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How to tell someone that I'm on the autism spectrum while mitigating the risk of not been believed?

I'm on the autism spectrum. My manager knows about that but my coworkers don't. I have been working here for a little more than a year and not telling my coworkers that I'm on the spectrum is really ...
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How to casually invite a particular colleague for an afterwork?

I work with three colleagues in a small open space. We're developers. We've been colleagues for almost a year and got to know each decently. I'm a shy, socially anxious person that doesn't have many ...
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Dealing with a white lie that caused problems

So we have a new intern in the office. They are entirely unpaid and only really here because their uni makes it mandatory. Boss welcomes the free labour as there are plenty of small spare projects and ...
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Problem with the "thirst of power" of a colleague

I am working in a company, and I am having this type of problem: whenever we start a new project a colleague of mine always wants to be the leader of the project. He is now leading a very important ...
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How to stop coworker from tuning me out

Issue One of my coworkers has a habit of "tuning me out" while I am talking. This involves completely ignoring me and working on something else. In Person This has happened before the ...
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How do I make sure I don't get credited for other people's work?

At work I have a co-worker who frequently gives me credit for the accomplishments of my female colleague. I am acting primarily as a consultant on the project where as she and her team are the ones ...
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Someone keeps bugging me to come in for a job interview. How to politely decline?

I'm in between jobs at the moment and have some temp work I've been doing to pay the bills. Often time's I work with, or at least see, the same people. The other day someone started asking me all of ...
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How to approach coworker for talk of my thought about a situation with her without being awkward?

tl;dr: I want to talk with a female coworker for clarification of recent interactions. About me: I'm male, 27's, obese (not morbid) and with a grim-serious face expression. I'm introverted. In my ...
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How to stop my boss's son physically bullying me

I got a new job about three months ago and it's been great so far. Now the boss' son, Brock, started working at the company about a month ago. I was making some tea and Brock came in and turned the ...
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How can I tell someone that possibly unwanted body skin is showing?

So the title sums it up, but let me provide an example so it has a bit of context. I am living and working in California in an accounting office, so lax business casual is the usual attire. I am a ...
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How to tell my boss about his lack of hygiene

I work in a small consulting company. I love what I do and I love to work with my boss who is a kind of genius in our field. He is a quick thinker and can be very technical and smart. He is good and ...
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How can I tell if I'm being a bother when asking for help?

I started a new job several weeks ago and like with any new job, I have no idea what I'm doing. I have a "mentor"--somebody on the team who's designated to helping get me up to speed with everything--...
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How to work with a friend without damaging friendship?

Context Recently, I had meeting with my bosses to discuss my performance. At the end of this meeting they asked if I could help them by "putting out feelers" for a possible replacement for someone ...
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How can I be left alone during the work day without looking awkward or offensive?

I am not a total introvert, as I am very social and stuff but when I am working during breaks or on transportation I want to be like an introvert. I guess there is a word for that which is ambivert. ...
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How can I ensure I maintain a good working relationship competing with my colleagues for a promotion?

I've worked at my current job for just about 2 years. Due to the type of job it is, the turnover rate is high, so I am one of the most experienced employees there. We're likely to have one or two ...
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How can I inform a foreign colleague that the private conversation in their native language is not so?

I enjoy learning languages and in the past few years, have been learning Spanish. A work colleague, who is either new or I have only just noticed him, calls (presumably) his partner during his lunch ...
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How to clarify things with my team members as they think I am delaying projects being a procrastinator?

I work in the IT sector and I believe in perfection and following industry best practices in my work. People in my team believe in delivering projects early and earning brownie points even if the ...
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How to address colleagues to stop talking about politics?

Background: A few months ago, a new co-worker A joined the company. He was hired as a SEO expert social media marketer. Due to the nature of his job, he is always active on various social media ...
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Invitation for dinner refused with a strange reason [closed]

I have got a new colleague to work together on a very long project. We have worked for a month now, things look good so far. She is a very reserved person, but I am not a big extrovert myself, so this ...
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How to talk with my boss about the lack of hygiene on our workspace?

I'm currently working in a small office with around 14 coworkers. We have a tiny scullery just to make coffee / wash dishes and a bathroom. Most of my coworkers are men and they're developers. I'm ...
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How to know how much money to give someone for a ride home?

With my work, we sometimes travel to different locations. At the end of the day, it's common for people to offer and ask for rides home. There was one person who lived relatively close to me. We never ...
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How to politely tell someone to clean their nose? [duplicate]

Today at work one of me colleagues was talking to me but I had no concentration on what she was saying because there was something on her nose and I was thinking about "how am I supposed to tell her?" ...
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How do I mingle with westerners in office as a south asian in the UK? [closed]

I came to the UK to work on contract through software company. I've been in the UK now for more than 2 years now, but I'm still not able to make much rapport or personal friendship with westerners in ...
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Colleague making me feel bad over a game

A group of colleagues and I are friends outside of work. We like to go out together. We found out most of us play the same online team-based, player vs player game. We added each other as friends and ...
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How do I tell my coworker to stop talking about her kid every day?

A coworker in the cubicle next to mine only wants to talk about her daughter when someone comes to her cubicle to engage in small talk. The conversation may start out talking about things like our ...
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How to politely decline meetings on weekends? [closed]

We have team projects at school and unfortunately, my team wants to meet on weekends, saying they have no time to do so during the week. I have no problem doing my part of the work during the week, ...
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How do I approach a co-worker about talking too much and being distracting?

Background I work as a counselor in a drug and alcohol treatment facility. It is a high-stress, demanding job and requires extensive charting tasks to be completed by specific deadlines. All ...
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How to tactfully shut down gossip-talkers?

I have run into a problem at work which I can not figure out the best way to deal with; the coworkers often like to gossip about eachother, and me being new makes me a great person to tell gossip (and ...
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How to talk about ongoing nervous behaviours with boss without being offensive?

I am working an office job under a manager who I like and trust. He's very competent, a good person, a hard worker and generally open to feedback. This is his first leadership role (about 2 years in ...
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Becoming a better mentor [closed]

I'm looking for advice on mentoring others (or perhaps communication in general). I'm a newly promoted Senior engineer in my company and I'm managing a new hire for my company. It's been 2 months, ...
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How to avoid wishing my coworker on her birthday? [closed]

My coworker has been announcing that her birthday is coming soon. I work in a small office with only five employees. I like her but I don't want to wish her because I don't believe in birthdays. Never ...
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How do I effectively explain to my boss that I don't want to wear a t-shirt for our office video shoot?

I work in a tiny startup, digital marketing agency in India. I've always lived a very simple life. My way of life style is still very much influenced by the way it was in my childhood. The thing is, ...
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How to politely ask a coworker not to disturb me when I have headphones on

I do not like to be disturbed or constantly asked questions while I'm working intently. I use headphones to deal with that, and do not like to be disturbed while I have them on. How do I tell my ...
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How can I ask my supervisor to be more helpful?

I've recently started a new internship and my team is composed of a few people (5-10). They're all nice, including my supervisor, but he tends to avoid helping me. For example, I've asked him for ...
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How to switch conversations in mother tongue/native language to English at office

I am an Indian citizen residing in India. I am exposed to quite a few regional/native languages, few of which I am fluent in. My preferred language for verbal communication is English at the office. ...
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Elevator awkwardness, collegue makes self deprecating comment

Yesterday I was taking the elevator down from the 5th floor to head out for lunch. A co-worker who works on the 6th floor was already in the elevator. I know that she works for my company, but I don'...
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How do I respond to a former co-worker asking for help with his resume?

A former colleague was recently terminated from our division. He lost his mid-level development position due to several factors, all of which could be summed up to poor job performance, misuse of ...
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How do I talk to a work friend about their constant no-shows for catch-ups?

I have a weekly catch-up with two people from my old team (Sarah and Kate) as we all committed to lose weight together, so we meet up to check on each other's progress. It's a casual thing, like ...
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How can I point out errors to a teammate in a group project without being the "bad guy"?

I am working in a university coding project of 8 people. We're working on gitlab and every time someone does a merge request, at least 3 people need to look over the code and upvote the request, if ...
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How do I inform my boss that he offended me?

I am a man in forties. I work as a scientist in Germany, but I am not local. My boss at the university uses words "stupid" and "idiot" in relation to me in front of other people or in a direct ...
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How to invite my band-members/coworkers to give me feedback on my performance?

I recently joined a music band that's composed of four colleagues with who I don't work (different projects & teams), but I know them well since we have lunch and banter next to the watercooler ...
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How to tell a colleague to wash?

I'm seated next to a colleague who, apparently, likes to skip shower for some 3-4 days and has a very strong body odor. How can I tell him to wash more often without being rude? I don't want to take ...
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How to tell my manager that I am lacking a work assignment while not making my colleague look bad?

I am in a new job for a few months now. I just recently finished all my training projects and I'm now waiting for new instructions on how to proceed. The colleague responsible for training me has been ...
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How to address a friend/boss about how she speaks to me?

My friend of over 10 years hired me earlier this year to work for a major corporation making great money. She's my boss now and since then our friendship has not been the same. Oh, and did I mention ...
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Bad work results from voluntary co-worker

I am currently working on a voluntary translation project for a game. We're working in a team of ~5 people per language (3 active translators in our case) in a Smartcat project. However, one of the ...
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How do I ask a stranger for information about a mutual friend?

Chris used to work with Sam, although they were in different countries. Chris has now moved and works in the same country as Sam. Chris has heard from Sam's colleague Toni (whom Chris has known for ...
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How to be friendly with new team members

I am in US local government organization. Most of my team are middle-age men who are busy with their families, and are looking towards retirements. They are nice folks to collaborate, talk to at work, ...
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Socializing at workplace [closed]

I am a kind of a reserved person who minds her own business at the office. I do not socialize much at the workplace and feel it awkward to talk about the daily soaps or interfere in one's personal ...
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How to get coworker to stop saying clearly offensive stories when I can hear

I have a coworker (call him Tim) who says disgusting things and tells disturbing stories. I'm trying to think of a non-confrontational way to get him to stop. Often times he's not talking to me, but I ...
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How to politely decline friends/colleagues trying to persuade me to join a Friday after-work event?

I’m part of a software development team and the people engagement team in our company. This week has been extremely exhausting with both of my development work and people engagement work being really ...