I have a friend in a group. Let's call her Wendy. The group is rather large and diverse, but a core 8-9 people meet regularly, and she is part of this core group.
She and I have dated in the past, but we didn't go very deep. Some dates, we didn't go past holding hands. I tend to make a lot of jokes and tease people; and she, to put it simply, has a quick and hot temper that arises at almost anything.
Her hands were dirty so I took her napkin to wet it to help her and she lashed out at me for touching her napkin (paper ones).
Jokingly said that her distant not-so-close friend would not let her sleep on his bed if she visits him. (seriously, not many people would sacrifice their bed and go sleep on the couch)
She would not talk to me for a long time during the date then scold me. So after about about a month of dating I decided it was not worth it.
So now the strange part, she has done and does things like:
- Meow in my ear at a party softly while putting her head on my shoulder (I'm not really into that kinda thing).
- Grab my bag, me, and/or my keychains.
- Constantly texts me about my current girlfriend and asksif I'm still with her. (Alice, my current girlfriend, and I had a big fight once and we were thinking of breaking it off.)
- Sits really close to me and looks at me a lot whenever we are out as a group
Now, I have decided in my mind that I would like to continue to join this group on their outings, as most of the members are pretty cool people that I get along great with.
However, whenever she is present, she will do some of the above and generally then the group will try to shift the entire activity to her liking (her tastes are unique).
I have spoken to other people in the group about her behavior. They said that it was a by-product of her family situation and that I should just tolerate it.
I did tell her that I found the meow strange but she told me that it was just a joke. After that she didn't do it again. (To me, it didn't feel like a joke at all.) She does this with others and I have asked one or two other members and they say that yeah, she's strange.
TLDR: A girl I dated in the past in a group of friends kinda creeps me out. How do I deal with that while still wanting to enjoy the rest of the group?