Questions tagged [awkward-situations]

For questions about situations which are awkward for anyone concerned. This tag should be used when awkwardness is the key part of the problem.

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How can I tactfully discuss the intentions of an online acquaintance before meeting?

I recently accepted the friend request of a guy on Facebook. We shared a couple mutual friends, so I assumed we had met at a college party somewhere in the last few years. As it turns out, we haven't ...
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How do I deal with coworkers messing with me because of my shyness?

I've worked at my job for over a year and I barely speak to anyone. I'm very much a loner and don't prefer socializing or interacting with others, I keep to myself. My other coworkers know this and ...
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How to signal unavailability for a romantic or sexual relationship without elaborating on relationship status or personally rejecting someone?

Background I'm in a happily monogamous relationship. I also am friends with someone I used to date. My friend and I generally void the subject of dating/romance now because it can be a sore subject ...
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How do you ask friends to visit a dispensary without looking like a junkie?

I live in Europe but a few times a year I visit the United States. I stay in states where recreational cannabis is allowed. I don't use cannabis in Europe because it's not allowed, but when I'm in ...
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As a student, how can I negotiate appropriate sleeping arrangements with strangers for an academic conference?

I'm an undergraduate student that was offered a role researching for a grant. I was able to get authorship status on a paper and will be attending a conference for it later this year. The professor I ...
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How to have dinner without romance involved

I live in a tourist hotspot in japan, in particular a place where people often go when travelling solo. This means that when people I know (even just passing acquaintances) come here, they often ask ...
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I'm in a committed relationship and I'm being hit on in the workplace - how do I stop it without bringing it to HR?

Some Background I'm a 21 year old female I'm living in west Europe I am in a committed relationship with my boyfriend The Problem I recently started an internship for the summer which is amazing ...
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How to respond when people ask for treat (or party) but doesn't really want it? [closed]

I have faced this condition in past also, but i will ask this with respect to a recent experience I had. I won at an event in my office and was rewarded with a gift. After this people (including ...
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Responding to self deprecating jokes I can't relate to

The other day I was talking to an acquaintance--someone I see often but haven't really talked to enough to consider a friend. While talking, this person would make self deprecating jokes about their ...
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How to dispel the awkwardness after getting promotion and now managing my peer who vied for the same job?

A colleague and I both went for a promotion to team leader and I got it. I am looking for advice on how to handle the awkwardness of him not obtaining the promotion and me being in a position of ...
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Silent/Awkward meal with coworkers

In the company I'm in we always go to eat a meal together at a restaurant very near to our office. This has been so for a very long time I have been told. I'm pretty new. I've worked there for about a ...
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How do I answer the question “why are you vegan?” honestly, without making them resent me?

I am a vegan, only for ethical reasons. It is something I'm very willing to discuss. I have deliberated about it very carefully, for a long time, and have read papers and text books on the philosophy ...
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How to handle an appearance-obsessed sister-in-law?

I've noticed over time that my sister-in-law is very focused on appearances and how everyone looks. I find this to be a very unpleasant/shallow personality trait. In general, I don't really like her ...
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How should I respond when someone makes a self-deprecating remark about her look?

I had a look at that excellent earlier question, but think that these two questions are too different from each other. Situation It's about a group of friendly acquaintances and friends who have known ...
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How can I tell my closest online friend that I'm actually male?

Preface: Some folks will think I'm a terrible person after reading this, and perhaps they're right. In truth, there were several points early-on when I'd thought about breaking things off, but ...
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Parents found out I'd bought herbal cigarettes. How could I have parents regain trust in me? [closed]

This is my first post. I'm new here, so tell me if I make a mistake. I'll be happy to follow. Here goes. So I'd tried buying these things called herbal cigarettes online. My parents didn't know. I ...
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How to ask a friend to stop joking about a nonexistent relationship between other friend and me?

My initial situation is kinda similar to the one described here, but includes a troublesome third person. I brought an acquaintance "Bob", who's also a good friend of my BFF, into my group of friends,...
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How can I resolve a conflict between two people who want to avoid causing any inconvenience, when this is inevitable?

So. I give friend A a lift to a bar. A is on crutches, and can’t stand up for long. So I go in to meet the other friends I’m meeting there and to make sure there’s somewhere for them to sit. There ...
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How can I invite my daughter's friends over without being odd?

My daughter is turning 4 years old in August. She has been going to preschool since September. Her class is pretty small, with only 6 kids. She's good friends with most of them. She'll be joining them ...
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How can I decline an invitation and then go without them?

In 2016 I went to a comic con with a group of online friends, of which a couple of streamers with a decent sized community. F is in this community but nobody really speaks to him outside from what he ...
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Issue an apology over inappropriate email [closed]

Yesterday, I had family and friends over at my house, and I left my computer unlocked, and during the evening, I forgot about it. After some time if my computer is inactive, it goes to sleep. After ...
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How to ask a casual acquaintance for phone number without being awkward?

I commute to work every day and there is a woman I talk to every day because we take the same train. I've been talking to this woman for a few months (4+). We chat for a few minutes before the train ...
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How to talk to a friend claiming to go on a rampage?

My friend (m, 23) invited me (m, 23) to a house party and after a couple of beers he talked about a club in our city which he does not like. He stated that the club is bad because the security ...
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How do I reveal to my father that his father is not his biological father?

I've been using DNA testing to supplement my genealogical research and have made the rather startling discovery that the man whom I knew as my paternal grandfather was not in fact my father's ...
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Is there something that screams 'virgin' about me? [closed]

At my work there are these two colleagues, let's call them Bob and Adam just for convenience, who have a history of trash-talking about literally everyone in the company. Recently I've stumbled upon ...
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I'm 24 with a 4-year-old son. How to handle uncomfortable questions from people?

I'm 24 years old and I have a 4 year old son who was conceived by accident. I don't know about other countries but that's definitely not usual in mine (Spain). My son's mother and I broke up about ...
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Strange interactions with a relative/coworker preemptively deflecting blame

There's someone I deal with regularly -- let's call her Betty. Betty and I are closely related and we work together on various projects that she directs. Sometimes I run into a difficult situation ...
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Why do people cross their arms when I talk? [closed]

About 25% of the time I have a conversation with people, they begin to cross their arms or legs halfway through. I know that arm crossing can be a sign of defensiveness (or they're just cold), but ...
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How should I respond to someone cleaning my house without me asking?

So I asked a family member to nip to my house to get something while I was at work and when I got home they had thoroughly cleaned most of my house except for the bedrooms. I don't mean they quickly ...
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How can I decline someone's business card with tact?

I am an engineer in a technical field, but I work regularly with sales, and I am often given business cards by vendors or customers at work. I know that I will never use them, and I almost always ...
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Elevator awkwardness, collegue makes self deprecating comment

Yesterday I was taking the elevator down from the 5th floor to head out for lunch. A co-worker who works on the 6th floor was already in the elevator. I know that she works for my company, but I don'...
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How to avoid explaining science to strangers

So, I was at a Barbeque the other day and a situation occurred that, well, I'm getting tired of. It happens almost every time I meet a new group of people. When you meet someone, eventually you come ...
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How to get out of a dysfunctional living situation with irregular circumstances? [closed]

For some initial clarification, I hope this doesn't sound like a rant, because I'm trying to pitch this question as objectively, and as clearly as I possibly can, whilst hoping that I'm not sounding ...
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How to introduce metamours without causing awkwardness?

I am involved in a polyamorous relationship. Currently my wife has both a husband (me) and a boyfriend. We like to go out for normal "couple" type activities like dinner dates, movies, and attending ...
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How to tell boss about pregnancy?

I am about 22 weeks pregnant and it's getting to the point where it's hard to hide! I haven't told my boss or any coworkers yet. I have a doctors note saying the due date etc. I'm a bit of a wimp ...
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How can I amicably end a friendship with a needy friend?

Over the last few months I have become closer with a friend from class. She seems to have really latched onto me and considers me a close friend of hers. I'm an introvert and don't make strong bonds ...
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How do I prevent awkwardness between a former romantic interest and myself? [closed]

I went on a few dates with a woman I was interested in at the time. After the fourth date, she decided we should just be friends, which I was okay with. That happened about a month ago. Since then, we'...
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How do I deal with people who can't deal with local payment customs?

I live in Japan. Japan still has a very cash oriented society especially when it comes to restaurants. Often someone will visit from out of town and will expect to be able to (1) pay with a credit ...
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Unsure of how to handle upcoming high school reunion after being collectively ghosted

My high school 10 year reunion is coming up. I missed most of high school senior year due to a physical illness, the symptoms of which started the summer before. At the time, the diagnosis meant ...
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How to politely deflect questions about awkward scars?

Content warning: Self-harm Due to some issues I had a few years ago with self harming (related to mental health issues which I no longer have - hurrah!), I'm left with a lot of awkward scars on my ...
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How to answer why I didn't join a party, I was not invited to?

I'm living in a flat with another guy. We are both in our mid 20s. He recently invited a few people over. While I know, that I could always join, I didn't feel comfortable doing so without getting ...
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How to avoid lack of respect due to perceived youth / lack of experience

Background I'm a woman of small build (1,60m) and have a rather high pitched voice. If asked to estimate my age, people guess me at least 5 years, usually 10 years younger. I am 31, so people guess ...
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How do I prevent people from thinking my deformity disables me?

Explanation:When I was younger, I broke my arm close to my growth plate near my elbow. As a result, part of my arm grew and the other part did not, resulting in a boomerang shaped arm (if I hold my ...
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Is it appropriate to tell someone of the opposite gender “your fly is down”?

I just spent 15 minutes talking in the hallway at work with a male coworker (I'm female) about the recent arrival of their second child. I spent the last five minutes of that chat trying to decide if ...
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How to tell a coworker to dress more appropriately for the office

One of my co-workers transitioned a year ago and she's really happy to be a woman, to finally being herself. However, she's putting too short skirt and short... I know that she's going through a ...
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How do I talk to my friend without offending her?

I have a friend that I don’t know too much about, despite being friends for a while. I don’t have too many friends around where I am because I am very introverted, so usually people will come to me ...
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How to stop a friend from being “touchy-feely” towards me?

Background I have a friend who I met in college (we're both 19 year old males) and we attended the same classes together. Throughout the semesters he was a little "touchy-feely" (e.g. putting his arm ...
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How to deal with intimidating people?

[m/17] My parents recently got me a personal tutor for my exams who is maybe in his late 20s. I had the first class recently, which was three hours long. Within the first 30 minutes or so he asked me ...
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How do I react when a girl says she is wearing something and wants you to look but you don't want to be weird [closed]

This may just be me being awkward, but me and this girl were shooting a green screen clip for a project, and I asked her jokingly, "hope your not wearing green", and we laughed. And she laughed some ...
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How do I tell a woman that her pants have a menstruation stain?

I was working in my work space today and a female coworker came to give me some information that I needed, then left. I'm male. Suddenly, when she was on her way back to her work space, I saw a ...

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