Questions tagged [children]

When one has to interact with kids, whether they are yours or someone else's.

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How to get my adult son to stop criticizing his Dad (me) [closed]

Here are three sentences describing what it is that I'm looking for help with: I'm looking for a way to get across to my adult son that I can no longer tolerate his abusive behavior (criticism/...
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Convey the wish of being grandparent while acknowledging your children views [closed]

There are multiple questions about expressing to family/friends that you don't or might not want children. I personally feel that my father's side of the family didn't do a great job about ...
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How to get my wife to accept bisexuality before our daughter comes out of the closet?

My oldest daughter is 19 and told me last halloween that she's bi. My daughter is amazingly high functioning (mentally, socially, even professionally) but is living at home at the moment because ...
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How can I tell if family members consider my unvaccinated kids a threat?

My wife and I made a conscious decision to not vaccinate our children. I'm not sure how they found out about it, but it apparently is a cause of nervous tension between us and them and apparently, we ...
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Helping a child enforce boundaries with strangers

I have a four-year-old granddaughter with beautiful curly hair. I had put it in braids and was in the store with her, and an older man came up and flipped the braids, commenting on her hair. I just ...
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Telling parents that it's okay if their child doesn't kiss me

I have cousins who both have children. Whenever we see each other, my cousins always told their children to "go kiss Ælis" but the children are sometimes reluctant to kiss me (which I can understand). ...
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How to encourage a child with autism to practice reading?

I'm asking on behalf of friends of mine who have a daughter who is diagnosed with "high functioning" autism. Let's call her Jane. Jane went to a regular primary school but couldn't learn in this ...
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How do I deal with other people's screaming children in restaurants?

I want to start off by saying that I'm not referring to "family friendly" restaurants or other venues where a loud, informal atmosphere might be expected. I'm specifically asking about dining ...
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Is it better to ask parents of a kid if they are OK with a gift I buy for their child?

I don't come from a western culture and I am not sure what the norms of western culture are. In western countries, when you plan on buying a gift for a kid who is not yours, do you consult with ...
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Is there a polite way to ask a kid to “move along”?

Another dog-related question, sorry. I read this question but I'm not sure it applies. My two Border Collies need/want a lot of exercise. One of the reasons I chose this neighborhood is that about ...
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How to address a rude teenager at family gatherings? [closed]

This child (girl, approx. 13-14 yrs old) is not only unappreciative of what is given to her (across the board... regardless of the gift or the giver, she says Thank You to NO ONE, and actually ...
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How to announce to our relatives that our daughter has dementia?

We are a couple, 36/M, and 38/F, with a 13-year-old daughter, who was diagnosed with dementia on Saturday. We're from Vancouver, British Columbia in Canada. Over the past few weeks she'd been ...
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If I want a child to stop a behavior, should I talk directly to the child or to the parents?

Consider a case where a young child is doing something that directly impacts me, and most everyone would consider it reasonable to want them to stop. Here are a few real examples of things they've ...
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How can I show my brother that he did something wrong, without seeming angry, so that he doesn't feel afraid to make a mistake

Brief summary about myself. I work in IT and often enough people ask me to help them with their IT related issues, most often it's someone from the family or relatives. In my every day work I do a lot ...
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How to suggest alternative music for my children to sing at my grandmother's religious funeral?

My religious maternal grandmother passed away recently and my mother is involved in planning the services which will be held at a chapel and presided over by the religious minister. My mother just ...
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How can I get my neighbour's children to take care not to scratch my car?

We have just got a new car on a lease, so are liable for any repairs that go above and beyond the usual wear and tear. I noticed two deep big scratches within the first week. After the first scratch, ...
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How can I explain to a friend's child that I don't like sleepovers without parents?

I have a female friend, whom I've been friends with for over 20 years. Her 12 year old boy (I'm his godfather) is very fascinated by my virtual reality gaming setup at home, and very often and very ...
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How to help/advise a separated couple find an agreeable solution that does the least harm to their child during their turmoil?

I suppose this might be a tough one, but this community has proven to be able to come up with good answers far beyond my imagination, so I'll give it a try. The Problem Bob and Alice have been ...
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Help my mother to understand my choice when it comes to having children [duplicate]

While my mother is usually extremely understanding of my choices in life, there is one choice on which she cannot agree, and it is my decision not to have children. Each time the subject comes to the ...
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How to approach a strategy game against a 5-10 year old child you don't know?

I saw a related question on Parenting, but this one is different, since it's a) about older children and b) not your own child. Disclaimer: This is based on the experience of a friend - I will call ...
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Neighbours yelled at my wife for “telling their kids off” [closed]

In what has become an extension to Neighbor unhappy with the fact I asked his kids to return our toys My wife has just called me in tears because two of my neighbours felt it appropriate to yell at ...
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I slapped my 8 year old cousin. What was a better way to handle the situation?

I am a 24 year old boy. My aunt was visiting our home. Her son is an eight year old. He is a most uncontrollable, hyperactive boy. For example, he will switch on the television, watch it from about ...
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How can I tell people that my girlfriend and I don't want children of our own?

Every time there's a baby involved in any sort of conversation (new parent, talking about kids, etc.), if I'm involved the question inevitably turns to me and my girlfriend, and when we plan to have ...
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How can I talk to my brother about spanking his child?

I recently found out that my brother spanks his son, who is four. I overheard my parents talking about a recent incident where my brother spanked his child. I don't know any details other than the ...
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Neighbor unhappy with the fact I asked his kids to return our toys

My neighbour came over yesterday and addressed me in a rather aggressive tone, he complained that 'kids will be kids' and that 'my bins shouldn't be where they are'. He has never mentioned the bins ...
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How do I protest my child's suspension without “poisoning the well”?

My high-functioning autistic daughter was suspended from summer camp for hitting a smaller child (my daughter's in the oldest grade; everyone is smaller than she is). I agreed at the time to placate ...
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How can I invite my daughter's friends over without being odd?

My daughter is turning 4 years old in August. She has been going to preschool since September. Her class is pretty small, with only 6 kids. She's good friends with most of them. She'll be joining them ...
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Engage wife in comforting son

My wife and I have a 2 year old son. From about 2 months after he was born, I somehow become almost exclusively responsible of the night time comforting of our son. It has now reached a point that ...
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How can I explain to a parent that my decision to not have children isn't an accusation that they've been bad parents to me?

I am fully aware that there is a similar question already on this site, but I need help with a specific issue. I brought up the fact that I have no intention of having children as an offhand comment ...
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How to have a better relationship with (soon to be) ex-wife [closed]

After a highly toxic 10+ year relationship and two children, aged 6 & 3, my wife and I separated. There was wrong on both sides, however the way she ended the relationship was particularly ...
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How can we tell people to stop suggesting adoption?

I am starting to fear I will never be able to have children on my own. I don't really feel like adopting is for me or my husband. How can we tell people to stop suggesting adoption? I am tired to ...
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how do I break up with my girlfriend who has 2 children and emotionally depends on me?

I have been with my girlfriend for almost a year. I decided to start the relationship knowing that she had two children. Suddenly a couple of things happened that I didn't plan. I was born in ...
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Should I have my child apologize to someone after he called them fat?

I was accompanying my 4-year-old son into the bathroom where there happened to be a very large individual. At the sight of him, my son proceeded to say (very loudly), "Daddy, that man is really fat!" ...
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How do I deal with persistent and ill-behaved neighborhood children who are always coming over?

There are some neighborhood kids (3 to 4 children, ages 5-8) who are apparently bored after school and roam the block looking for people and things to play with. They recently found my home as my ...
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How to communicate to strangers that we don't want our children to believe in Santa Claus when they ask them?

My wife and I have small children who are finally old enough to realize that December is a special time of year (ages 4 and 2). For a myriad of reasons my wife and I have decided we won't present "...
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Persuade community staff to be more lenient on unwritten “rules” about hot tub

My wife, my children, and I arrived yesterday for a 2 week stay at a "senior" style 55+ Florida RV park with a hot tub. We are very well informed of the risks associated with children enjoying hot ...
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How to deal with unruly children that aren't yours?

I'm a 21 year old college student living with my girlfriend, her mother, and her mother's boyfriend. We've lived here, on and off, between my house and hers for the past 5 years. I don't consider this ...
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How to stop my ex wife from pressuring relationship between our son and my new partner

About five years ago my wife Laura and I got divorced - we kept it quite civil and even now our relationship is quite friendly. We also have a son, Steve, currently 10 years old that spends 3 days a ...
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How to find out if my colleague has already had their baby and if everything is well? [closed]

I have a colleague who has not been answering an email of mine for two weeks. I know that this person is expecting a baby around now (or maybe slightly before the present date). I would like to know ...
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Can I correct other people's children in front of them?

I am a childless female 20-something who occasionally comes in to contact with other people's children. This happens anywhere really, at work, stores, museums, movie theatres, just around the ...
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How do I tell my kids it's time to get off of the computer?

I want to be a nice dad, and not have to yell at them to get off their computers. I asked them 2 times already, and they reply "Not right now, dad". They are on it for about 8 hours a day, and that ...
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How to tell friends that they are welcome without their kids?

My SO and I are part of a group of people, and we often spend time together. While all people in the group have partners and all the couples attend to the dinners, we are the only one without kids. ...
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Dealing with what I perceive as unreasonable demands from spouse

My wife and I have a 2.5 year old. Since she was born, my wife has been on various trips with either friends or her family (who live overseas) with the child, while I stay home at work, or to catch up ...
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Should I let my wife's little brother win at chess? [duplicate]

My wife has a half-brother who's 14. He and his family live in another state, and we see them about one weekend a year. He also enjoys chess. Now, at the risk of sounding arrogant, I'm pretty good at ...
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How to tell my neighbour's child to stop throwing things at our window?

My neighbour's child, who is around 5 or 6 years old, loves to cause trouble. I have talked to our neighbours countless times to please watch their child, but they always get offended. Their child is ...
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How to act when people bring a baby to work?

I am uncomfortable interacting with babies because I personally don't find them cute or interesting to interact with. I also am not good at faking positive interactions with babies, because I really ...
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How do I talk to someone through a translator?

I am a private piano teacher. I recently accepted a student who has only been living in the US for a couple weeks and does not know English. Her mother sits next to us during the lessons and ...
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Should I demand to be treated equally to my siblings by my relatives? [closed]

Inspired by a related question: How should I handle disagreeing with my sisters cash cow milking? First, my situation. I have a good education (tertiary education) and a decent and very demanding ...
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Should I join others in raising the pitch of my voice when talking to babies?

In The Netherlands, Sweden, and the United Kingdom, I have noticed that when some people talk to babies, they raise the pitch of their voice. Apparently it's the same in other cultures. Apparently ...
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I'm younger - how can I get adults to take me seriously? [closed]

I've been in multiple situations where I feel like my age (early teens) or my height didn't really serve me well, whether in how the other person spoke with me (by which I mean attitude/tone), whether ...