I have a friend who I'm very close with and this has been something that truly, truly bothers me since I've met her. I've known her for about 4 years now and I have never gathered the courage to tell her that the way she chews is loud and obnoxious.

Once she was having an altercation with a coworker and complained to me about it. The coworker told her that she smacks her teeth when she chews and it's so loud. My friend said "I don't think I do that" and since she was so upset about the situation I said "maybe record yourself and see?"

I know, that's a lame answer.

Then one time she was chewing incredibly loud and I said "hey you're kind of chewing with your mouth open" and she proceeded to not do that for the next couple minutes but then soon resumed.

Then another time we were with another friend who also said she could "hear her chewing right in my ear" but didn't say it to her.

I know she's not doing this on purpose which is why I would feel terrible bringing it up. She's so self conscious as it is, I don't know how I can break it to her, especially after 4 years of not saying anything.

  • Have you heard of Misophonia? possibly worth checking out – Jesse Jan 20 '18 at 0:29

You don't, there isn't a kind way, and chances are that the problem lies with you, not with your friend. I am speaking from a point of experience as I too am very sensitive to chewing, swallowing, and digestive sounds. Someone else mentioned Misophonia, something that you may have, and something that I am likely to have as well. If you do relay this information to your friend it will likely damage your friendship and give her a complex about it. You need to use this as an opportunity to overcome, or simply leave the room when your friend eats. I noticed that if I am eating at the same time it doesn't bother me as much. If I'm not, well it gives me an opportunity to learn self control, or to put on my headphones and listen to some music.

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    The OP says others have also found a problem with this person’s loud chewing, so perhaps not entirely a matter of the OP’s perception. – Spagirl Jan 20 '18 at 20:31
  • Someone else mentioned Misophonia Loud chewing is generally a problem to many people though. I wouldn't pin this on OP. – Sidar Jan 25 '18 at 7:41

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