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Questions tagged [conversations]

Questions about having conversations with other people, and how to achieve certain things when having them. This can be covering (or avoiding) certain topics, starting them, keeping them going or bringing them to a close.

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What do I need to learn to become the same interesting person as I am while texting? [on hold]

Okay, without bragging, I have noticed that I am more interesting, humble, captivating and impressive when I am texting than during face to face conversations. Honestly, I don't fake myself when I am ...
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How to respond to people who don't believe where you're from? [on hold]

I've observed situations like this occurring to a friend of mine (let's call him X): Stranger: Where are you from? X: [insert southeast asian country here] Stranger: Are you sure? ... On ...
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How to approach a person that does not respond to me after I was potentially rude to them?

I am an 18-year-old German, I live in a small (~100 citizens) town neighboring a somewhat bigger (~2000 citizens) town. We have our own small local fire-station but we do not do regular training. To ...
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How can I again be on friendly terms with a girl I have a crush on since she's avoiding me after I gave her a small gift?

I've met a girl in my department at university, and although I wasn't initially interested in her, she would often laugh at my dumbest jokes and flash me unwarranted smiles, so I thought perhaps she ...
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How can I talk to a friend about his behaviour before distancing myself from him?

I have been friends with Bob for more than a decade. I recently realized that we both changed in different ways in the past years. Now I dislike his behavior more and more, to the point where pretty ...
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How to tactfully respond to compliments when I don't feel I deserve them?

I'm the most senior developer on my current team, and I often get asked for help by my teammates. Sometimes when they ask for help, it's with something that I think is fairly obvious or easy to do. ...
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How to support a friend when you disagree with their choices?

Background I (M) have a very close friend (F) who has recently been affected by an autoimmune disorder. Doctors' responses have been, essentially, 'well, we don't know why this happened but this is ...
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How to deal with a friend that thinks he is always right? [closed]

I have a friend who I got to know through playing video games. I've known him for about 7 years now and have met him in person about 14 times. We've been actively playing together for 4 years and ...
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How do I talk to someone I've had issues with before?

Last year a girl I go to school with found me annoying. She didn't have any grudges, it was just "I wouldn't choose to sit next to him." This year she doesn't find me annoying, and I have been tring ...
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How to stop reoccuring conflict in family home

Context: I am an early 20's British Male. I moved home after University and am suffering from somewhat severe depression. As I got towards graduating, my mother suggested I moved home instead of ...
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How do I get comfortable around boys? [closed]

I grew up in a family where most of us are girls. I have a sister and a little brother. My Dad started working abroad when I was 7 years old and only comes home once a year. We communicated most at ...
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Asking a retired soldier about their experiences

I know an elderly guy through a volunteering program that helps charities. He seems rather kind but I don’t talk to him often. I know when he was younger, he served on the American forces and helped ...
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How do I tell my internship supervisor that I want to start my next task?

So I am currently working on my internship. My Supervisor gave me a task where I have to do a certain System as my first task. I'm almost done with the system, however, I encountered a problem where I ...
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How to avoid semantic noise during a regular conversation?

Semantic noise refers to using grammar or (technical) language that the person you're talking with cannot (clearly) understand. I keep running into situations where I feel I am ruining a conversation ...
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How can I tactfully point out that someone misunderstood me?

Yesterday at work I had the same misunderstanding with two different co-workers. I'm working on a website with both an English and Spanish version. I explained over Slack that I found the resource ...
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How to tell my manager that I am lacking a work assignment while not making my colleague look bad?

I am in a new job for a few months now. I just recently finished all my training projects and I'm now waiting for new instructions on how to proceed. The colleague responsible for training me has been ...
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How can I make it clear that a conversation with a friend should stay private?

I recently had a long personal talk with a friend. Shortly thereafter, I found out that my friend had shared details of our conversation with one of his other friends (who is an acquaintance of mine)....
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How to tell a stranger that the way I wish to educate my child is none of his/her business?

Consider the following scenario: I'm taking my kid (5 years old) to a coffeeshop and we do some 'math problems'. By math problems I mean that I explain him about the numbers, addition, counting and so ...
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Asking an update from a friend who agreed to help me but who didn't respond me last time

I have a friend who agreed to help me on something half a year ago. Around the winter holidays, last time we chatted, I told him I was ready to implement my plan but he told me that he was upset ...
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Informing friend their girlfriend might be pregnant

Background I have a friend I'll call Hamlet that I've known for quite awhile through school. He also has a girlfriend I'll call Ophelia that he's been dating for over 3 years. I've known Ophelia for ...
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How can I tell my friend to chill out?

I have a friend (we'll call them Dallas) who gets frustrated very easily. Not mad, perhaps, but frustrated and short-tempered as a result of some minor incident. A recent example is that we went to a ...
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Roommates go on witch hunts over petty grievances and it stresses me out

I live in a house shared with several other roommates. I find some go on witch hunts and ask loaded questions intended to get someone in trouble. For example, I've got: "Did you use this pan last?", ...
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How to tell foreigners they don't need to speak English when near me?

Background At my university we have a library building for students to meet other students and discuss/study amongst themselves. It's rather large and people from all sorts of backgrounds can be ...
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How to start a conversation with an introvert/nerdy classmate?

About me I am a 16-year-old introverted boy and rarely talk to girls (if ever). I like math, awkward in any conversation 90% of the time, am Asian, not very good-looking. Story I go to the school ...
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How to argue for a point of view without appearing like I am sharing that view?

A little Background first: Due to events in my past I am very self aware and practiced a lot, trying to understand motivations of others without letting my personal views/motivation induce bias into ...
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How to dodge a question you don't want to answer smoothly, without coming across as dismissive or abrupt?

Recently, I was in a conversation with family members, siblings, in laws, etc. We are all Americans, and all of the same generation. Someone asked, "What would you do if so-and-so (a family member) ...
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How do I introduce my new name to my friends?

I am Max and I am a 19 year old college student from Spain. I had a very troubled childhood laced with mental illness and bullying. I have since moved on but I feel like my birth name (not included ...
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How to discuss future with disengaged and possibly depressed partner?

This is my first question on the Interpersonal Skills StackExchange. I have browsed through a number of earlier questions regarding identifying and approaching depression but I have not quite found ...
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How to tell people to stop aggrandizing my allergies?

Background I’m a special li’l’ person in that I’m allergic to a lot of foods. This includes... All types of nuts Milk, eggs, cheese; all dairy products Avocado... especially on toast :( Gluten Only ...
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How do I talk to my girlfriend about pitching in financially when we go out? [closed]

We have been together for 6 months. We are far away. We meet on the weekends. I have been to paying, but now I think it's time to share. We also talk about living together. How can I discuss this ...
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How to tell a patient I don’t want to discuss a personal detail?

I work an introductory job as a technician in a busy hospital. I manage equipment, conduct various tests on patients, and record information I obtain. Because I’m directly working with the patients, ...
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Asking questions about sexism without sounding like I'm… 'part of the problem'?

Background I'm a cis white male, and I have never directly witnessed any kind of sexism in my academic world, even though I hear that it is a very real problem in this precise context. I've heard ...
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How to communicate to friend that his ideas most likely won't work

I have a good friend. He has a few startup ideas and is actively pursuing all of them - he set up companies and got a few people to join him on no salary, pure equity basis. I think his approach won'...
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How to politely decline an equipment rent request?

Recently, my acquaintance asked me to do him a favor. He wants to borrow my ski googles for a week-end (2 days). I don't really want to lend them to him, because we are not close at all, furthermore ...
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How to compliment a woman’s makeup?

Situation: Yesterday I was instructed to go to a small conference several of my colleagues were attending. It was short in duration and gave everyone the opportunity to socialize a bit after it was ...
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How can I discuss beer without sounding like a snob?

I like beer. I like drinking it, discovering it, and I just recently started brewing it. Needless to say, one of my common topics of conversation is beer (of course there are plenty more, and beer is ...
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Foreign Friend wants me to go to the hospital with him in order to translate

We are in Japan, and one of my British friends got neck pain and needs to go to the hospital. The injury occurred a few month ago and recently he asked me to go to the hospital with him. First he went ...
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How to designate, that I'd prefer having a conversation in english, when someone aproaches me in my native language?

Given an international (work-) environment, I have plenty of coworkers1 not speaking German. It happened already many times to me, that I was having a English conversation with someone not speaking ...
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How can I get a drunk person to understand that I don't want to talk to them?

Today I was busing coding/programming in a bar/pub, had my headphones in (as I always do), trying to concentrate on my work. Around 2 PM an obviously-drunk man walks in and orders a beer, then starts ...
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Taking space and engaging in casual group conversations [closed]

I often have difficulties taking space in casual group conversations, like when I go to the pub after work with a couple of friends or similar, even though I'm completely comfortable with the company. ...
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How to tactfully chase up free work from a friend

Some time ago an architect friend (who lives in a different part of the country to me) very kindly offered to draw up the plans for a house extension for free (I did offer to pay). So in short, there ...
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How to say to my ex that I understand her? [closed]

Background 3 years ago I dated with Clara, my ex-girlfriend. Her situation (borderline personality disorder + Taoism + her own personality and ability) makes her worldview quite unique, and when I ...
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How can I ask my flatmate why she's upset after I mentioned feeling like a third wheel?

A few days ago my flatmate [22, F] and me [26, M] went to a party. She was asking me which of two guys she should hook up with. It was more jokingly, at least I thought and she also told me it's just ...
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How to start or keep up a conversation with a friend or crush

I am currently studying in a high school, and I have several friends. Among them is a girl I like. We have several common interests e.g. gaming, and we're on very good terms and talk a bunch in real ...
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Is it acceptable to intrude a celebrity's conversation, if so, how to be tactful?

Recently, I was on a public book launch connected with an intellectual debate. There were many famous people whose face I know from the news, many of them I very much respect but have no actual ...
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How to gracefully ask HOA residents about their experiences?

I am currently looking for a condominium and would like to ask the residents within the HOA (Home Owner Association) building about their experiences with said HOA. This most likely involves knocking ...
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How to reply politely to someone asking too many vague questions?

I have a roommate who asks a lot of questions. Most of them are on topics that are more a matter of opinion, such as religion and politics. He is from Colombia and lots of things are new to him, but I ...
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How to politely tell my girlfriend that I want to live on my own for some time

Background I am 24 and my girlfriend is 25, we have been dating for 4 years now. She is from a smaller town, moved to the city for study about 6 years ago, I've been living here for my whole life. ...
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How do I get my flat mate to clean up after herself?

I can't live with this situation any more. Every Morning I enter the kitchen there is a huge mess. Dirty pots, plates and food leftovers. I am really not that fussy but I appreciate a general ...
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By what ways can I seek attention of my friends to explore business oppotunities? [closed]

We are 4 close friends and all are well settled and prosper. I am initiating business proposals among us but the problem is none of them takes the conversation seriously. However, they all say that ...