Questions tagged [compliments]

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On what to compliment someone with anorexia in order to improve their body image?

I'm in an online support group for people with anxiety, depression and these kinds of things (I already talked about it in this question). The other day, someone with anorexia (her words) posted a ...
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How to tactfully respond to compliments when I don't feel I deserve them?

I'm the most senior developer on my current team, and I often get asked for help by my teammates. Sometimes when they ask for help, it's with something that I think is fairly obvious or easy to do. ...
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How can I let my male friends know how much they mean to me?

I (male in my mid-20s) recently found a girlfriend and another really close female friend, which I highly value in my life. I found that I can openly share my feelings with both of them, and after ...
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Complimenting a complete stranger on public transportation

The other day, I was in the subway when I saw a bag with a very funny joke on it. The joke made me smile, so I wanted to compliment the person wearing it (my thought was that they brightened my day ...
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How to compliment a woman’s makeup?

Situation: Yesterday I was instructed to go to a small conference several of my colleagues were attending. It was short in duration and gave everyone the opportunity to socialize a bit after it was ...
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Compliment person on apparent loss of weight [closed]

What is the best way to compliment someone who noticeable appears to have lost weight? Also, is this appropriate if the other person has not vocalized that they were attempting weight loss so one is ...
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How can I let my team leader know she is appreciated

I work as a software developer for a company that has recently started to use agile practices. For those unaware of the term, part of the agile process is to have retrospective meetings where the team ...
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Complimenting a female co-worker without coming across as flirting?

I am asking this question for a friend. My friend is straight, male, and married to a woman and loyal to his wife. He is a somewhat socially awkward person. He works in an office of software ...
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How to respond to a stranger's compliments on my themed t-shirt when I am unfamiliar with the theme?

The compliments I receive about my choice of clothes are from my relatives and close friends, which I can just say "thanks!" without sounding disinterested or off-putting as they know me well and ...
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How do I tell between compliments and 'ball' jokes while juggling?

While training juggling in a park, from behind me I heard a female's voice say, "You are really good with your balls." The vocal inflection was that of a compliment, but she didn't reference juggling ...
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How to respond to “empty compliments” after many years of playing along?

I am currently a church musician (pianist) and have been at the same church for many years. There is this one guy who quite frequently walks over to me while I'm playing, always making comments ...
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What to answer to a compliment when you don't understand the intention [closed]

Context The other day at work, one of my female coworker from another team and I were working on a common task on my computer (we were discussing about our respective understanding of the problem we ...
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How to gracefully accept an implied/indirect compliment?

Sometimes I'll be talking with someone who will slip an "indirect" compliment into the conversation. Two examples: (1) I was visiting my doctor for a somewhat "childish" (for lack of a better word) ...
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How do appreciate people's creations that take very little effort [closed]

I find that I generally appreciate people's creations the more effort I think was required. To give hopefully an easy to understand example, if someone offers me a drink of tap water I would ...
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Is it socially acceptable to dismiss a compliment? [closed]

Sometimes I get compliments like: "good job on making that website" or that I look nice or something. I often say that much more people look better or I could have done the site better, or even saying ...
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What is the smartest way to wave-off a compliment and not look arrogant

Sometimes, when you're least expecting it, you get complimented... That happened to me today... In my class, I was busy solving questions, when my teacher suddenly said "There's also some people in ...
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How to politely turn down my surprise birthday celebration at work?

I have been working for a company for more than five years. It is a fairly small company with less than ten employees. Yesterday, I overheard one of my colleagues discussing about a surprise party ...
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I do art. When people say “draw me”, do I include their physical appearance flaws? [closed]

So I draw little caricature-doodles for fun and am decently good at it. Sometimes people ask me (very casually, not for pay or anything) to draw them. What if this person is overweight or has an ...
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How to deal with an employer's backhanded compliments?

This is no longer a problem, as he has moved on and I have retired, but I still don't know how it could/should have been handled. I'll write it in the present tense, though. My employer in the ...
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Is it rude to compliment Northern/Western European girls on their appearance? [closed]

In countries like China, Japan, South Korea (the three countries I'm most familiar with), it is quite common, though a few feminists here and there don't like it, that men mention a girl's appearance ...
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Appropriate response to compliments that come across as rude?

I get a lot of strange compliments on my weight and I do not think I have ever been able to sort out an appropriate response. I get compliments about my weight (and questions on how I stay so thin ...