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Questions tagged [difficult-people]

For questions involving stubborn, uncomprehending, or otherwise problematic people.

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Asking an update from a friend who agreed to help me but who didn't respond me last time

I have a friend who agreed to help me on something half a year ago. Around the winter holidays, last time we chatted, I told him I was ready to implement my plan but he told me that he was upset ...
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My friend always complains he's late, but doesn't want to eliminate the causes

I've got a close friend/roommate who is often late, (I'd say about 25% to 50% of the time, he'll be 15min to 1hour late). I've gotten used to it and it doesn't bother me too much personally. But it ...
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How can I get a drunk person to understand that I don't want to talk to them?

Today I was busing coding/programming in a bar/pub, had my headphones in (as I always do), trying to concentrate on my work. Around 2 PM an obviously-drunk man walks in and orders a beer, then starts ...
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Dealing With Unwanted, Repeated, Public Advances

TL;DR Meghan, a member of a close friend group, is pushing me to attend an event with her via repeated, public statements. I find these confusing, distracting, and would like them to stop, with ...
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Difficult friend refuses to compromise regarding social outings [closed]

I have a pair of friends who I like to hang out with a great deal. We like to go out once a week. However, one of these friends refuses to go to any bar more than a few miles from his house. I end up ...
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Suggestions for “how to approach a person who try to debate without facts and figures.?” [closed]

We few people had a debate on a topic and we were putting our opinions/views but 1 person whose basics are even not clear without any figures trying to prove his words among us. How can we approach ...
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How do I get my friends to understand that I won't be social ALL the time and tolerate their scoff when I say 'I'm studying'

For a few months, I've been going out to wherever they've called. Spent money on food outside, had drinks with these folks. I have my exams coming up. Every time I get a text saying 'Hey, what's up! ...
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Communicate to a group of friends that I dislike their unreliability

I have a small group of friends, consisting of three people (names changed obviously): Leon (he's 20, know him for about 6 years or so), Andi (19, know him for roughly a year) and Chris (18, also know ...
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My sister refuses to help clean. Our shared room is extremely cluttered and our relationship becoming strained. How can I get her to help out?

I share a bedroom with my younger sister, she is currently 15 and I am 20. Recently I have been becoming very stressed out with the clutter in the room. I begun cleaning out my own belongings, ...
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How do I tell a friend that I am no longer interested in working on a project that we have invested a lot of time

I have already posted the question on the Workplace, but someone commented that it is more of an interpersonal skill question. My friend started a project exactly two years ago, the project is an ...
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How to stop a girl who is talking stupid things about me and what to do in this case? [closed]

There is a girl in my university, who was once my bestfriend, is keep doing things that are keeping me disturbed. She is spoiling my peace by talking shit about me. And i dont know i just cant act ...
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How to calm a person's fears about using a taxi to find and travel to work?

An acquaintance needs to find a decent-paying job in her field, because she and her husband have no savings and her husband has a life expectancy of around two years. She is 50 and they have two ...
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How do I tell my friend that she is, indeed, rude?

My friend recently texted me asking if she's mean to people and/or a bully, explaining to me that people at work told her she was. Unfortunately, she has a handful of negative characteristics and a ...
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How do I deal with some of my mean classmates? [closed]

Flashback Today when I entered in class, I came late due to the fact that I’m in flow that I stayed on telephone. And when I came to school, I asked Chemistry teacher to annulate my absence, and an ...
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How can I tell to my friend that her behavior is weird to me?

Background I'm a 14-year old female and I've been friends with this specific girl for about 9 months. She has been really 'touchy-feely' with me for the past month. I'm the type of person that doesn'...
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How to deal with agreements which are made in a dependency situation? [closed]

I started almost at the perfect job. Still one thing is bothering me to the point where I think about changing the job or working freelance. I am working for one department and have fairly good ...
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How to respond to someone strongly resisting a specific app for group communication? [closed]

I'm in a college video game design course with a strong emphasis on group work. I'm highly invested in the outcome (I'd like to use the final game for a portfolio, if possible) so I decided to create ...
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How to ask neighbors if they are bothered by someone's dog barking?

I live in a shared house and the landlord's dog barks frequently. This disturbs me day and night. I was very direct with the landlord and told them the barking is interfering with my ability to do ...
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How can I express disagreement to my boss without him feeling insulted every time I share my ideas?

The company I recently joined is owned and being run by a single person: my boss. He knew me from earlier in person a little, so he called me one day over the phone, to leave my previous employer ...
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How can I deal with a rude classmate? [closed]

Today, I entered my new school (I'm in 9th grade) and, as you could guess, I had no friends, but there was some guys that were so good to explain me and stay with me. I really like staying with these ...
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How to argue with father who denies everything and makes illogical arguments? [closed]

Not sure how to approach this question so please bear with me. Every member of my family, including me, has a problem with my father's behaviour. I am trying to find a way to solve it. Background ...
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How to help my friend accept criticism?

tl;dr Bruce believes that the world is, at its core, a very nice, nonjudgmental place where people get along and don't criticize, and when this belief is contradicted he either refuses the evidence or ...
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How to help a friend through a rough breakup when his actions are testing the limits of my patience?

One of my close friends, who is 25, has recently broken up with his girlfriend of 10-11 months. Naturally, he has turned to me and other people close to him for help and support. My friend is, by ...
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How to deal with someone who always feels treated disrespectfully?

I already asked this question before, and it was deleted for being off-topic (also because I did not check back for too long, and thus was unable to adjust my post according to the comments / the ...
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How do I distance myself from a coworker/friend?

I've been at an internship for the past 9 weeks. At the beginning of the period, I became close with two other interns, Alex and Sue, as we all started on the same day. However, as the internship has ...
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How to deal with a person that's not able to argue based on facts

It's a bit of a long story. TL;DR at the bottom I am in a martial arts club for ~10 years. My trainer is not a friend of Japanese dojo style but he made the training more open and like a workshop, ...
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How to tactfully turn down demands from a demanding friend?

I have a deaf-blind friend, and she is very sweet. Because she is deaf and blind, there are many restrictions on what she can and can't do, and she has a mitochondrial condition that causes her ...
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How to approach a narcissist parent about their unkind and unreasonable treatment of a sibling?

TL;DR: My dad is calling my sister an embarrasment while I'm the "golden child" that seems to do most things right in his eyes. My dad seems to not realize that me and my sister talk often, and she ...
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What to say to steer passive-aggressive narcissist parent(s) away from saying guilt-tripping statements to me or other people?

My relationship with my dad has been rocky the past 9+ years. After divorcing my mom when I was 16, (I am 25 now) his passive-aggressive narcissist behavior has become more prevalent. For example, ...
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Dealing with people who do not see things that happened in the past as 'Past is Past' [closed]

I have a tendency to consider incidents that happened in the past as "Let bygones be bygones." And I try to move on. But, when the opposite person involved in the incident doesn't seem to think on the ...
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How to manage people's reactions when someone is potentially dying of an overdose?

This is something I've run into more times than I'm comfortable admitting, both in my party days and after... Someone takes a little too much of some thing and suddenly the party is over... This ...
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How do I tell my close friend that I don't need the advice he gives me? He always patronizes in every conversation!

First up, he's a long time friend of mine, but not someone I ever will get along with in the same room for more than an hour. In the past, I've had a lots of insecurities and he used to be the ...
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Close relative refuses to acknowledge being deeply in debt

Note: the text uses "they" when talking about the person in question to preserve anonymity. A few years ago I was living with a close relative of mine and their parents, and I became aware that the ...
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How to politely reject a rude advice giver at the gym that won't take it well anyways

Problem So, there is this (big) guy at the gym. He is 210cm and 105Kg (~6'11" and 230 lbs) which makes him look like a mountain, but he seems to not understand that not everyone is naturally as big ...
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Saying “No” to my brother's demand without causing an argument

Bit of background on my relationship with my brother: ever since my teenage years, I could not bear him. I know it is common for siblings to have arguments and misunderstandings, and that's been the ...
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How to discuss bad communication with team leader?

My teamleader and I struggle to communicate sometimes. One day a week I'm allowed to work from home so we communicate via Slack or Skype calls. We speak the same native language but there's a 30 year ...
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How do I avoid strange questions because of a flag?

First of I should mention that I like Russia, have been there and I just like the people, the culture, the architecture. Pretty much every friend/coworker/family members knows and accepts that. But ...
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How can I tell someone that I am glad to be leaving them without sounding petty?

Background After this year, I will be going to a different school than the rest of my friends and so I am writing them cards. There is one person in the group who I especially don't like, and I would ...
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How to avoid same demands over and over again from landlady

This question is about a very common problem aka "the landlady with trust issues". I and my partner live in an apartment owned by an absurd person to say the least. We have been very careful, ...
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How can I explain something to someone who doesn't want to hear it? [closed]

Background: My parents have recently changed to a vegan diet. They've discovered a lot of books, websites, and videos providing scientifically-backed reasons to eat only plant-based foods, and cut out ...
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How to address a someone who is constantly offended on my behalf

Background: I was born with several disabilities, including Asperger's syndrome, hearing impairment, and other difficulties related to being born blue. (Neonatal hypoxia) I am nearly 50, am ...
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How to ask a parent to help with something they disagree with fundamentally?

For perspective, I'm a young man and I don't live with my parents nor am I dependent on them in any way. Recently, I've started to grow an interest in learning to ride a motorcycle. My dad has been ...
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How do I effectively explain to my colleagues that they should wish me a happy birthday on a different date?

I'm about 26 years old. I don't know my day of birth. I just know I was born in 1992 in either October or November, because I know the birth date of my cousin who is around 1 month younger than me. My ...
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How can I tactfully on a conflict-avoidance way, inform memorably a group of feminists some of their arguments affect our community because misandry?

Objective: Remaining amicably, for them not to feel rejection on a personal way neither on a philosophical level, so they can still gather at our home and discuss feminism and activism, keeping ...
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How to tactfully encourage my girlfriend to support the value of men when with friends who make misandristic comments?

So my girlfriend is a feminist and I love her, she has feminist friends too and their reunions are as regular and fun as you would expect. But I can't help to overhear some stuff that not only annoys ...
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Co-worker is too aggressively trying to make friends

We have a new colleague. He comes from another region (same country: Germany) and is rather outgoing: He talks a lot (sometimes too much), is generally very friendly and is rather cheerful. He moved ...
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How to deal with disruptive people in the cinema

In my last two cinema trips I have had disruptive people in the cinema. One was a group of 4-5 early 20s men, one of whom in particular was talking very loudly. I stared at him until he looked back ...
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How to best approach sibling about showering & brush teeth at an earlier time, or elsewhere in Jack & Jill setting as to not wake me up?

I'm not sure if this would better belong in parenting stack I am happy to provide more information to try and help solve this. Culture context: Chinese Canadian. Problem summary: My sibling (mid 20s) ...
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Deal with noisy people in a classroom in absence of adult supervision

I'm put in a top performing batch in my high school, after management saw my academic performance, because of which they leave us to study on our own in the classroom. Most students in the classroom ...
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How to get my stuff back from my ex-girlfriend?

My ex-girlfriend and I have been separated for months, and she still has some of my personal stuff. As our relation ended in a bad manner we don't speak a lot to each other. She said at multiple times ...