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My boss is a micromanager and I resent him, maybe even hate him [closed]

...but I love everything else about my job and I don't want to leave it! I'll just quickly list boss's attributes: Absolutely radiates negativity Consistently in a bad mood (I'd say like 80% of ...
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How to deal with someone who is critical of my perceived lack of work?

Background I am currently working as a temporary student intern at an automotive company's part depot doing jobs for the customer service department there, including updating processes and creating a ...
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How to reach out to an estranged coworker without coming across as nosy?

I have worked with Alice for five years, and we had a pretty standard work relationship, not really friends, but appreciated each other. We did not talk since I left the company two years ago. I had ...
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How to know when a conversation is over, and how to end it?

This happens to me a lot at work. I'm in a conversation with a coworker and I can't tell the difference between a pause/change topics and when the conversation is over. I'll frequently start walking ...
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How to clarify to a friend-now-co-worker that I want our relationship to be less extensive?

I have known Bob for some five years - followed a few courses together, then worked closely together on a few projects, and now we share an office but work on largely separate things. Because we are ...
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Coping or Treatment Strategies for Avoidance Behavior?

I am wondering how I can help an individual overcome counter-productive avoidance behavior. For example, let's say a woman (let's call her Jane) works in an office where her boss once became ...
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How to get coworkers to stop asking me questions about my personal life? [duplicate]

Background: I work for a small company consisting of 5 to 10 employees including project manager. Every morning, as a team we conduct a standup meeting to discuss the daily agenda that sometimes ...
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Dealing with a Colleague who never stops eating

At the moment I am working with one other person in an office. I have no complaints about him, but he eats continually and quite loudly. The problem is he mostly eats bags of snacks and nibbles so it ...
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I have a co-worker from India, who has lost several family members to covid. How is it most appropriate to express condoleances?

I am an academic in a US university. My co-worker is a more junior academic who grew up in India and has family in New Delhi. Today I learned that he has lost several family members (uncles, aunts, ...
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Stalking - I accuse a colleague to be a free rider. How can I ask him if he does that? [closed]

My situation: I am 35 years old, female, from Germany. I work at the university and I have a lot of male colleagues. Two years ago, a friend of mine (no colleague, living appox 500 kilometers away) ...
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How to respond to co-worker who suggest you may be gay? [closed]

In group conversations, certain co-workers would make offensive remarks to suggest I may be gay. I am a male gay and am not out of the closet. Examples of such remarks: "Would you prefer an ...
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How can I deal with a large age gap between me and coworkers?

How can one handle age discrepancy between a local clique and self? For background, this is well pre-COVID-19 situation, so it does not include the pandemic as a factor. Around two years ago, I worked ...
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Etiquette about signing card when coworker leaves

Let's assume that you are working somewhere, a co-worker of yours leaves and someone takes the initiative to buy a "best wishes" card for people to sign. Is there a specific etiquette regarding who ...
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Offered a colleague a ride home - wondering whether her response was a hint not to ask her again!

My home is just about 3 km from my work. A few days back, I offered my colleague a ride home (that is about 21 km) because I was heading a place (Manly) near her home (maybe about 2-3 km before her ...
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Work supervisor expects platitudes in response to his pleasantries, even when I'm miserable

I have been working at my job for over a year now and I have some minor but extremely annoying interpersonal issues with my boss. He's British and I'm Canadian but we are living in Ireland. I'm a ...
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Polite way to request more "elbow room" in open-plan office?

My workplace subscribes to a startup mentality and our seating is made up of long double-sided tables that are each five "desk" pieces locked together end-to-end. Anyone is free to sit where they like ...
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How to avoid being a wallflower in a group conversation

Is there anything I can do to avoid being the only person who doesn’t say anything in a social group setting? The obvious answer is to talk, but I find it difficult to (i) find the right time to ...
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How to approach a co-worker about stealing my sales?

I work in a small office where each of has our own set of clients that we have established relationships with over the years. I've recently moved desks and am now sitting almost side by side with ...
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How to deal with lack of reciprocity in sharing information?

I am a student. Often times, I share with fellow students information about things I discover -- such as an interesting activity to do, an interesting class in another department, information about ...
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How to tell my CTO that his design ideas are not good?

I have been working remotely with a developer that has become my main and only partner in a business project - a website - I have. I am the CEO and I'd like him to be the CTO if this becomes a bigger ...
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How to gently ask friends to stop being so self-deprecating?

I'm in a highly ranked science PhD program, but my department has this odd self-deprecating culture where conversations can quickly turn into who least deserves to be in the program and who sucks the ...
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How to inconspicuously distance myself from an unwanted friendship at work

Background I've been "good" friends with a co-worker for 2 or so years now. We have lunch together, from nearby food vendors, every day. After some recent events, I've decided I want to create some ...
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What is the proper workplace etiquette for saying goodbye to a higher ranking coworker that you almost never interact with?

One of my colleagues is quitting his job and our supervisor has invited us to his adieu at a nearby restaurant. I cannot go there but would like to be polite enough to say goodbye to him. We were ...
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Etiquette regarding money participation when a coworker leaves?

I live in France. One of my coworkers is leaving soon and some other coworkers decided to collect money for him (in order to buy this coworker a gift). I was wondering, is there any formal etiquette ...
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How to improve relationship with uninterested coworkers?

I'm not sure whether this is a question for the workplace or IPS board, but I think it's more of a inter-personal than work related issue. Please correct me if I'm wrong. About three months ago I ...
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When should I tell others that I'm divorced/separated? [closed]

While at the moment I am technically still married, I have been separated from my ex for eight months or so, with divorce pending. In certain situations, I find myself unsure of when/if to tell ...
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How to have honest talk about current job with ex-colleagues?

When I switch jobs I have colleagues that we get along and keep in touch. When we meet I'm find myself in a situation where I have to explain about my current employer and the job I do and to give ...
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How to invite my colleagues to an at-home goodbye party when they usually organize them in a bar?

I'll leave for a new job in a month. When some of my colleagues left the team for another one (but still remained in the company, which means we hang out around coffee regularly, it's not like they ...
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How to avoid looking/sounding unfriendly when I don't speak the same language as everyone at work?

Background I moved to Denmark a bit more than a year ago - from a Western Europe country. I originally did not plan on staying there more than 6 months. For that reason, I did not start learning the ...
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How to communicate face-to-face with a person who never stops talking and listen?

I have a colleague at work who when speaking will keep talking without taking a breath AT ALL. I recorded our last call and checked the time he was talking vs. the time I was talking. He was talking ...
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How to break a two year old glacier!

I’ve moved to the US from Iran two years and a half ago and started my current job two years ago. I had severe depression and anxiety when I started my job, which led to low performance and so many ...
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Procedure/Etiquette for No-Call No-Show Coworker [closed]

My coworker, superior, and friend did not show up to work this morning. What is the standard or accepted procedure for checking in on them? No-call no-shows are not taken lightly in this organization, ...
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How to politely decline an invitation to a dinner from a colleague? [closed]

TL;DR: A colleague invited me and my wife to a dinner and we don't want to go. How to politely decline? More background: I have a colleague that sometime works on the same project as I do. When he ...
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How to deal with "why not" as a response to the a why question? [closed]

I work with people who when asked "why are you doing it that way" or "why [any question]?" their response is always "why not"? My feeling is always that this a frivolous response and indicates a poor ...
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My co-worker has promised to gift me his old guitar, but keeps forgetting to bring it in. How do I remind him without sounding spoiled?

My co-worker is a good guy who has a lot on his plate at the moment. The issue is I just want to get shredding on the electric guitar he has promised me. How do I politely remind him of his promise to ...
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Letting people know they don't owe me directly

I've recently been able to afford things rather easily and I also live with flatmates (who are also coworkers). We all make the same amount and share a lot of stuff. Whenever I feel like it, I just ...
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How to respond to a colleague who ghosted me out for a chat?

Its been a month that I have joined this new office. I have met quite a few male colleagues in the office; it is more of wishing each other whenever we come across. There is this one guy with whom I ...
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Asking a coworker to chitchat somewhere else

Background I work in an open space and people there chitchat fairly often. I do it, my coworkers do it and everyone is fine with that (even if it can be a bit annoying IMO). Today, one of my coworkers ...
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Asking my coworker to get to the point without being rude

Background I have a coworker with whom I communicate online (slack). When this coworker has something to tell me, they always start by saying: Hello, how are you? Then they wait for me to answer (&...
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how to say no to a recurring request from my managers and team members [closed]

So I've been living in another country for 10 years, and I've been working with a client for about 2 years, and about 6 months ago I made a mistake, I agreed to prepare a drink from my home country ...
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How do I get my colleagues to turn the radio off? [closed]

I work in a big, open-plan office. One of my colleagues on my floor likes to work with the radio on and most people seem to agree. I dislike the radio (radio specifically, rather than music) for all ...
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How to dispel the awkwardness after getting promotion and now managing my peer who vied for the same job?

A colleague and I both went for a promotion to team leader and I got it. I am looking for advice on how to handle the awkwardness of him not obtaining the promotion and me being in a position of ...
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Do I say 'You're Welcome' to a thank you message that would normally not require an answer? [closed]

Context I work in a company in Germany and I'm fairly new to my colleagues. Recently our team got a new boss. During a task that my boss performed he pointed out the the outcome was not to his ...
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How to respond if your colleague is rude to you? [closed]

I'm working in a software company as a junior s/w developer(fresher). Recently I was assigned to a project, already 2 of my team members who are senior to me by almost 3-3.5 years are working on this ...
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Asking a previous manager to sign a form at a group dinner

I organised a catch up with my ex-colleagues and I’ve also invited my former manager, and I wanted to ask her to sign a form for my professional certification. I’m concerned that she might think that ...
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How do I ask my coworker his true opinions?

Recently communication with my coworker had been a bit weird. Some background here. He came to me a few weeks ago and expressed concerns that an important goal of his team was not progressing and ...
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Helping friend with project, how to tell him I'm not comfortable using my info for registering something? [closed]

My friend wants to make a website and I would like to help him do this. He asked me what free hosting to use and I suggested one. Part of the registration process is to upload photo ID. My friend ...
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Is it appropriate to say “happy valentines day” to a colleague? [closed]

By colleague, I mean the client of my company who I work for. There is no romantic intention whatsoever, I simply want to be nice. In terms of my proximity of relationship to the person, the client (...
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How to politely avoid a hand-shake with somebody who is infected by a flu virus?

In our daily life people often meet and greet with different styles and traditions, but mostly we do it by shaking our hands and it is quite normal around the globe. But if a person who is infected ...
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Social interactions at work and shyness [closed]

So a bit of backstory real quick. Back in school I was really shy and pretty socially awkward but mostly with people I didn't know really well or wasn't friends with them. Among friends, I was really ...