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How to help a 6yo girl overcome her "breast obsession"?

My daughter is 6 years old and from the day she mastered the correct pronunciation of the "br"-sound as in - you may have guessed it - the word "breast" she seems to be obsessed ...
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Family of migraine patient - how to help kids understand violent outbursts of migraine patient (mother) in response to noise

I had assumed that my wife was a bad person due to the way she behaved when my daughter cried for any reason. She would get angry and even at times hit my daughter when she cried instead of consoling ...
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How can I ask the neighbors to control their daughter's noise level?

My neighbour has a kid who shouts and cries continuously whole day and makes strange noises like barking, howling, bleating, and others. I really admire the energy of the girl, the endurance of her ...
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Difficult situation when doing homework after pressure to do tasks over Corona-Lock-Down

Long story short: For online lessons (because of the corona lockdown) I had to put pressure on my son to do his school tasks. Now the circumstances have relaxed. But we are stuck in the "pressure ...
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How to politely explain to one of our friends why we don't want to meet at his place?

So we're a pack of long time friends (15 years+) and we hang out with each other many times. The meeting place (if we don't go out to town) is one of our houses, and we rotate it (so no one is forced ...
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How to explain high sensory processing sensitivity to (own) child?

I'm a father of two children (5,3) and I happen to be "gifted" with a high sensory processing sensitivity (SPS). We also have reason to believe that this applies to our kids, too, but not to ...
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Explaining to my future child why I chose to be absent from their life [closed]

[UK] I recently discovered that a girl I had been seeing a few months ago is pregnant and has decided to keep the baby. I've told her that I'm having no part in it. I won't be signing as the father ...
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BF (35M) wants to have a baby but I don't think he's ready. OP 35F - how do I communicate this?

My boyfriend wants to have a baby, but I don't think he's ready for one. He claims he wants to be the main caregiver but he is often emotionally unavailable, either playing video games or focused on ...
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I dislike children. How can I avoid alienating friends who have had children?

I have never liked children or wanted any of my own. I understand how it feels to find something extremely cute and adore something at first sight (I get this feeling with many animals), however when ...
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How to deal with complaints of favouritism from children (family friends)?

We have two family friends between 7-15, A and B. I (early 20's) have known since they were babies, when I was just a child myself. I wouldn't say we've 'grown up together' due to the age gap, but ...
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How to talk to my landlord about a playmate of his daughter stressing me?

Background So I am living in a 3 party house, which was a generation house before 1 flat got free like 2 years ago and I moved in half a year ago (Might be relevant). My landlord and his wife live in ...
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How to let my kids believe in Santa Claus without lying to them?

I believe that the most important aspect of human morality is honestly. So I've always been... reluctant... about telling my kids Santa is coming. On the one hand, I want them to enjoy the ...
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How and when do I tell a potential partner that I do not want more kids?

I am male and in my late 30's. About three years ago, my marriage failed and since then, my now ex-wife and I are going separate ways. To make things more complicated, I have a son who was born ...
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Best way to advertise an outreach event last-minute [closed]

I work for a consulting firm and have planned and organized an outreach event at the suggestion of the managing partner. It will take place in a public library, in a meeting room. This is a free event ...
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Mitigate and discuss conflict about inclusion of my son as step-son

My wife and I have two kids, I have a son from divorce (divorced years before the second marriage). What has happened more and more recently, she seems to somehow to disapprove his existence like "ok ...
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How to get my adult son to stop criticizing his Dad (me) [closed]

Here are three sentences describing what it is that I'm looking for help with: I'm looking for a way to get across to my adult son that I can no longer tolerate his abusive behavior (criticism/...
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Convey the wish of being grandparent while acknowledging your children views [closed]

There are multiple questions about expressing to family/friends that you don't or might not want children. I personally feel that my father's side of the family didn't do a great job about ...
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Helping a child enforce boundaries with strangers

I have a four-year-old granddaughter with beautiful curly hair. I had put it in braids and was in the store with her, and an older man came up and flipped the braids, commenting on her hair. I just ...
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Telling parents that it's okay if their child doesn't kiss me

I have cousins who both have children. Whenever we see each other, my cousins always told their children to "go kiss Ælis" but the children are sometimes reluctant to kiss me (which I can ...
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Is it better to ask parents of a kid if they are OK with a gift I buy for their child?

I don't come from a western culture and I am not sure what the norms of western culture are. In western countries, when you plan on buying a gift for a kid who is not yours, do you consult with ...
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How to address a rude teenager at family gatherings? [closed]

This child (girl, approx. 13-14 yrs old) is not only unappreciative of what is given to her (across the board... regardless of the gift or the giver, she says Thank You to NO ONE, and actually ...
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How to announce to our relatives that our daughter has dementia?

We are a couple, 36/M, and 38/F, with a 13-year-old daughter, who was diagnosed with dementia on Saturday. We're from Vancouver, British Columbia in Canada. Over the past few weeks she'd been ...
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How to get my wife to accept bisexuality before our daughter comes out of the closet?

My oldest daughter is 19 and told me last halloween that she's bi. My daughter is amazingly high functioning (mentally, socially, even professionally) but is living at home at the moment because ...
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How can I show my brother that he did something wrong, without seeming angry, so that he doesn't feel afraid to make a mistake

Brief summary about myself. I work in IT and often enough people ask me to help them with their IT related issues, most often it's someone from the family or relatives. In my every day work I do a lot ...
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How to suggest alternative music for my children to sing at my grandmother's religious funeral?

My religious maternal grandmother passed away recently and my mother is involved in planning the services which will be held at a chapel and presided over by the religious minister. My mother just ...
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How to encourage a child with autism to practice reading?

I'm asking on behalf of friends of mine who have a daughter who is diagnosed with "high functioning" autism. Let's call her Jane. Jane went to a regular primary school but couldn't learn in this ...
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How to help/advise a separated couple find an agreeable solution that does the least harm to their child during their turmoil?

I suppose this might be a tough one, but this community has proven to be able to come up with good answers far beyond my imagination, so I'll give it a try. The Problem Bob and Alice have been ...
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Neighbours yelled at my wife for "telling their kids off" [closed]

In what has become an extension to Neighbor unhappy with the fact I asked his kids to return our toys My wife has just called me in tears because two of my neighbours felt it appropriate to yell at ...
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How can I talk to my brother about spanking his child?

I recently found out that my brother spanks his son, who is four. I overheard my parents talking about a recent incident where my brother spanked his child. I don't know any details other than the ...
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Neighbor unhappy with the fact I asked his kids to return our toys

My neighbour came over yesterday and addressed me in a rather aggressive tone, he complained that 'kids will be kids' and that 'my bins shouldn't be where they are'. He has never mentioned the bins ...
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I slapped my 8 year old cousin. What was a better way to handle the situation?

I am a 24 year old boy. My aunt was visiting our home. Her son is an eight year old. He is a most uncontrollable, hyperactive boy. For example, he will switch on the television, watch it from about ...
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How can I explain to a friend's child that I don't like sleepovers without parents?

I have a female friend, whom I've been friends with for over 20 years. Her 12 year old boy (I'm his godfather) is very fascinated by my virtual reality gaming setup at home, and very often and very ...
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How do I protest my child's suspension without "poisoning the well"?

My high-functioning autistic daughter was suspended from summer camp for hitting a smaller child (my daughter's in the oldest grade; everyone is smaller than she is). I agreed at the time to placate ...
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How can I invite my daughter's friends over without being odd?

My daughter is turning 4 years old in August. She has been going to preschool since September. Her class is pretty small, with only 6 kids. She's good friends with most of them. She'll be joining them ...
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Engage wife in comforting son

My wife and I have a 2 year old son. From about 2 months after he was born, I somehow become almost exclusively responsible of the night time comforting of our son. It has now reached a point that ...
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How can I explain to a parent that my decision to not have children isn't an accusation that they've been bad parents to me?

I am fully aware that there is a similar question already on this site, but I need help with a specific issue. I brought up the fact that I have no intention of having children as an offhand comment ...
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How can I tell if family members consider my unvaccinated kids a threat?

My wife and I made a conscious decision to not vaccinate our children. I'm not sure how they found out about it, but it apparently is a cause of nervous tension between us and them and apparently, we ...
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Help my mother to understand my choice when it comes to having children [duplicate]

While my mother is usually extremely understanding of my choices in life, there is one choice on which she cannot agree, and it is my decision not to have children. Each time the subject comes to the ...
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How can we tell people to stop suggesting adoption?

I am starting to fear I will never be able to have children on my own. I don't really feel like adopting is for me or my husband. How can we tell people to stop suggesting adoption? I am tired to ...
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how do I break up with my girlfriend who has 2 children and emotionally depends on me?

I have been with my girlfriend for almost a year. I decided to start the relationship knowing that she had two children. Suddenly a couple of things happened that I didn't plan. I was born in ...
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If I want a child to stop a behavior, should I talk directly to the child or to the parents?

Consider a case where a young child is doing something that directly impacts me, and most everyone would consider it reasonable to want them to stop. Here are a few real examples of things they've ...
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How do I deal with persistent and ill-behaved neighborhood children who are always coming over?

There are some neighborhood kids (3 to 4 children, ages 5-8) who are apparently bored after school and roam the block looking for people and things to play with. They recently found my home as my ...
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Persuade community staff to be more lenient on unwritten "rules" about hot tub

My wife, my children, and I arrived yesterday for a 2 week stay at a "senior" style 55+ Florida RV park with a hot tub. We are very well informed of the risks associated with children enjoying hot ...
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How to deal with unruly children that aren't yours?

I'm a 21 year old college student living with my girlfriend, her mother, and her mother's boyfriend. We've lived here, on and off, between my house and hers for the past 5 years. I don't consider this ...
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How to find out if my colleague has already had their baby and if everything is well? [closed]

I have a colleague who has not been answering an email of mine for two weeks. I know that this person is expecting a baby around now (or maybe slightly before the present date). I would like to know ...
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How to stop my ex wife from pressuring relationship between our son and my new partner

About five years ago my wife Laura and I got divorced - we kept it quite civil and even now our relationship is quite friendly. We also have a son, Steve, currently 10 years old that spends 3 days a ...
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How to tell friends that they are welcome without their kids?

My SO and I are part of a group of people, and we often spend time together. While all people in the group have partners and all the couples attend to the dinners, we are the only one without kids. ...
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Dealing with what I perceive as unreasonable demands from spouse

My wife and I have a 2.5 year old. Since she was born, my wife has been on various trips with either friends or her family (who live overseas) with the child, while I stay home at work, or to catch up ...
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How to communicate to strangers that we don't want our children to believe in Santa Claus when they ask them?

My wife and I have small children who are finally old enough to realize that December is a special time of year (ages 4 and 2). For a myriad of reasons my wife and I have decided we won't present "...
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How to tell my neighbour's child to stop throwing things at our window?

My neighbour's child, who is around 5 or 6 years old, loves to cause trouble. I have talked to our neighbours countless times to please watch their child, but they always get offended. Their child is ...
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