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How can I refuse to disclose my occupation, without marring friendship in slightest?

I want to follow up my earlier question please. As I wrote, this year is husband's 10 year high school reunion. Some schoolmates emailed him about catching up separately. He's grappling — society, ...
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How to know how much money to give someone for a ride home?

With my work, we sometimes travel to different locations. At the end of the day, it's common for people to offer and ask for rides home. There was one person who lived relatively close to me. We never ...
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How do I politely hint to customers to leave my store, without pretending to need to leave myself?

I own a small gelato juice bar with a piddling number of seats for customers. I'm working alone right now; my employees returned to school and I haven't hired yet. Too frequently, after buying and ...
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How to talk about what religious denomination you belong to without making the person uncomfortable?

I recently came into contact with some close relatives (my paternal grandparents) that I've never met and we've been talking on the phone and over email for a month or so. I sent them pictures of my ...
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How to encourage spouse to speak up more when making decisions?

We have been living together for 4 years and had our first baby 3 months ago. My wife is a very good mother. I am a straightforward guy and I speak up as soon as there is something that I think is ...
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How could I have better handled this interaction with a hired company to complete a project?

I've been dealing with a company I hired to perform a personal job (install a product on my property) for over a year ago. It's been an incredibly frustrating experience; fraught with delays, lack of ...
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How can I forewarn a schoolmate that I'll refuse to answer personal questions if we meet?

This year is my husband's 10-year high school reunion, and some schoolmates emailed him about catching up — separately from the reunion. He's grappling with deciding whether: to go to the reunion ...
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How can I tactfully refuse to tell my loving brother my home address?

I'm chummy and cozy with my brother, but he has very loose lips and can't keep secrets - peradventure because he has genetic disorders? Of course my door is always open to him! Rather, my parents are ...
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How can I stop my niece with developmental disorder from sitting behind my juice bar?

I own a small juice bar, with two seats behind the counter for me and my employees, and a piddling number of seats for customers that are usually occupied. My brother has genetic disorders and his ...
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How to ask for landlord's address to be included on lease

I'm looking to rent a basement suite. The landlord showed me the lease he had written (he argued the standard one provided by the government is too long and complicated, which I tend to agree). His ...
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How to respond to people who don't believe where you're from? [closed]

I've observed situations like this occurring to a friend of mine (let's call him X): Stranger: Where are you from? X: [insert southeast asian country here] Stranger: Are you sure? ... On ...
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How to invite a significant other to spend the night without implying sex?

Some context: I started dating my boyfriend a few weeks ago. All has gone well so far but we're both new to this so we're taking it slow. The other day, we were with some of our friends playing a ...
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How do I tell a colleague that I won’t have an intimate relationship with her?

How do I tell a colleague that I won’t have an intimate relationship with her without hurting our work relation? Background We have been working together for a few years; she was single and I was not....
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Dealing With Unwanted, Repeated, Public Advances

TL;DR Meghan, a member of a close friend group, is pushing me to attend an event with her via repeated, public statements. I find these confusing, distracting, and would like them to stop, with ...
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How to ask the parent of a child I tutor to be less hands on during our lessons?

I have been tutoring French for a very long time, this is the first time I have had a parent who sits at the table with me and their child. During the entire lesson they are interrupting by trying to ...
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How do I return inedible foods and not be charged, without offending staff? [closed]

I've had difficulties at only Chinese restaurants in Canada, Hong Kong, US, UK whenever I must return dishes. Their staff vigorously defend the dish, counter and deny my observations, get angry and ...
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How to confront a friend who lies about relationship and popularity?

This is all going to sound very judgemental to my friend, but trust me, it's not. I think I know how she feels and I understand why she would do it and I want to help her. My whole friend group does. ...
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How do I let someone from a different culture know that they are doing something rude?

I'm a client paying for my take-out at a small authentic restaurant and quite pregnant. The female asian clerk is laying it on thick with: "Are you sure there is just one in there? = Yup! Just ...
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How can I work with my family to respect my boundaries when it comes to event planning when my husband is in town?

I'm in a long distance marriage right now - my husband is American, I am Canadian. He comes to visit me periodically (and I him), and when we do visits here, my family is very insistent that we do ...
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Do I need to tip in a restaurant that has both a waiter and a cashier?

Restaurant setup: In Canada, meals under $10 a person. Usually smallish Asian, Pizza or Fish and Chips type of restaurants. Sit down, grab your own menu from the table. Waiter shows up to take the ...
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How to help my friend accept criticism?

tl;dr Bruce believes that the world is, at its core, a very nice, nonjudgmental place where people get along and don't criticize, and when this belief is contradicted he either refuses the evidence or ...
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Friendly co worker suddenly distant/rude because of different views

There is a very nice co worker at my office. Every morning he comes to my desk and we chat for about fifteen minutes about how our kids are doing and whatnot. I really enjoy these morning ...
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How to decline eating food at a restaurant?

I'm often invited to restaurants before or after certain meetings with groups of people I know, including friends. However, I don't like to eat "outside food" and never go to restaurants or get take ...
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How to approach a random person that appears to be interested in you?

A lot of the time (3-5 times a month) when I'm walking in the street or sitting on the public transit random strangers will make eye contact with me for more than 3 seconds and also smile at me in a ...
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How to greet someone in a long corridor [duplicate]

Sometimes, as I am walking, for example, in a long corridor, I will randomly make eye contact from across the corridor with someone I know personally who is walking in the opposite direction. I want ...
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How can a girl ask a heavily tattooed, tall man who jumped the line, to get in line?

My 16-year-old sister (only 5"2') was waiting in line, when a burly, sturdy, tattooed man jumped the line in front of her. No other persons were around them. She felt too scared by his brawniness ...
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How to dispel the awkwardness after getting promotion and now managing my peer who vied for the same job?

A colleague and I both went for a promotion to team leader and I got it. I am looking for advice on how to handle the awkwardness of him not obtaining the promotion and me being in a position of ...
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How to deal with someone who is critical of my perceived lack of work?

Background I am currently working as a temporary student intern at an automotive company's part depot doing jobs for the customer service department there, including updating processes and creating a ...
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Responding to people questioning my single status?

Background I am a computer programmer working as a graduate student under a biochemistry department in a university affiliated hospital. So far I have had a very successful career, having written ...
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How can I play the devil's advocate in politics without being attacked?

Background When it comes to politics I prefer to take the role of a "devil's advocate" instead of firmly entrenching myself into one political party's ideas. I do not like to disclose my own vote to ...
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How do I deal with people being overly forward on the bus?

I take the bus a lot. (I don't own a car, it's not feasible for me to do so). Mostly, I sit in my seat and I read or I check my phone, people tend to leave me to do my thing. However, in the past ...
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How to ask somone to remove a picture from social media that you look bad in [closed]

I had gone out with a few friends and one took some pictures of us. I know he took several, but for some reason he put a really bad one of me with 2 other friends on Facebook. (bad in the sense I wasn'...
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How to best approach sibling about showering & brush teeth at an earlier time, or elsewhere in Jack & Jill setting as to not wake me up?

I'm not sure if this would better belong in parenting stack I am happy to provide more information to try and help solve this. Culture context: Chinese Canadian. Problem summary: My sibling (mid 20s) ...
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How to politely tell landlord “you don't have to remind me for rent”

I have been living in this house for the last four months and always paid my rent on the first day of the month. My landlord is an old lady living in the same house with me. We have a very good ...
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How do I answer the question “why are you vegan?” honestly, without making them resent me?

I am a vegan, only for ethical reasons. It is something I'm very willing to discuss. I have deliberated about it very carefully, for a long time, and have read papers and text books on the philosophy ...
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How to decline giving personal information until you recieved some in return

I need to move and find a new home to rent. The city I live in is having a housing crisis (as declared by the mayor). I think many landlords take advantage of this. I know that they’re just trying to ...
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How to handle two friends talking to me at the same time?

I am a 19 years old male living in Canada. Sometimes, when I'm having a discussion with friends, two of them will start telling me something at the same time, each of them ignoring the fact that the ...
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How do I tell a friend I can't afford her wedding?

TL;DR – How do I tell a childhood friend (who has been spoiled her whole life) that both my parents and I most likely cannot afford to travel for her wedding (to which I am to be a bridesmaid) without ...
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How to talk to parents who undermine tutoring

I do some in-home tutoring, and this sometimes means working in a family space. However, as a tutor, I also have to create a professional setting that allows the kid to focus and recognize they're ...
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Planned to move into shared house but not allowed when someone alleged I made them uncomfortable (adults) [closed]

All names and numbers have been changed to preserve privacy Backgound: I am looking for a place to live. The end of the month is close. I viewed a room in a shared house, and after thinking about it,...
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How can I get someone to stop paying for my meal?

I have a good friend and every time we go out for a drink or dinner, he always insists on paying. That sounds good to have someone pay for you but it's actually not. For a start, it's kind of ...
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Why do men rise when a woman leaves the room? [closed]

I once read that in Canada, it is considered polite for men to rise when a woman leaves a room and men normally offer their hands to women. My question is, what is the origin of this tradition?
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Is it rude to wear a sari as a westerner to a wedding in India?

I am a Canadian woman and I will be attending a wedding in India in January. There will be Indian and Canadian people in attendance. I was wondering if it is rude (or expected) to wear a sari to the ...
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How to turn down an invitation?

My partner and I were recently invited as guests to a fairly prestigious event ($150/ticket) by someone we know. We aren't particularly close to this person, but would like to keep a relationship. ...
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How do you politely stand your ground against authority who repeatedly press a question that you declined to answer?

This questioner is positioned with authority and power in a professional context. Background An elderly relative's mental illnesses cause stuttering and awkward behavior that probably explains her ...
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How to express to my parents that I need more freedom

I'm a 14 year old boy living with both my parents. I'm often talking to my friends about something, rather it's about what they did yesterday and about what just happened. A lot of times it seems ...
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How best to conduct myself if bringing my significant other to a party where they do not know anyone?

If I am bringing my significant other (SO) to a party where they do not know anyone, and also, the people in attendance all have something in common and are gathering for a common reason - in this ...
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Asking waiters to let you eat in peace

My problem is that whenever I go to any restaurant where they serve you food, they first take your order, then they bring it and while you are eating with your mouth full of food they have to come to ...
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How to correct my boss on name pronunciation

I recently moved to a new section, and my new boss (actually, my boss's boss) has repeatedly mispronounced my last name. It isn't a tricky name, and the mispronunciation is obvious (soft 'o' instead ...
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If and how to point out wardrobe malfunction in someone of the opposite sex

Last night I was playing poker at the casino. A combination of where I was sitting, bright lighting overhead, and a poorly fitting blouse gave me a pretty full view of the inside of a dealer's shirt. ...