Questions tagged [coworkers]

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How to tell a coworker to dress more appropriately for the office

One of my co-workers transitioned a year ago and she's really happy to be a woman, to finally being herself. However, she's putting too short skirt and short... I know that she's going through a ...
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How to make amends for an (unexpected) embarrassing situation?

Background: This situation is a little bit sensitive. Few days ago I was in restroom at my company, and just went about my business. Then one guy came in to the next urinal (restroom is kind of small,...
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Someone keeps bugging me to come in for a job interview. How to politely decline?

I'm in between jobs at the moment and have some temp work I've been doing to pay the bills. Often time's I work with, or at least see, the same people. The other day someone started asking me all of ...
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How to avoid looking/sounding unfriendly when I don't speak the same language as everyone at work?

Background I moved to Denmark a bit more than a year ago - from a Western Europe country. I originally did not plan on staying there more than 6 months. For that reason, I did not start learning the ...
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How could I talk to a coworker about my feeling of being left out by the team?

I have asked this question in The Workplace, but it didn't seem to be the good place for this question, so I'm trying my luck here. I have been working in the place I currently am for more than a ...
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How to helpfully react to a male coworker's sexual comment about a woman

I'm a 29 year old male. Sometimes find myself in a situation with a male coworker who I've just met, or a male stranger who I'm talking with (at a bus stop, for example), and they make a comment about ...
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How do I talk to a work friend about their constant no-shows for catch-ups?

I have a weekly catch-up with two people from my old team (Sarah and Kate) as we all committed to lose weight together, so we meet up to check on each other's progress. It's a casual thing, like ...
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Dealing with colleagues who think single women as being always available

I am an Indian woman, residing in India and single. And the latter brings a lot of unwanted attention to myself, from both genders. Females make fun of me stating that I need to get married and start ...
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Dealing with coworker who is excessively self-deprecating [duplicate]

The Problem My coworker is very self deprecating to the point where several of my colleagues are worried about him. He will make negative remarks on the quality of his work, and even himself, saying ...
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Polite way to request more "elbow room" in open-plan office?

My workplace subscribes to a startup mentality and our seating is made up of long double-sided tables that are each five "desk" pieces locked together end-to-end. Anyone is free to sit where they like ...
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How can I recover from an accusation of racism at work?

The context In February last year I started a new job. I started the same day and in the same position as another person we'll call Ed. Our offices are across the hall from one another. I'm a ...
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How can I switch a conversation from a language to another?

Being new in Germany (around ten months now), I am suffering from the language, and it is not that easy for me to keep the communication in German. Therefore sometimes I use English or even French ...
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How to respond to co-worker who suggest you may be gay? [closed]

In group conversations, certain co-workers would make offensive remarks to suggest I may be gay. I am a male gay and am not out of the closet. Examples of such remarks: "Would you prefer an ...
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How to politely decline painting requests from co-workers?

Update: Someone recently requested I paint something, and I said that I'm short on time. It was really painless Thank you guys! I paint to relax. During the office lunch break, I paint in my ...
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How to clarify things with my team members as they think I am delaying projects being a procrastinator?

I work in the IT sector and I believe in perfection and following industry best practices in my work. People in my team believe in delivering projects early and earning brownie points even if the ...
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When should I tell others that I'm divorced/separated? [closed]

While at the moment I am technically still married, I have been separated from my ex for eight months or so, with divorce pending. In certain situations, I find myself unsure of when/if to tell ...
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How to stop a colleague from talking to me about work when I'm on my lunch break?

More often than not, I eat my lunch at my desk. There aren't any shops or cafés nearby, so this suits me just fine. I usually put my headphones in and browse the news or SE to take a break from work. ...
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Approach a coworker-friend about being nicer to his friends

TLDR: My coworker makes unkind jokes about someone else to build rapport or support friendship with me. This makes me uncomfortable because it is outright mean and has noticeably hurt the teased party ...
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How to tell a colleague to take care of how he looks

I am working in a software consultancy company, and our job has a good deal of direct interaction with clients. We are a very international bunch of people, but we are based in Germany, and all our ...
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How to tell a colleague to not drink water from my bottle

So I have a water bottle in my office and to fill it every time is a tiring business. I need to walk to a different floor than I sit and then I need to wait till other people fill their bottles. Then ...
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Invitation for dinner refused with a strange reason [closed]

I have got a new colleague to work together on a very long project. We have worked for a month now, things look good so far. She is a very reserved person, but I am not a big extrovert myself, so this ...
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I don't see why I have to pay for a full bumper paint job. How do I convince her?

When I was reversing, I accidentally scratched a woman's car. The scratch is around 15cm long and 0.5cm wide. The scratch is not a really a scratch since my car's paint was simply just scraped off ...
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How do I get my colleagues to turn the radio off? [closed]

I work in a big, open-plan office. One of my colleagues on my floor likes to work with the radio on and most people seem to agree. I dislike the radio (radio specifically, rather than music) for all ...
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Should I reply to the email or just leave it? [closed]

I am currently an intern in a company in Singapore. My supervisor's colleague gave me a small task and asked me to collate some details about others interns. I did it and sent him an email. He replied ...
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How to ask if someone has suffered a bereavement?

I have a work colleague who I was expecting to be at work today but they haven't shown up. I know that they are currently going through issues with their Father's health and may have to take some ...
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Coworker at same rank is acting like he supervises us, and higher-ups don't seem to care. How to talk to him about it?

Our company is set up in a ranked structure. There is someone I know, when we are told to go to the back of a company or something, us senior ranked (but not too senior) employees would do what we are ...
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How to avoid wishing my coworker on her birthday? [closed]

My coworker has been announcing that her birthday is coming soon. I work in a small office with only five employees. I like her but I don't want to wish her because I don't believe in birthdays. Never ...
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How to interact with a colleague if you understand only 5% of what he says?

I work in a big company, I have a colleague from another sector, who (I think) has some kind of problem in speaking. I really can't understand what he says and every time he talks to me, I just keep ...

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