Questions tagged [coworkers]
For questions about interacting with one's coworkers, whether local or remote.
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How can I try to get my coworkers to stop their jokes on LGBTQ+ people
Context
I have been in this company for 5 months now and I'm sharing an office with four men (35 to 55 y.o.). They all are white, heterosexual cis men. For the record I'm a white, 22 y.o., ...
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How to signify to a coworker I'd like to become friends?
TL;DR
I'd like to befriend a coworker with similar hobbies and values but I'm afraid I'd either sound awkward or flirty. How can I make him understand I'd like to become friends?
Situation
I've ...
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How can I politely get the attention of a coworker who is listening to music?
At work a few weeks ago, a coworker was listening to music with her earphones in, and I needed to ask her a question because a piece of code I was writing was not working and she often helps me debug ...
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How to helpfully react to a male coworker's sexual comment about a woman
I'm a male in my late 20s. Sometimes find myself in a situation with a male coworker who I've just met, or a male stranger who I'm talking with (at a bus stop, for example), and they make a comment ...
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How to support a coworker with her insecurity, while not going against my own opinions?
I have a new-ish co-worker. Before I landed in this team we already had some contact, we enjoyed having lunches together and often chatted over a cup of coffee. We seem to be developing a friendship, ...
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How to ask a co-worker to sneeze into their elbow?
My co-worker has been sneezing about 8 times a day for the last two weeks. Like clock-work, I will hear him loudly sneeze out into the air every hour. He is not covering his mouth when he sneezes (and ...
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How to communicate to a new coworker that I am not comfortable being touched?
Last week a new coworker joined our team, and yesterday we were both invited to eat lunch in the work cafeteria with some other colleagues that I have known for around a year and a half. As he, ...
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How to politely decline painting requests from co-workers?
Update: Someone recently requested I paint something, and I said that I'm short on time.
It was really painless
Thank you guys!
I paint to relax.
During the office lunch break, I paint in my ...
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How to tactfully respond to compliments when I don't feel I deserve them?
I'm the most senior developer on my current team, and I often get asked for help by my teammates. Sometimes when they ask for help, it's with something that I think is fairly obvious or easy to do. ...
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How to tell a colleague to take care of how he looks
I am working in a software consultancy company, and our job has a good deal of direct interaction with clients. We are a very international bunch of people, but we are based in Germany, and all our ...
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How do I interact with people who don't understand that I don't want to share personal information
I get it, people like to share things, know whats going on in each others lives and connect with each other. I don't, I'm a private person, I don't want to share personal things and because of that I ...
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Friendly co worker suddenly distant/rude because of different views
There is a very nice co worker at my office. Every morning he comes to my desk and we chat for about fifteen minutes about how our kids are doing and whatnot. I really enjoy these morning ...
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How to tell a coworker to dress more appropriately for the office
One of my co-workers transitioned a year ago and she's really happy to be a woman, to finally being herself.
However, she's putting too short skirt and short... I know that she's going through a ...
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How to avoid lack of respect due to perceived youth / lack of experience
Background
I'm a woman of small build (1,60m) and have a rather high pitched voice.
If asked to estimate my age, people guess me at least 5 years, usually 10 years younger. I am 31, so people guess ...
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How to not be "this annoying nitpicking Quality Engineer"?
I am a 23-year-old woman who was hired 2 weeks ago.
As a Q&A engineer, I have to ask developers to change the way they are coding in order to improve the code's quality, maintainability, and ...
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How to avoid participating in a team-building trip without causing bad feelings for coworkers?
I've been in this company (and team) for almost 10 months now. Everything was O.K.: project, team, team-leader etc. But our TL (team leader) got a better offer from another company and of course, he ...
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How to avoid endless corporate evening pubs but still have nice relationship with the colleagues?
Imagine yourself working in a company which has a team building tradition of going together to the pub on average two evenings a week and this is almost compulsory. But you do not get any pleasure ...
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Colleague making me feel bad over a game
A group of colleagues and I are friends outside of work. We like to go out together. We found out most of us play the same online team-based, player vs player game. We added each other as friends and ...
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How to get coworker to stop saying clearly offensive stories when I can hear
I have a coworker (call him Tim) who says disgusting things and tells disturbing stories. I'm trying to think of a non-confrontational way to get him to stop. Often times he's not talking to me, but I ...
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Elevator awkwardness, collegue makes self deprecating comment
Yesterday I was taking the elevator down from the 5th floor to head out for lunch. A co-worker who works on the 6th floor was already in the elevator. I know that she works for my company, but I don'...
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Dealing with coworker who is excessively self-deprecating [duplicate]
The Problem
My coworker is very self deprecating to the point where several of my colleagues are worried about him. He will make negative remarks on the quality of his work, and even himself, saying ...
