Questions tagged [conversations]

Questions about having conversations with other people, and how to achieve certain things when having them. This can be covering (or avoiding) certain topics, starting them, keeping them going or bringing them to a close.

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How do I argue in an impersonal manner?

Whenever I argue, people always seem to take it very personally. I see it more as problem solving, where the problem is whatever is being argued (99.9% of the time, the disputed premise is purely ...
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My co-workers keep calling me a robot, how can I resolve this?

There is a running joke in the office that I am a sophisticated humanoid-like robot, who has undergone thorough AI-learning to reach the state that I am now at. This originated when a co-worker ...
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How long do i wait before assuming our plans won't go ahead? [closed]

I messaged my friend April on Monday asking if she would like to meet on Friday. It is now Tuesday and she has not replied or read it. I understand people have busy lives but I need to know if she can ...
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How to tell a friend I don't want his help with miniature painting?

I have a friend with which we share a hobby, miniature painting. We both purchase what we need and sometimes get together to paint for the sake of just hanging out. The miniatures I purchase suit a ...
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How do I start a conversation with a friend I had a crush on in junior high?

Backstory: I met the person when I went to tuitions during my high school junior year. We didn't explicitly talk to each other as I was really shy but had some small talk here and there. As I didn't ...
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How to join an ongoing conversation without being rude?

I'm an introvert and sometimes when people are having conversations I usually tend to not engage. However, currently , I wanted to change my behavior, to be more social and engaging. And not to be ...
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How to encourage spouse to speak up more when making decisions?

We have been living together for 4 years and had our first baby 3 months ago. My wife is a very good mother. I am a straightforward guy and I speak up as soon as there is something that I think is ...
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How to deal with people that are not able to confront you with Problems they have with you

In the last years I often find myself in situations where people tell me they got problems with other people and are going to remove them from their life if they don't change their attitude. The ...
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How to avoid a lengthy conversation with someone from the neighborhood I don't share interests with

I'm here on behalf of my neighbor, who we'll call Betty. She is a 40 year old woman and she has some issues dealing with one of her neighbors, also a woman, but who is 20 years old. Let's call her ...
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How to politely ask for verification delay?

I've worked in a market. Suddenly they stopped my work for verification purpose. They requested me to provide a student ID card. I've sent a scanned copy of my Student ID card for verification. One ...
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How can I jump into a fast-moving group conversation?

Recently I was invited to a casual games night at a coworker's place, and near the end of the evening there was a group of about 6 of us (a couple coworkers of mine, a couple friends of theirs, my ...
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How can I talk about positive circumstances in my life without hurting coworkers who are in the opposite situation?

Several times in the past, I've had a bit of good news which I'd like to share at work (or at least not actively hide). The issue is that often, a colleague is struggling in the same domain. I know ...
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How to counter/explain wife's double standards and avoid negativity [closed]

I have been married for almost 5 years. My wife and I have a son who just turned 3. At the beginning of our relationship things seem to be really on track but since our son arrived, i've been battling ...
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How do I ask a stranger for information about a mutual friend?

Chris used to work with Sam, although they were in different countries. Chris has now moved and works in the same country as Sam. Chris has heard from Sam's colleague Toni (whom Chris has known for ...
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How to honestly answer questions from a girlfriend like “How did you find this place” without giving the impression I'm always talking about my exes?

I'm in my mid-twenties and I've always had more female friends than male friends. I was in 2 serious relationships (one 1,5 year long and the other one 3 years) and 4 or 5 small ones, but they can't ...
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How do I explain to a charismatic person what it is like to not be so charismatic?

I have a friend who's really charismatic, has infectious enthusiasm, the "big guy in the room", etc. That's great. The problem is that he's started judging and giving advice to other people around ...
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How do I talk to my wife about unrealistic expectations?

I have been married less than a year and we are both quite young, which is partly why I'm posting on here for advice. My wife has recently been 'complaining' that she finds it difficult that she can'...
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How to properly communicate that lack of proposals to meet is not because of lack of interest?

I routinely have a monthly lunch with a group of people. Also, I share a WhatsApp group with the same people (that we use to organize the lunchs, but also to talk about professional novelties, comment ...
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How to avoid people who always see negative side of everything [closed]

I noticed some people around me try to pick on things which I cannot do or have, e.g. if your car is manual, why is it manual? why not automatic? or you should have taken direction from us ...
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How to approach someone who keeps interrupting conversations?

There's a person whom I think is genuinely my friend. He's showed a consistent willingness to help me out and talk to me in a friendly manner, and even sometimes calls me to start a conversation. ...
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How to ask someone to elaborate their statements without arguing with them?

It has happened many times to me. Also, but not exclusively, on *.stackexchange sites. Someone makes a statement. Often, but not always, they do this as a response to a question I asked. What they ...
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How to reply to small talk/random facts in a non-offensive way?

I've discovered that when I have a conversation with someone, I sometimes answer in a somehow offensive way. For example: Person: I just read that actor is born in town X. Me: So what? You're ...
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How to tell an acquaintance that there will be only me

A friend and I (both males) met a girl at university who is in the city as part of an exchange program. The 3 of us have been working occasionally together on university material. We get along well ...
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Warning someone that they have been suckered into a scam

A friend of mine (let's call her Anne) was recently drawn into attending life-coaching sessions, through an organization which is a scam based on the Lifespring model (tl;dr they give you a ...
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How to get roommate to be respectful, when communication has no effect?

I'm a college student living in a small city in the US. I am currently sharing an apartment with two other women (Jane and Mary), both in their early 20s. We each have our own bedroom but share a ...
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How do I socialise with a guy in the gym and in my hostel that I want to become friends with?

I am a 20 year old male living in India. Most probably, I am bi, but I am not out yet. My problem is a mixture of shyness, attraction, and confusion. So I live in a college in a hostel (hall) of 400 ...
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How to communicate to my wife the same thing which I already repeated her 100 times? [closed]

To give the cultural context, I am from South India and married for 15+ years. Ever since the beginning of our marriage, I keep saying the following items repeatedly to her ( let's call her Mohini). ...
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Communicating that I don't appreciate being repeatedly pressed to do something

A close family member, Ann, has been trying to get me to do XYZ for years. She'll text me every now and then asking if I've done it yet. Every time we see each other she'll no doubt bring it up. She's ...
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Confront mentor on unwarranted remark

My meditation mentor is convinced that I do not practice at home, while, in truth, I do practice regularly. Her argument is that, in her eyes, I have not improved my attention span, nor my ...
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Seeking closure over someone I have unblocked but whom I learned have passed on [closed]

There was someone close to me whom I blocked for a couple of years - we used to get on really well until he confessed his feelings for me and things got messy/ ugly. Since the negative feelings have ...
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How to decline giving details about my previous doctor's opinion when transitioning between two doctors?

I take a potentially toxic drug that is interacting with another drug (i.e. this is a high stakes situation). I am not happy with my current doctor's proposed method of addressing this interaction ...
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How do I improve on my social communication without being boring? [closed]

My appearance before college wasn't very appealing, so I am used to not talking to people and very little socializing. I would get social anxiety if I am alone and when in my neighbourhood would ...
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How to motivate my lazy partner towards self improvement?

Background: I am 23, partner is 21. Been together for 4 years. We just moved in together a month ago while I am working abroad for a few months, to have a "trial" period of whether we're good ...
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How to politely turn down an offer from someone to join a pyramid scheme? [duplicate]

My girlfriend and I went out to eat with an acquaintance of hers and his wife. They were really nice people, but at the end of the dinner date, they brought up a known pyramid scheme that they're a ...
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How to avoid sounding unfriendly when talking fast?

As an Introvert, I am not very social in nature. However, on certain occasions, I have found myself to be forced to interact with people. I tend to always be thinking of something when someone is ...
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How do you ask friends not to be so hard on you?

I was out with a group of friends listening to some music. A couple of them were grilling me and asking why I made decisions that I now regret. For example, I said I wish I had gone to a different ...
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Man asking for food on the street would only talk to my girlfriend [closed]

While in Nashville TN my girlfriend and I were approached by a man asking for money or food. We were walking down the street and he approached us from my side and asked if we could help him. I ...
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How can I ask my girlfriend to accept my choice of charity to support?

I support a charity based in my country that helps people escape a specific oppressive government and relocate to other countries as refugees. If I'm being completely honest, I don't really know why I ...
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How to handle someone who takes over and derails meetings?

Background I'm a software developer and recently the product owner on my team has been intermittently absent. Her direct boss "Joe" has started attending some of our meetings that she can't make it ...
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How to respond to people who don't believe where you're from? [closed]

I've observed situations like this occurring to a friend of mine (let's call him X): Stranger: Where are you from? X: [insert southeast asian country here] Stranger: Are you sure? ... On ...
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How to approach a person that does not respond to me after I was potentially rude to them?

I am an 18-year-old German, I live in a small (~100 citizens) town neighboring a somewhat bigger (~2000 citizens) town. We have our own small local fire-station but we do not do regular training. To ...
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How can I again be on friendly terms with a girl I have a crush on since she's avoiding me after I gave her a small gift?

I've met a girl in my department at university, and although I wasn't initially interested in her, she would often laugh at my dumbest jokes and flash me unwarranted smiles, so I thought perhaps she ...
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How can I talk to a friend about his behaviour before distancing myself from him?

I have been friends with Bob for more than a decade. I recently realized that we both changed in different ways in the past years. Now I dislike his behavior more and more, to the point where pretty ...
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How to tactfully respond to compliments when I don't feel I deserve them?

I'm the most senior developer on my current team, and I often get asked for help by my teammates. Sometimes when they ask for help, it's with something that I think is fairly obvious or easy to do. ...
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How to support a friend when you disagree with their choices?

Background I (M) have a very close friend (F) who has recently been affected by an autoimmune disorder. Doctors' responses have been, essentially, 'well, we don't know why this happened but this is ...
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How to deal with a friend that thinks he is always right? [closed]

I have a friend who I got to know through playing video games. I've known him for about 7 years now and have met him in person about 14 times. We've been actively playing together for 4 years and ...
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How do I talk to someone I've had issues with before?

Last year a girl I go to school with found me annoying. She didn't have any grudges, it was just "I wouldn't choose to sit next to him." This year she doesn't find me annoying, and I have been tring ...
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How to stop reoccuring conflict in family home

Context: I am an early 20's British Male. I moved home after University and am suffering from somewhat severe depression. As I got towards graduating, my mother suggested I moved home instead of ...
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How do I get comfortable around boys? [closed]

I grew up in a family where most of us are girls. I have a sister and a little brother. My Dad started working abroad when I was 7 years old and only comes home once a year. We communicated most at ...
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Asking a retired soldier about their experiences

I know an elderly guy through a volunteering program that helps charities. He seems rather kind but I don’t talk to him often. I know when he was younger, he served on the American forces and helped ...