Questions tagged [coworkers]

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How can I tell a coworker about my feelings for her without damaging our working relationship?

A coworker and close friend of mine is in a serious relationship; one day she may well marry her current boyfriend. Even so, I’ve had strong romantic feelings for her for approximately a year. I’ve ...
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How to deal with my project manager?

I've been a software developper at an IT company for the last 3.5 years now and I've pretty much enjoyed it so far. About 9 months ago, I've asked to work on another project as my former attributions ...
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How to tell my CTO that his design ideas are not good?

I have been working remotely with a developer that has become my main and only partner in a business project - a website - I have. I am the CEO and I'd like him to be the CTO if this becomes a bigger ...
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Helping with Business Grammar

We have some employees who frequently communicate with customers. These employees are native English speakers and yet somehow their written communications come across as though they really struggle ...
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How to tell the secretary that some of their emails are not needed?

My office is doing teleworking. My team's secretary is forwarding every day several (5 on average) emails that I already received through a general mailing list. I want to tell them that we already ...
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How to gently turn down digital small-talk and prevent any new attempts at having it?

The corona virus has everybody working from home. And it seems all of management is recommending to 'stay in contact', to talk with each other digitally. Which may be fun, when it's actually planned ...
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How to communicate face-to-face with a person who never stops talking and listen?

I have a colleague at work who when speaking will keep talking without taking a breath AT ALL. I recorded our last call and checked the time he was talking vs. the time I was talking. He was talking ...
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How can I assert my domain knowledge, while signalling openness to useful information, over email?

My current project at work is part of a product that many people use internally, with an active email list for user feedback. I recently pushed out a rather visible change and unsurprisingly someone ...
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How to ask a C-level executive to fix their smoke detector?

A c-level executive at my company (US, ~300 employees) has a low battery in their smoke detector. While this person is on calls the periodic beeping is extremely distracting and annoying to me. There ...
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How to work with a friend without damaging friendship?

Context Recently, I had meeting with my bosses to discuss my performance. At the end of this meeting they asked if I could help them by "putting out feelers" for a possible replacement for someone ...
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Asking a previous manager to sign a form at a group dinner

I organised a catch up with my ex-colleagues and I’ve also invited my former manager, and I wanted to ask her to sign a form for my professional certification. I’m concerned that she might think that ...
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Helping friend with project, how to tell him I'm not comfortable using my info for registering something? [closed]

My friend wants to make a website and I would like to help him do this. He asked me what free hosting to use and I suggested one. Part of the registration process is to upload photo ID. My friend ...
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How to talk about ongoing nervous behaviours with boss without being offensive?

I am working an office job under a manager who I like and trust. He's very competent, a good person, a hard worker and generally open to feedback. This is his first leadership role (about 2 years in ...
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Is it appropriate to say “happy valentines day” to a colleague? [closed]

By colleague, I mean the client of my company who I work for. There is no romantic intention whatsoever, I simply want to be nice. In terms of my proximity of relationship to the person, the client (...
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How do I resolve a situation where I am hurt by someone stepping on my duties? [closed]

I am a brown girl from India pursuing my graduate school. My English is fluent, not heavily accented, Americans do understand it without me having to repeat myself 95 percent of the time (from my ...
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How to politely tell someone to clean their nose? [duplicate]

Today at work one of me colleagues was talking to me but I had no concentration on what she was saying because there was something on her nose and I was thinking about "how am I supposed to tell her?" ...
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How to know when a conversation is over, and how to end it?

This happens to me a lot at work. I'm in a conversation with a coworker and I can't tell the difference between a pause/change topics and when the conversation is over. I'll frequently start walking ...
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How to tell someone that I'm on the autism spectrum while mitigating the risk of not been believed?

I'm on the autism spectrum. My manager knows about that but my coworkers don't. I have been working here for a little more than a year and not telling my coworkers that I'm on the spectrum is really ...
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How to respond to a colleague who ghosted me out for a chat?

Its been a month that I have joined this new office. I have met quite a few male colleagues in the office; it is more of wishing each other whenever we come across. There is this one guy with whom I ...
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How to gently ask friends to stop being so self-deprecating?

I'm in a highly ranked science PhD program, but my department has this odd self-deprecating culture where conversations can quickly turn into who least deserves to be in the program and who sucks the ...
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How do I tell an older coworker I would like to become friends with him?

I've been in my internship in a state-owned enterprise for six months so far, and this is my last month there. Since I started, they assigned me a mentor who would make sure I and the rest of my ...
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How to politely decline meetings on weekends? [closed]

We have team projects at school and unfortunately, my team wants to meet on weekends, saying they have no time to do so during the week. I have no problem doing my part of the work during the week, ...
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How can I offer my prayers to an atheist colleague facing a serious personal situation?

A colleague of mine commented me the other day he is having a serious family issue. (An important sickness brought a relative very close to death.) As a Christian, I believe in the power of prayer. As ...
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Getting back in touch with an ex- colleague

I have worked at an office as a contractor and got relieved a few weeks ago. I had fun while working there and at the same time my manager developed negative notion towards me for reasons best known ...
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How to ask someone about something without accusing them [closed]

I would like to know how to ask someone about something without accusing them. If I want to know if someone at work has used my computer, can I ask "Have you used my computer?", without insulting ...
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Dealing with a white lie that caused problems

So we have a new intern in the office. They are entirely unpaid and only really here because their uni makes it mandatory. Boss welcomes the free labour as there are plenty of small spare projects and ...
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Do I need to keep on asking my coworker if I can lower the window blinds (in a German company)

I am doing my internship at a German company (while being a student from the Netherlands) and my German skills are limited. On sunny days, I get blinded by the sun and want to lower the window blinds. ...
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How to avoid answering “what were you sick with”?

I have been on "sick leave" for a little more than a week due to mental health issues. I'm now back to work and my coworkers are asking "did you have the flu?" or other questions like that. I know ...
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How to politely decline an invitation to a dinner from a colleague? [closed]

TL;DR: A colleague invited me and my wife to a dinner and we don't want to go. How to politely decline? More background: I have a colleague that sometime works on the same project as I do. When he ...
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How to approach coworker for talk of my thought about a situation with her without being awkward?

tl;dr: I want to talk with a female coworker for clarification of recent interactions. About me: I'm male, 27's, obese (not morbid) and with a grim-serious face expression. I'm introverted. In my ...
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How to stop my boss's son physically bullying me

I got a new job about three months ago and it's been great so far. Now the boss' son, Brock, started working at the company about a month ago. I was making some tea and Brock came in and turned the ...
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How to know how much money to give someone for a ride home?

With my work, we sometimes travel to different locations. At the end of the day, it's common for people to offer and ask for rides home. There was one person who lived relatively close to me. We never ...
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How do I mingle with westerners in office as a south asian in the UK? [closed]

I came to the UK to work on contract through software company. I've been in the UK now for more than 2 years now, but I'm still not able to make much rapport or personal friendship with westerners in ...
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Offered a colleague a ride home - wondering whether her response was a hint not to ask her again!

My home is just about 3 km from my work. A few days back, I offered my colleague a ride home (that is about 21 km) because I was heading a place (Manly) near her home (maybe about 2-3 km before her ...
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how do I stop attracting wrong friend? [closed]

I have never been to a party or going out with friends and I usually stay at home for studying. (I know it sounds odd, but I am a homebody) I am also working as an engineer in a fairly big company. ...
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How to clarify to a friend-now-co-worker that I want our relationship to be less extensive?

I have known Bob for some five years - followed a few courses together, then worked closely together on a few projects, and now we share an office but work on largely separate things. Because we are ...
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How to talk to coworker about loud outbursts

My desk at work is in a small room shared with two other coworkers, let's call them Alice and Bob. Alice is in general a loud and outspoken / opinionated person, but doesn't talk much to either of us ...
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How to casually invite a particular colleague for an afterwork?

I work with three colleagues in a small open space. We're developers. We've been colleagues for almost a year and got to know each decently. I'm a shy, socially anxious person that doesn't have many ...
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My co-worker has promised to gift me his old guitar, but keeps forgetting to bring it in. How do I remind him without sounding spoiled?

My co-worker is a good guy who has a lot on his plate at the moment. The issue is I just want to get shredding on the electric guitar he has promised me. How do I politely remind him of his promise to ...
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My co-workers keep calling me a robot, how can I resolve this?

There is a running joke in the office that I am a sophisticated humanoid-like robot, who has undergone thorough AI-learning to reach the state that I am now at. This originated when a co-worker ...
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How do I stop my co-worker sending me cat memes? [closed]

My coworker is very distracting and keeps sending me cat memes. He doesn't separate work from fun. He's an alright guy and I do find them funny and want to let him down gently. Anyone have any solid ...
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How to dismiss intrusive questions from a colleague with whom I don't work?

I have a colleague of mine at work. He's just my peer, not my boss or a higher rank, I do not report to him in any way. When I'm late for work (for different, sometimes very personal reasons), he ...
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How to deal with a person who rejected you and work with on the same team?

There is this person that I like in my company. We've hung out quite a lot of times with our co-workers. I told my co-workers that I like this person and this person knows about it because our co-...
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Can I get my coworkers to consider using new techniques at work?

I work in a small team of 5 web developers. The team currently is used to using some poor and outdated coding and work practices that make development harder and inconvenient, and overall make our ...
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Asking a coworker to chitchat somewhere else

Background I work in an open space and people there chitchat fairly often. I do it, my coworkers do it and everyone is fine with that (even if it can be a bit annoying IMO). Today, one of my ...
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A coworker mumbles to herself when working. How can I ask her to stop?

My coworker, who sits right next to me, keeps mumbling to herself when she types or reads. It is a not-too loud, low-voice mumble that I can hear without understanding words. It really irritates me ...
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How can I talk about positive circumstances in my life without hurting coworkers who are in the opposite situation?

Several times in the past, I've had a bit of good news which I'd like to share at work (or at least not actively hide). The issue is that often, a colleague is struggling in the same domain. I know ...
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How do I ask a stranger for information about a mutual friend?

Chris used to work with Sam, although they were in different countries. Chris has now moved and works in the same country as Sam. Chris has heard from Sam's colleague Toni (whom Chris has known for ...
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How to make aware co worker about their parking skills?

I work in a MNC (Multi national company) in a populated city where having a car is necessary for transport purposes and daily commute. Question How can I tell/make aware a coworker (who is not in ...
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Problem with the “thirst of power” of a colleague

I am working in a company, and I am having this type of problem: whenever we start a new project a colleague of mine always wants to be the leader of the project. He is now leading a very important ...

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