My husband and I are working on immigration; currently, we are in two different countries. It is a long process with a lot of unknowns -- and a lot of tricky personal stuff we have to go through and deal with. Understandably, a lot of people we know are excited for us to eventually be together, but many people don't really realize the hardship and also the complexity of what we are doing.
I tend to get a lot of questions along the lines of "when will you be able to be together?" and to be honest I have no idea! It depends on how the processing of the application goes, and all of that. I tried giving people the stock answer in terms of maximum processing time as far as the government has stated it (and that's assuming no difficulties or issues with anything), but they want to know more and I honestly don't have an answer.
Being asked this all the time is super frustrating because it kinda forces me to remember that all of this is a giant unknown. I get that people mean well, I just get tired of constantly being asked a question I cant answer to anyone's satisfaction.
It doesn't help I am getting this from everyone from my family to coworkers to friends to random acquaintances...basically anyone I see regularly that knows we are working on this. I'm just at a loss - I hate answering this question because I don't have a "good enough" answer, and to be honest getting it repeatedly just makes me feel awful because, well, long distance and all that.
Is there any way I can get people to either stop asking, or to accept that I honestly have no idea but I will generally try to keep them updated as needed or as things change?