I have a boyfriend, but still live with my parents and siblings. We've been dating for 8 months.
It seems that every time I have a spare moment with my significant other (SO) not present, someone's bound to ask me why
Why are/were you not with [boyfriend] right now/tomorrow/next weekend/yesterday?
Sometimes even adding the question if we're having a fight.
This question comes from my parents, siblings, one further family member and some friends. It creates the impression with me that I either have to be at work or with my boyfriend or otherwise have a really good reason why I'm doing something else (if I do give a reason as an answer, I can even expect some arguing about it). It annoys me.
I have explained to my parents and siblings that I don't want to have to justify myself for this every time and they answered: "You don't have to justify yourself, of course not." and then continued the question each following time. So I respond each time with that I don't want to justify myself. This gets them upset: "We're just interested in your life!" / "We just want to know if you're having a fight!"
My goal is to have a way to make these questions stop and/or deflect them as fast as possible without giving any reasons. Preferably this should not create bad feelings for anyone.
Note that I don't want to give any reason, even if there is one they'd understand, because if my SO and I ever really would be in a fight, I'd like to resolve it between us without nosy people interfering.
This is not a "why are you bothering me", as at other times they express the desire to spend more time with me. This is also not a "why haven't you moved out yet", since we're planning on that and they know the timeframe, which is pretty soon.