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Questions tagged [approach]

For questions where the author is looking for a way achieve their goal. Such as to properly convey certain feelings or to inform someone about a problem.

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How to tell a coworker that you would like to date them?

I think I'm in an intricate and precarious May-June/May-July situation. A woman colleague, let's call her Mary, seems to have a crush on me. She has: clung to my arm while walking, tried to coyly ...
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We moved together unexpectedly and early. How do I approach my boyfriend about arising problems?

Current Situation My boyfriend of 5 months is currently living with me in my aparment. He moved in about 2.5 months ago, because he was kicked out by his roommate with a 2 week notice and completely ...
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How to explain to my girlfriend that I enjoy certain video games?

I would like to ask for advice about my current situation, my girlfriend (26) and I (31) have been together for 2 months now and we really have lots in common and always have a great time together but!...
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How to approach a friend about his girlfriend asking to sleep with me?

Context My girlfriend (let's call her Claire) shares a flat with a couple (let's call them Bob and Alice). Bob is a close friend of mine, and I get along pretty well with Alice. The three of them ...
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How to make girlfriend feel better about health and body

For context, my girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year now, and we're really close, especially when it comes to talking things over. We would both describe ourselves as nerds, and would ...
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How can I have healthy friendships with other high achievers? [closed]

I've struggled with insecurity and low self-worth for a long time. Growing up, I was often the top of my class in school, most well spoken, best dressed, etc.. I've continued to be a high achiever. ...
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Instuctor wants me to pay for additional lessons before sign off; but didn't complete all hours of the course

I'm taking some mandatory motorcycle lessons (required before you can legally ride on the road). I've paid around $600 for these to the school the runs the course. The course (whose structure, ...
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How to deal with a boss that privately texts an (uninterested) coworker

At the annual summer party of our company I have introduced a friend and colleague of mine to my supervisor. My colleague is from another department at another office and we have known each other some ...
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How do I deal with my roommates wanting a lower tier of internet service? [closed]

I live with 2 roommates and we are students. We are really good friends, we have each other's back but you know, there are going to be problems too. I study Computer science, the other roommates study ...
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How to tell people that you will not go to their party without them taking it personally?

Background Being around people is tiring for me (the more people, the worse it is, especially if I don't know them well). It also often causes me anxiety. When I'm really too tired, I just want to ...
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How can I tell the new CFO that I'd like him to be a mentor?

We have a brand new CFO (yay!) and he's a very successful businessperson with a down to earth personality. He's been with the team for 2 months, and has some wildly successful ideas that have really ...
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How to explain to coworkers that being vegan does not mean I know everything about it?

The other day, I was in a company meal with ~20 coworkers and someone offered me wine before adding: "At least you know this is vegan." (because I'm vegan). I don't like alcohol so I politely refused ...
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How can I ask my girlfriend to be my gym buddy without hurting her feelings?

I've recently started dating a girl and we're an item, and are happy hanging out together. We have strong feelings for each other. She is somewhat overweight (not hugely so but not at a healthy ...
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How to tell someone you are pregnant at such a late stage? [closed]

I am 35 weeks pregnant and I didn't tell an acquaintance of mine yet. She is an old co-worker of mine and works a few blocks away. She quit working at the same company as me in January. She was ...
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How to tell a professor that I don't mind if he is busy?

Sorry this got a little long... I am self-studying a course. Two years ago I began to use some lectures by a professor from the United States (I'm from a different country). He is retired now. While ...
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How do I help someone to be ready for a relationship and overcome his fears?

So, the story is a little complicated and I always have a little trouble expressing myself, I guess that's also one of the reasons why I'm asking for help. First, I'm a Brazilian guy, about to turn ...
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How to convince my band members to play different songs?

I am currently playing in a band of beginners with varying degrees of skill. It all started because my friend and I (the two guitarists) are enrolled in a music school that closes for the summer, and ...
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How do I get a second opinion without offending my longtime dentist?

I have been going to my dentist for the past 18 years. It's a family practice: the dentist, his wife (hygienist), his sister-in-law (appointments and billing), and some additional staff I've never ...
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How to approach a random person that appears to be interested in you?

A lot of the time (3-5 times a month) when I'm walking in the street or sitting on the public transit random strangers will make eye contact with me for more than 3 seconds and also smile at me in a ...
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Disproving false beliefs of an acquaintance which may be dangerous or affect our relationships [duplicate]

There is a similar question here: How to tell someone believing in pseudoscience & conspiracy theories is wrong without making them feel stupid/upset? My question has a different setting: I'm ...
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How to ask the girl I am dating if she likes me?

I am mexican working in Germany (31), I got to know an amazing german lady 3 months ago (26), we started texting eachother since, it is awesome, we always have something to talk about and we both love ...
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How to find out if my text messages are appreciated?

This might be a very basic thing for many but love is definitely not my strong subject at all! There is a girl I like very much, long story short, we started to text each other around 3 - 4 times a ...
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How to get coworkers to stop asking me questions about my personal life? [duplicate]

Background: I work for a small company consisting of 5 to 10 employees including project manager. Every morning, as a team we conduct a standup meeting to discuss the daily agenda that sometimes ...
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How do I ask my friends to be more self-sufficient? [closed]

I sometimes answer rather bluntly/harshly to close friends (this includes my SO as well) over a question during our gaming session because it's either something I already answered or something that ...
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How can I politely get the attention of a coworker who is listening to music?

At work a few weeks ago, a coworker was listening to music with her earphones in, and I needed to ask her a question because a piece of code I was writing was not working and she often helps me debug ...
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How to apologize to a friend who blocked me?

Backstory: About 2 years ago I became close online friends with someone over Steam and Discord. Recently (4 days ago) we got into a disagreement; I overreacted and he responded by blocking me on ...
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How do I deal with my girlfriends anxiety affecting my relationship with my friends

My girlfriend has anxiety issues for which she currently is prescribed medication. The medication helps but she still struggles with social occasions, especially when she does not know many people ...
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etiquette in dealing with long cold war [closed]

Let's call this friend, lady A. We begun as friends three years ago through a dating site but she was warm with her affections shortly into the friendship through the show of her handmade gifts to me....
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How can I encourage discussion of sensitive topics with my girlfriend?

Background I have been dating my girlfriend for about three months. We are both in our mid 20s, grew up in the mid-western United States, and now live in New York City. She has defined boundaries for ...
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How can I be more persuasive when assuring people that I am perfectly fine and healthy?

For most of my life, I have had problems keeping up with eating "normal" amounts of food at meals. I feel full way faster than many friends. I still eat enough, as I am not even considered underweight ...
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How to approach talking to a group of girls as a guy without being awkward?

I'm trying to mingle with girls in my high school and I've never really done anything like it before (sounds funny but it's true). Anyway, there's a group of girls that I want to talk to but I'm not ...
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How to deal with a friend who is “throwing” online games

I have a friend with whom I have been playing a certain online game for many years. I also play with his wife. I have been friends with both of them for over three decades, first individually, and ...
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How can I let my girlfriend know that her insults are hurting my feelings and ask her to stop?

Some background about me and my girlfriend: We are in a long distance relationship for more than four years, so we only see each other on weekends (unfortunately not every weekend), but this is about ...
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How to tell an overweight person that the hike will be too hard?

Please note, I don't want to be mean or anything and I don't want to go "fat shaming" or things like that. Context With my SO and a couple of friends, we planned a hike for this summer. The GR20 is ...
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How to deal with someone who ignores your lack of knowledge?

I purposely made this question generally broad so that it can apply to more people in need of similar interpersonal skills, but I can easily make it about a specific scenario if needed. Problem My ...
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Best way to talk about my doubts with my girlfriend.

I'm following this stack from the beginning but posting this anonymously was needed. Context I'm in my mid-twenties and with my girlfriend for more than 8 years now. We are from a western Europe ...
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How should I tell my band-members I'm out?

I'm a 21-year-old guy from Denmark, who plays in a band. The band consist of: Lead vocal (LV) 35 Drummer (D) 42 Bass (B) 48 Rhythm guitar (RG) 54 Lead guitar (me) Context RG has been my guitar-...
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How to tell my usual plumber their service isn’t needed any more?

So my regular plumber who has serviced my boiler for several years has become quite unreliable lately (hard to get hold of and book) and I’ve booked someone else to do the annual service this year. ...
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How to prompt a stranger for a dance while out with my dancing companion?

Recently I started taking dancing lessons with my dancing partner. We enjoy it and also go out together in clubs or bars with a dance floor for practicing what we learned or just for fun. My partner ...
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How to ask my partner not to postpone chores?

We've been living together for about a year. Things don't always go as well as they should due to my partner postponing chores A LOT. I on the other hand like to be organised as doing things on time ...
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How to communicate to coworkers that I am not comfortable with celebratory hugs

I have three coworkers that I work with directly (one being the manager of our "pod"). As a team we generally work on weekly goals with a meeting at the end of the week to go over accomplishments and ...
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How to insist (and convince) on a course of action when you are not in a position of power

I help a young teenage boy learn English at a non-profit organization where I am a volunteer. The boy is considered at-risk youth as he's the child of immigrant parents and of low socioeconomic status....
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How to respond to an unfalsifiable accusation?

I recently shared a blog post I had written to a relevant subreddit. I've posted to this subreddit a few times and got good responses. My most recent post had a response on it when I checked it in ...
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How do I reveal to my father that his father is not his biological father?

I've been using DNA testing to supplement my genealogical research and have made the rather startling discovery that the man whom I knew as my paternal grandfather was not in fact my father's ...
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How can I tell my mom to not cause herself so much stress when I'm visiting?

Situation I visit my parents about one time per month, for one to two days. Sometimes I manage to visit them twice, in rare cases I have to skip a month. So we see each other in person regularly (and,...
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How to cut-off my sister-in-law from me and my fiancée? [closed]

I am an 27 year old woman. I will be getting married soon. I have a sister-in-law who is 3.5 years younger than me. I somehow do not like my sister-in-law at all. I have disliked her since the first ...
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How do I politely tell a stranger to stop making annoying noises I can't name?

Background I've encountered this problem several times and under different circumstances. It really annoys me when people constantly make noises with their mouth. Now, I can't name them and they come ...
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How to deal with girlfriend cancelling weekends plan

In the middle of the year (around June) my girlfriend mentioned that she would go to a friend's party. She didn't mention the exact date, she didn't know when it would be. In the last couple of weeks,...
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How can I motivate the group to participate in the annoying small chores?

I think everyone knows about this one: You are in a team, a good team with lots going on and lots getting done. But not everything. The projects are challenging, you see the guys around you growing ...
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How do I announce my presence to someone who is not aware of it without frightening them?

First of all, I'm not sneaking up on people on purpose. But it seems, that I'm quite Ninja-like in my movements and this has caused problems. People are immersed in something (e. g. computer, TV, ...