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Questions tagged [conversations]

Questions about having conversations with other people, and how to achieve certain things when having them. This can be covering (or avoiding) certain topics, starting them, keeping them going or bringing them to a close.

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Worried about girlfriend lifestyle changes

My girlfriend has been experimenting with different lifestyle changes lately, which I think is not only amazing, but an important element in growth. I would like to support her through all these ...
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How to argue for a point of view without appearing like I am sharing that view?

A little Background first: Due to events in my past I am very self aware and practiced a lot, trying to understand motivations of others without letting my personal views/motivation induce bias into ...
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How to dodge a question you don't want to answer smoothly, without coming across as dismissive or abrupt?

Recently, I was in a conversation with family members, siblings, in laws, etc. We are all Americans, and all of the same generation. Someone asked, "What would you do if so-and-so (a family member) ...
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How do I introduce my new name to my friends?

I am Max and I am a 19 year old college student from Spain. I had a very troubled childhood laced with mental illness and bullying. I have since moved on but I feel like my birth name (not included ...
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How to discuss future with disengaged and possibly depressed partner?

This is my first question on the Interpersonal Skills StackExchange. I have browsed through a number of earlier questions regarding identifying and approaching depression but I have not quite found ...
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How to tell people to stop aggrandizing my allergies?

Background I’m a special li’l’ person in that I’m allergic to a lot of foods. This includes... All types of nuts Milk, eggs, cheese; all dairy products Avocado... especially on toast :( Gluten Only ...
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How do I talk to my girlfriend about pitching in financially when we go out? [closed]

We have been together for 6 months. We are far away. We meet on the weekends. I have been to paying, but now I think it's time to share. We also talk about living together. How can I discuss this ...
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How to tell a patient I don’t want to discuss a personal detail?

I work an introductory job as a technician in a busy hospital. I manage equipment, conduct various tests on patients, and record information I obtain. Because I’m directly working with the patients, ...
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Asking questions about sexism without sounding like I'm… 'part of the problem'?

Background I'm a cis white male, and I have never directly witnessed any kind of sexism in my academic world, even though I hear that it is a very real problem in this precise context. I've heard ...
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How to communicate to friend that his ideas most likely won't work

I have a good friend. He has a few startup ideas and is actively pursuing all of them - he set up companies and got a few people to join him on no salary, pure equity basis. I think his approach won'...
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How to politely decline an equipment rent request?

Recently, my acquaintance asked me to do him a favor. He wants to borrow my ski googles for a week-end (2 days). I don't really want to lend them to him, because we are not close at all, furthermore ...
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How to compliment a woman’s makeup?

Situation: Yesterday I was instructed to go to a small conference several of my colleagues were attending. It was short in duration and gave everyone the opportunity to socialize a bit after it was ...
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How can I discuss beer without sounding like a snob?

I like beer. I like drinking it, discovering it, and I just recently started brewing it. Needless to say, one of my common topics of conversation is beer (of course there are plenty more, and beer is ...
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Foreign Friend wants me to go to the hospital with him in order to translate

We are in Japan, and one of my British friends got neck pain and needs to go to the hospital. The injury occurred a few month ago and recently he asked me to go to the hospital with him. First he went ...
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How to designate, that I'd prefer having a conversation in english, when someone aproaches me in my native language?

Given an international (work-) environment, I have plenty of coworkers1 not speaking German. It happened already many times to me, that I was having a English conversation with someone not speaking ...
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How can I get a drunk person to understand that I don't want to talk to them?

Today I was busing coding/programming in a bar/pub, had my headphones in (as I always do), trying to concentrate on my work. Around 2 PM an obviously-drunk man walks in and orders a beer, then starts ...
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Taking space and engaging in casual group conversations [closed]

I often have difficulties taking space in casual group conversations, like when I go to the pub after work with a couple of friends or similar, even though I'm completely comfortable with the company. ...
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How to tactfully chase up free work from a friend

Some time ago an architect friend (who lives in a different part of the country to me) very kindly offered to draw up the plans for a house extension for free (I did offer to pay). So in short, there ...
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How to say to my ex that I understand her? [closed]

Background 3 years ago I dated with Clara, my ex-girlfriend. Her situation (borderline personality disorder + Taoism + her own personality and ability) makes her worldview quite unique, and when I ...
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How can I ask my flatmate why she's upset after I mentioned feeling like a third wheel?

A few days ago my flatmate [22, F] and me [26, M] went to a party. She was asking me which of two guys she should hook up with. It was more jokingly, at least I thought and she also told me it's just ...
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How to start or keep up a conversation with a friend or crush

I am currently studying in a high school, and I have several friends. Among them is a girl I like. We have several common interests e.g. gaming, and we're on very good terms and talk a bunch in real ...
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Is it acceptable to intrude a celebrity's conversation, if so, how to be tactful?

Recently, I was on a public book launch connected with an intellectual debate. There were many famous people whose face I know from the news, many of them I very much respect but have no actual ...
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How to gracefully ask HOA residents about their experiences?

I am currently looking for a condominium and would like to ask the residents within the HOA (Home Owner Association) building about their experiences with said HOA. This most likely involves knocking ...
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How to reply politely to someone asking too many vague questions?

I have a roommate who asks a lot of questions. Most of them are on topics that are more a matter of opinion, such as religion and politics. He is from Colombia and lots of things are new to him, but I ...
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How to politely tell my girlfriend that I want to live on my own for some time

Background I am 24 and my girlfriend is 25, we have been dating for 4 years now. She is from a smaller town, moved to the city for study about 6 years ago, I've been living here for my whole life. ...
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How do I get my flat mate to clean up after herself?

I can't live with this situation any more. Every Morning I enter the kitchen there is a huge mess. Dirty pots, plates and food leftovers. I am really not that fussy but I appreciate a general ...
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By what ways can I seek attention of my friends to explore business oppotunities? [closed]

We are 4 close friends and all are well settled and prosper. I am initiating business proposals among us but the problem is none of them takes the conversation seriously. However, they all say that ...
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How can I inform a foreign colleague that the private conversation in their native language is not so?

I enjoy learning languages and in the past few years, have been learning Spanish. A work colleague, who is either new or I have only just noticed him, calls (presumably) his partner during his lunch ...
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How to convince girlfriend to not cycle to work? [closed]

My girlfriend and I have recently moved to London and she wants to get a bicycle. Her reason is more along the lines of personal freedom that you get with a bike. It is (very pointedly) not about the ...
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How can I retain the attention of an Interviewer?

Off-late, I have been attending interviews and I have had good and bad experiences, one of which is as follows. The interviewer asks a question and minds their own business, viz, working on their ...
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Is it normal in a professional environment to inform a director of personal discomfort experienced on their site? [closed]

Should I tell the director of a lab in a business school how I was personally affected about their actions while participating in a study? I am a student and I met them in a professional setting as a ...
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How can I reject a second date idea without ruining the potential for a relationship?

I've had one date with a girl and we both agreed that we had a lot of fun. A second date was set up, but no plans were made. She just told me that her friend asked us to go to dinner, a bar, and a ...
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Refusing food from a neighbour?

I have a very good relationship with my neighbour. She sent us dishes but none of my family member likes her dishes including me. I do not wanna say to her that "please do not send us dishes" but I ...
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Communicate to a group of friends that I dislike their unreliability

I have a small group of friends, consisting of three people (names changed obviously): Leon (he's 20, know him for about 6 years or so), Andi (19, know him for roughly a year) and Chris (18, also know ...
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How to keep an interesting conversation going when there's a dog present at family gatherings?

I try to pay a regular visit my grandparents once a week, and on special occasions like their birthdays. Most of these visits coincide with my aunt, uncle and cousins being there as well. They also ...
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How to try out a product you do not intend to buy? [closed]

An organization I'm in offered a "test drive" event of a car manufacturer to its members. Since I have an interest in cars, I opted to go. The purpose of this event is obviously to promote their cars....
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How to tell girlfriend that vague answers about her day leave a bad feeling in me

First and foremost: I do have a really great relationship with my girlfriend. We trust each other blindly, never argue, almost everything is perfect and we are happy with each other. But one thing ...
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How can I signal to my friend that I'm open to talking about their obesity?

I have a close friend of several years who is overweight. I've been reading and thinking about the issue of obesity and how invisible it sometimes is - how difficult to discuss and yet how emotional ...
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Answering “how did you make this dish” questions

I love cooking. I especially enjoy making complex dishes that require days of preparation and hours over the stove. Nothing that requires a Michelin Star chef, but it does require time, patience and ...
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How to calm a person's fears about using a taxi to find and travel to work?

An acquaintance needs to find a decent-paying job in her field, because she and her husband have no savings and her husband has a life expectancy of around two years. She is 50 and they have two ...
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How to avoid having always the same debates with a friend of mine?

I have a friend, let's call him Jack, who likes to debate and who takes any chance to try and turn the topic of a conversation into the one he prefers. Last time it happened, I had posted a news on ...
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How to tell a friend that she is too loud when she speaks without offending?

My partner and I hang out with another couple. We share many interests, have children of the same age, and are fairly compatible in many aspects. So all is fine for spending several hours together ...
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How do I tell my friend that she is, indeed, rude?

My friend recently texted me asking if she's mean to people and/or a bully, explaining to me that people at work told her she was. Unfortunately, she has a handful of negative characteristics and a ...
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How to ask a girl from my class to invite me also for next party?

I’m asking this because today a girl, whom I like her very much, invited some of my classmates to a Halloween party, but not me. I wished for long time to go to a party, because I never been to one ...
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How do I defend my role in a situation, when the person who caused it is part of the conversation?

I've been in a situation like this a handful of times. I'll provide an example: In a competative online gaming group, one other person and I were responsible for a particular task (role). Because of ...
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How to deal with a family member who does not care about anything in life?

TL;DR How to help/support a close person with no long-term goals in life who shies away from everything that is not immediately rewarding. My brother seems to be completely unmotivated. The only ...
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How to date/meet people after a very long break [closed]

And by long I am talking 16 years since I had anything resembling a friend or GF. 10 years ago I was finishing grad school and knew people but never did anything outside of class work. I have tried ...
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Retorting to a lying person

Scenario When it comes to certain family matters, one of my cousins always lies to my mom. It could be from a simple occasion like where the family had gone for a vacation or a more serious one like ...
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How to start the conversation with my neighbor [closed]

I'm a boy in my twenties and I'm living in my parent's house in the north of France. For more than one year we have new neighbors. Their daughter (who is about my age) is beautiful and I want to get ...
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How do I respond to a person that says they are everyone's scapegoat?

TL;DR: My dad is an un-diagnosed very likely covert narcissist and at the last counseling meeting, he declared that he felt that everyone made him the instant scapegoat. (which isnt't true, because ...