Questions tagged [conversations]

Questions about having conversations with other people, and how to achieve certain things when having them. This can be covering (or avoiding) certain topics, starting them, keeping them going or bringing them to a close.

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Dealing with Extremely Chatty Housemates

I am a graduate student at the moment and sharing a house with undergraduate students. What I've noticed is that a lot of undergraduate students who are studying let's say relatively soft subjects ...
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How do I tell my PhD supervisor I want to drop out?

I am going to start my PhD degree this week and I realised that, for personal and professional reasons, I don't want to do it. Personal reasons: I live in a foreign country and I don't like living ...
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What if I could prevent a conversation from turning into pure guesswork?

I've had some serious stuff to handle over the last month or so. And it sadly wasn't the stuff you could keep easily quiet. To make things worse, the main actor that created this mess has apparently a ...
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Repel flattery used to start conversations

I get annoyed with this. People start conversations with flattery like: you have got this, you have got that you cover 360 degrees. which I know is flattery with inferior motives. I get irritated ...
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How do I encourage my literature penpal to share her opinions more?

My penpal and I have become great friends. We email about every three days, sometimes more, and in just a few months she's turned out to be one of the most positive relationships in my life. She's ...
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How to respond to a particular aspect of Indian culture?

In my line of work, I spend lots of time meeting people from various companies. Often, especially when the companies are tech companies, my counterpart will be Indian. One useful skill in working with ...
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Buying an expensive item from an acquaintance — making an offer

I want to buy an item from an acquaintance---we work in the same field roughly and have hung out a few times, I might refer to them as a friend loosely. The list price at a local shop is $1,050 pre-...
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How can I deal with a large age gap between me and coworkers?

How can one handle age discrepancy between a local clique and self? For background, this is well pre-COVID-19 situation, so it does not include the pandemic as a factor. Around two years ago, I worked ...
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How to open up a discussion with my parents about their funeral and last wishes?

My parents are in their 80s with degrading health. Visits to the hospital for various medical reasons have been increasing. I absolutely hate to admit this, but at some point, they might not come home ...
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I have trouble making new friends

I take art classes non dedicated to school and there are a lot of other teens there but I have trouble making friends because everyone is doing their thing and I don't know when is the right time or ...
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How to avoid conflict when telling your SO that you are going to start searching for work in another country?

Context I've been in a relationship for the last two years, we are in our late 20's and during the last year we have had some talks about future, we have different views for the next five years, she ...
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How to decline answering the question “what age are you” without making the conversation awkward

Sometimes people ask me how old I am, I think just to make conversation or get to know me better. I don't know why but it seems to be an increasingly common question. If I don't know the person well I'...
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How to politely address the rude accusations being thrown your way?

I don't know if the title of this post is explanatory and descriptive or not, but I shall be giving a detailed insight of my problem below. Situation: So there is this committee in our college who ...
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How to avoid being manipulated when asking for someones preference?

So this question is about something I every now and then generally am facing, but it happens especially frequent, when I am just getting to know someone better i.e. having a first or second date. When ...
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How can I convince my sister's husband to switch to boxer shorts?

At a recent family gathering, my younger sister asked me for help. She and her husband have been trying to conceive a child but have been unsuccessful. After going to a fertility doctor, they got ...
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How to motivate my sibling with her scheduled admission test?

My sibling took a test and got a low grade. While it's not certain whether she'll get into uni or not, she knows that she can take a second one. Problem is she is not putting enough effort preparing ...
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I accidentally mentioned my hourly salary to my hairdresser, is that bad? [closed]

During small talk with my hairdresser I was talking about an upcoming job interview (which was the reason I went to the hairdresser), and then I accidentally mentioned what I was going to earn per ...
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How to resolve a conflict between the beliefs of establishment scientists/researchers and my evidence?

So I've had this computer architecture idea for a while. I've made some other posts about this on academia and may make one on EE stackexchange, and I hope I don't come off as bitter. The thing is, I ...
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How can I be left alone during the work day without looking awkward or offensive?

I am not a total introvert, as I am very social and stuff but when I am working during breaks or on transportation I want to be like an introvert. I guess there is a word for that which is ambivert. ...
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Preventing certain topics from being raised by a close relative

My friend (I got her consent to ask this question here) is currently dealing with major depression and anxiety issues (she is currently on therapy and medication), which started after a messy breakup -...
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How should I approach old contacts/mentors for work opportunities & references?

I am at a point in my career where I'm looking for new opportunities and am thinking of switching streams to research. Most such opportunities require you to have references from past mentors/teachers....
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How can I bring good news to a partner who is professionally not as successful?

I have some good news I want to share with my partner. It's nothing too major. However, they have been struggling with their career and self-image, often drawing comparisons to me, as we are in the ...
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How to tell my friends to forget all our past conversations and trust me from now on?

I am 21 years of age and I've been a stupid teller of lies in my past. I've almost never lied in situations where it can be hurtful or destructive. I usually have had spun yarns about past life ...
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How to deal with my project manager?

I've been a software developper at an IT company for the last 3.5 years now and I've pretty much enjoyed it so far. About 9 months ago, I've asked to work on another project as my former attributions ...
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Can't get through to someone who needs help

I've known someone through a social activity group for about a year. At first he seemed a bit odd, but more or less harmless. He's a smart and funny guy and it can be good talking with him in short ...
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Why people don't take their responsibilities

I have a brother, 17 years old. He never likes the school. He doesn't do any homework, repeats courses, and he remains the same. He doesn't eat well, and only wants to talk with their friends. I've ...
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How to communicate face-to-face with a person who never stops talking and listen?

I have a colleague at work who when speaking will keep talking without taking a breath AT ALL. I recorded our last call and checked the time he was talking vs. the time I was talking. He was talking ...
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Figuring out interesting questions in friendly or romantic conversations

How can I figure out which questions are interesting and will be pleasant for the person to whom they are addressed to answer? I am a person who has an extreme problem conveying what he wants to ...
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How to tell friends I am looking to move away?

I am 24, I have been in my job since graduating, and while I am well settled, I don't want to live here for the rest of my life and so I am looking for a job abroad. I have a group of friends that I ...
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How can I politely explain that I don't want corrections on a Chinese short story I wrote and want to share?

I wrote a short story in Chinese, which is a language I'm learning. I want to share it with my friends (here in China, on Chinese.SE, and on Facebook) for people to enjoy (and hopefully inspire me to ...
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Active listening in casual conversation: why does it not work?

I’m on the spectrum. Language doesn’t always come as naturally to me as to others. I often have a need to confirm I understand the conversation partner, for which I use active listening techniques ...
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How to talk to a friend about her concerning social media posts?

Recently one of my friends has been writing concerning posts on her social media. She said something like "my life has always been so hard", and "what's the point of living if there is so much ...
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How to cope with my wife's unfinished plans? [closed]

Me and my wife are married for almost 10 years. One thing that bothers me is that my wife makes a lot of plans but never finishes them, and this puts a lot of financial and mental burden on us. Some ...
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How do I discuss boundaries and moving out with my son?

I am a mother, I need to talk with my son, let's call him Jay, about moving out. He is 28 and has had severe depression over the years. He left college after the 1st year and has had several jobs. To ...
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Recovering from stumbling over words

There are times when I'm telling a story to friends, having a discussion in a meeting or giving a presentation when I'll stumble over my words. This may result in a word coming out sounding like ...
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How to know when a conversation is over, and how to end it?

This happens to me a lot at work. I'm in a conversation with a coworker and I can't tell the difference between a pause/change topics and when the conversation is over. I'll frequently start walking ...
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How to avoid telling people about my job? [duplicate]

New people who I meet always ask what I do for work. This question is normal and polite to ask, but I don't always want to tell people what I do for the following reasons: My job is unusual, which ...
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How to non-rudely exit or change the subject of a conversation where someone is wittering

Sometimes I find myself on the receiving end of what I call "wittering," or for lack of a better term verbal diarrhea. This is essentially where someone will start talking at length, often ...
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What to say to someone going to a funeral they are looking forward to?

When a family member or friend is going to a funeral for someone they deeply hated (and have practically been celebrating their death), what do you say to sign off a conversation on the topic? Have ...
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How to politely ask a parent to not say something about me in public?

On three occasions (so far) my father has blurted out a phrase along the lines of "my son works as an X. he makes really good money. Tell him/her how much you make", then he looks at me. The first ...
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How to make amends when you completely misread someone's intention?

I am playing an audiogame. I am killing some animals in the forest area of the game in order to achiev a milestone. I am the only one in this area. Suddenly a new guy appears (called x). I could tell ...
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How to talk to someone who is interfering with my parenting?

I am an introvert and recently moved into a house where I live with my wife's brothers as their mom has recently died. The elder brother of my wife is very cocky and proud and yet does nothing. He is ...
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How to get a friend to understand I'm not trying to be right, but just have a conversation?

Sometimes, I talk with a friend about stuff, and then if at any point I disagree on something, or perhaps correct, or add information to something he said, he tends to become defensive, and responds ...
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How to politely decline a personal service without offending the servicer?

Background I am blind. I work as a software developer in a company. I hate all kinds of gatherings. If I have a choice, I would spend my time alone with a computer. Situation I was attending my ...
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How to talk to someone crying alone in the airport? [closed]

I witnessed a lady bursting in tears while using the phone (I assume she was conversing with someone via text), at the gate. Particularly, this happened in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil. She was sitting on ...
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How to encourage a great-aunt with dementia to talk about her past instead of reiterating the same story?

This Christmas, we're going to not only have my grandparents, but also two siblings of my grandmother join our family for dinner. The great-uncle is often fine, he's still very active, has plenty of ...
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Wife hanging out with her brothers, makes husband jealous

I have a friend who is recently married. My friend loves both her husband and her brothers. Frequently, she goes out with her husband and her brothers for a movie night or shopping. During these ...
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How to stay as the well-wisher/friend without escalating her feeling for me?

I used to have a transwoman friend who was waiting to become financially strong before thinking about transitioning. I was going through some stressful times and we used to discuss our issues. She was ...
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A researcher offered me to reach out when applying in their lab, how much help can I ask/expect from them? [closed]

I am currently in the process of applying to graduate school in the US. Earlier this year at a professional conference, I met a research scientist in one of my top choice university labs who told me I ...
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How to participate in group conversations as an outsider?

Background I moved about 1000 miles from home after graduating college, and most of my friends are scattered all over the US. I'm not an extremely social person, so I didn't make many new friends ...

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