on any ways I could persuade her to be more open to calls?
I've asked her why refused, and she always says that it's not a good time, or she's too shy. I've met her twice. She's not concerned about makeup, but she does have body image issues. Sometimes she even refuses to send me a picture because she feels fat.
Alice is about 19 and her native language isn't the same as mine, but I can speak it with relative fluency.
I tried telling her everything I felt and my point of view rather than just trying to convince her that calls are OK. Surprisingly after hearing that I would take it badly if she kept this barrier and what I think about having no calls she agreed to arrange a weekly call. Of course she said to try it out and she isn't 100% for it, I guess she's showing consideration to how I feel about calls and she's making an effort.
Thanks all for the advice, I guess my approach was wrong all along.