Questions tagged [conflicts]

For questions with regards to conflicts, such as how to deal with them or how to get involved with one. This tag is typically used for situations where there is already a conflict. If your question covers a potential conflict (possibly about to happen), please use the conflict-aversion tag.

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Dealing with somebody who's ignoring my very existence

Background I have a group of friends, and we've known each other for about 7 years now. We once all were colleagues. One of these friends, Alice, has an autism spectrum disorder. This friend got ...
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How can I handle my father challenging everything I say?

I live with my parents. My father likes to challenge nearly everything I say, up to the point of ridiculousness. I can prove many of the things he challenges but not immediately. In most cases his ...
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How can I stop enabling my brothers without my mom exploding?

My parents are away from home for little private holidays on a quite regular basis (once every 2/3 months), where they leave me home alone with my 2 brothers for 2-5 days. I'm a 26-year-old female, my ...
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How can I stand by my SO when she stresses out in an aggressive way?

My girlfriend and I have polar ways of handling stress and conflict. I come from a very conflict-averse family: when one parent is angry for something (not necessarily for reasons related to the ...
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In non-violent communication, what to do when “I feel…” statements fail?

Non-Violent Communication seems to be a common piece of advice when it comes to conflict resolution. So far as I understand, NVC promotes the use of "I-statements": saying things like, I feel X ...
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How do I deal with someone people think is funny, but I think is mean?

There is someone that dropped out of college but still visits our friend group about once a month who tries to be funny by making intentionally hurtful comments to 2 or 3 different people in the group ...
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How should someone apologize when both parties were wrong?

The situation: I had been involved for several years in a group my child participates in and I was put in charge of a subgroup. Realizing I needed more adult assistance, I asked for help from an ...
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How do I learn to pick my battles a little better? [closed]

So... As I'm sure many of you have noticed by now, I have a nasty habit of locking onto an issue and not letting it go. I asked my brother about this, and he seemed to think I was just born this way....
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Non-tech savvy roommate thinks I hacked into his computer because when he scans wifi it shows my printer connected

My roommate is a bit paranoid about security and privacy. He’s also not very good with computers. He told me he got a message that his gmail account had been compromised, and recently his laptop has ...
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How can I get my upstairs neighbors to stop stomping on my ceiling?

I've read about asking neighbors to be more quiet but none of the answers help my situation. I live in an older apartment building and my neighbor(s) upstairs tread very heavily when walking on their ...
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How can my cousin restore harmony between his Indian mother and American mother-in-law?

Someone asked me in a comment, what is my role in all this? Good question. I am not at all close with Aunt but I am close with my cousin (son of Aunt) and he needs help to keep his mother and mother-...
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How do I respectfully ask my co-worker if he had received false negative feedback made on my account?

Recently I have noticed that the relationship I had built with a co-worker seemed to be eroding. One of the possible reasons might be my manager giving false negative feedback to him on my account. ...
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Housemates, setting boundaries early

Background I previously asked, How can I ask my housemate to put my things back? Someone suggested that I could have avoided ever needing to solve this problem by establishing boundaries early on. I'...
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Methods of resolving highly emotional conflicts

With my significant other, occasionally emotional conflict arises where one of us feels like their needs aren't being met. Under normal circumstances, one of us could just make an extra effort to ...
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How can I extend an olive branch, but also reinforce that another's behavior is not okay?

Some background: I started a wood working hobby a few months ago of which the loudest tools are my stereo, a table saw, and a router. I've had some passive interest from neighbors as they drive by, ...
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How to deal with someone who always feels treated disrespectfully?

I already asked this question before, and it was deleted for being off-topic (also because I did not check back for too long, and thus was unable to adjust my post according to the comments / the ...
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How can I ask my housemate to put my things back?

Summary A housemate of mine is doing something to my property which I don't like. Please help me in finding a solution towards the greater issue of solving housemate disputes. Some mornings, a ...
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How to handle an unreasonably hostile individual when avoiding them/the situation is not an option?

This question was inspired by the events that took place on the Southwest flight from Portland to Sacramento where a woman became unruly and threatened to kill everyone on the plane when she was ...
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How to ask close family and friends to stop casually joking about things that are hurtful to you?

I am an outgoing person. I have no problem interacting with people and making friends, nor do I have an ego problem. But I have recently noticed that sometimes when I am just hanging out with family ...
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How to respond to a flat-earther? [closed]

I wanted to provide evidence for a friend who recently shocked me with her views that the Elon Musk car in space was a fake. My answer to her that I trust people who specialize in the field to know ...