The situation is that I spent about 12 years doing activity X. For a while, I really enjoyed it but about 4 years ago that stopped. I no longer got enjoyment from the activity itself, it took a significant portion of time out of my weekend and the thought of going would make me very anxious. However, my mother had been taking me since I was a teenager and took a great deal of pride in me going (and enjoyed a social side of things).
A couple of years ago I found that due to health reasons I couldn't engage in this activity for a while. This has now been resolved but I had actually been very glad I had a legitimate excuse not to go. Now this no longer applies I am feeling pressure to go back.
She drives me there and hangs out with other friends/family of active participants. The drive over and back is long and is the only extended period we get with just us since I started working.
What I want advice on is how to have the conversation that I would rather not go back to this activity, and maybe find something else that we could bond over instead (as this social interaction with just me and her was one of the few things I genuinely enjoyed about it).
Would it be best to be straight about not wanting to do it, or do you think there might be a solution likely to hurt her feelings less?