Questions tagged [difficult-people]

For questions involving people who have shown a tendency to be stubborn, uncomprehending, or otherwise difficult to communicate with. Use this tag for issues like personality conflicts, not for difficulties arising from a physical or mental condition.

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How to deal with agreements which are made in a dependency situation? [closed]

I started almost at the perfect job. Still one thing is bothering me to the point where I think about changing the job or working freelance. I am working for one department and have fairly good ...
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How to respond to someone strongly resisting a specific app for group communication? [closed]

I'm in a college video game design course with a strong emphasis on group work. I'm highly invested in the outcome (I'd like to use the final game for a portfolio, if possible) so I decided to create ...
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How to ask neighbors if they are bothered by someone's dog barking?

I live in a shared house and the landlord's dog barks frequently. This disturbs me day and night. I was very direct with the landlord and told them the barking is interfering with my ability to do ...
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How can I express disagreement to my boss without him feeling insulted every time I share my ideas?

The company I recently joined is owned and being run by a single person: my boss. He knew me from earlier in person a little, so he called me one day over the phone, to leave my previous employer ...
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How can I deal with a rude classmate? [closed]

Today, I entered my new school (I'm in 9th grade) and, as you could guess, I had no friends, but there was some guys that were so good to explain me and stay with me. I really like staying with these ...
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How to argue with father who denies everything and makes illogical arguments? [closed]

Not sure how to approach this question so please bear with me. Every member of my family, including me, has a problem with my father's behaviour. I am trying to find a way to solve it. Background ...
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How to help my friend accept criticism?

tl;dr Bruce believes that the world is, at its core, a very nice, nonjudgmental place where people get along and don't criticize, and when this belief is contradicted he either refuses the evidence or ...
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How to help a friend through a rough breakup when his actions are testing the limits of my patience?

One of my close friends, who is 25, has recently broken up with his girlfriend of 10-11 months. Naturally, he has turned to me and other people close to him for help and support. My friend is, by ...
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How to deal with someone who always feels treated disrespectfully?

I already asked this question before, and it was deleted for being off-topic (also because I did not check back for too long, and thus was unable to adjust my post according to the comments / the ...
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How do I distance myself from a coworker/friend?

I've been at an internship for the past 9 weeks. At the beginning of the period, I became close with two other interns, Alex and Sue, as we all started on the same day. However, as the internship has ...
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How to deal with a person that's not able to argue based on facts

It's a bit of a long story. TL;DR at the bottom I am in a martial arts club for ~10 years. My trainer is not a friend of Japanese dojo style but he made the training more open and like a workshop, ...
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How to tactfully turn down demands from a demanding friend?

I have a deaf-blind friend, and she is very sweet. Because she is deaf and blind, there are many restrictions on what she can and can't do, and she has a mitochondrial condition that causes her ...
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How to approach a narcissist parent about their unkind and unreasonable treatment of a sibling?

TL;DR: My dad is calling my sister an embarrasment while I'm the "golden child" that seems to do most things right in his eyes. My dad seems to not realize that me and my sister talk often, and she ...
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What to say to steer passive-aggressive narcissist parent(s) away from saying guilt-tripping statements to me or other people?

My relationship with my dad has been rocky the past 9+ years. After divorcing my mom when I was 16, (I am 25 now) his passive-aggressive narcissist behavior has become more prevalent. For example, he ...
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Dealing with people who do not see things that happened in the past as 'Past is Past' [closed]

I have a tendency to consider incidents that happened in the past as "Let bygones be bygones." And I try to move on. But, when the opposite person involved in the incident doesn't seem to think on the ...
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How to manage people's reactions when someone is potentially dying of an overdose?

This is something I've run into more times than I'm comfortable admitting, both in my party days and after... Someone takes a little too much of some thing and suddenly the party is over... This ...
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How do I tell my close friend that I don't need the advice he gives me? He always patronizes in every conversation!

First up, he's a long time friend of mine, but not someone I ever will get along with in the same room for more than an hour. In the past, I've had a lots of insecurities and he used to be the ...
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Close relative refuses to acknowledge being deeply in debt

Note: the text uses "they" when talking about the person in question to preserve anonymity. A few years ago I was living with a close relative of mine and their parents, and I became aware that the ...
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How to politely reject a rude advice giver at the gym that won't take it well anyways

Problem So, there is this (big) guy at the gym. He is 210cm and 105Kg (~6'11" and 230 lbs) which makes him look like a mountain, but he seems to not understand that not everyone is naturally as ...
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Saying "No" to my brother's demand without causing an argument

Bit of background on my relationship with my brother: ever since my teenage years, I could not bear him. I know it is common for siblings to have arguments and misunderstandings, and that's been the ...
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How to discuss bad communication with team leader?

My teamleader and I struggle to communicate sometimes. One day a week I'm allowed to work from home so we communicate via Slack or Skype calls. We speak the same native language but there's a 30 year ...
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How do I avoid strange questions because of a flag?

First of I should mention that I like Russia, have been there and I just like the people, the culture, the architecture. Pretty much every friend/coworker/family members knows and accepts that. But ...
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How can I tell someone that I am glad to be leaving them without sounding petty?

Background After this year, I will be going to a different school than the rest of my friends and so I am writing them cards. There is one person in the group who I especially don't like, and I would ...
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How to avoid same demands over and over again from landlady

This question is about a very common problem aka "the landlady with trust issues". I and my partner live in an apartment owned by an absurd person to say the least. We have been very careful, ...
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How can I explain something to someone who doesn't want to hear it? [closed]

Background: My parents have recently changed to a vegan diet. They've discovered a lot of books, websites, and videos providing scientifically-backed reasons to eat only plant-based foods, and cut out ...
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How to address a someone who is constantly offended on my behalf

Background: I was born with several disabilities, including Asperger's syndrome, hearing impairment, and other difficulties related to being born blue. (Neonatal hypoxia) I am nearly 50, am ...
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How to ask a parent to help with something they disagree with fundamentally?

For perspective, I'm a young man and I don't live with my parents nor am I dependent on them in any way. Recently, I've started to grow an interest in learning to ride a motorcycle. My dad has been ...
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How do I effectively explain to my colleagues that they should wish me a happy birthday on a different date?

I'm about 26 years old. I don't know my day of birth. I just know I was born in 1992 in either October or November, because I know the birth date of my cousin who is around 1 month younger than me. My ...
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How can I tactfully on a conflict-avoidance way, inform memorably a group of feminists some of their arguments affect our community because misandry?

Objective: Remaining amicably, for them not to feel rejection on a personal way neither on a philosophical level, so they can still gather at our home and discuss feminism and activism, keeping ...
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How to tactfully encourage my girlfriend to support the value of men when with friends who make misandristic comments?

So my girlfriend is a feminist and I love her, she has feminist friends too and their reunions are as regular and fun as you would expect. But I can't help to overhear some stuff that not only annoys ...
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Co-worker is too aggressively trying to make friends

We have a new colleague. He comes from another region (same country: Germany) and is rather outgoing: He talks a lot (sometimes too much), is generally very friendly and is rather cheerful. He moved ...
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How to deal with disruptive people in the cinema

In my last two cinema trips I have had disruptive people in the cinema. One was a group of 4-5 early 20s men, one of whom in particular was talking very loudly. I stared at him until he looked back ...
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How to best approach sibling about showering & brush teeth at an earlier time, or elsewhere in Jack & Jill setting as to not wake me up?

I'm not sure if this would better belong in parenting stack I am happy to provide more information to try and help solve this. Culture context: Chinese Canadian. Problem summary: My sibling (mid 20s) ...
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Dealing with noisy people in a classroom in absence of adult supervision

I was put in a top performing batch in my high school after management saw my academic performance. We are left to study on our own in a classroom. Most students in the classroom are noisy; they keep ...
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How to get my stuff back from my ex-girlfriend?

My ex-girlfriend and I have been separated for months, and she still has some of my personal stuff. As our relation ended in a bad manner we don't speak a lot to each other. She said at multiple times ...
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How to coach underperforming, anxious coworker in an IT position?

I work at the tech support desk for a financial services company and having trouble dealing with a (relatively) new hire who at best doesn't seem to be picking up the job and is oblivious to it, and ...
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How do I get people to stop excessively calling me on the phone without alienating them

I am not good with phones. Never have been, and likely never will be. Part of this is due to my severe hearing impairment, which makes spoken communication difficult at the best of times. Part of ...
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How to deal with moody friend?

I have one friend whom I get along with great ... most of the time. We see each other about 1-3 times per week, sometimes together with other friends and he is generally a pleasant person to be around ...
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How to distance yourself from someone that is growing overly attached

Me (M,18) and my best friend (F,18) have become friends with Amy (F,17). We do not really like other people, but Amy was recently distanced from her usual group of friends, so we decided to adopt her. ...
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How do I communicate gracefully to coworkers that they are accidentally misgendering me?

I am a transwoman about 7 months in my real life phase and not a week goes by that I am not accidentally misgendered by my some of my coworkers. That is, they use the wrong pronouns to refer to me or, ...
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Always put down

I am always put down by my family members whenever a situation arises when there's a decision making time. Recently a cousin of mine had an affair with someone, there were many discussions which went ...
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How can I explain to someone that they are not being bullied, that instead he is bullying?

Names in this question are not actual names, not even online pseudonyms. I am the leader of a mediumsized online gaming community (about 50 active members). Alice and Bob assist me in running this ...
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How to convince a family member to stop victimizing themselves?

Situation: My grandmother moved away from the bulk of our family almost two (2) years ago now. As the flights are expensive, she only tends to visit a few times a year. However, every time she visits ...
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How to get along with a parent that has painfully different views & values?

I'm struggling to connect more with my mom and want to know how to overcome one of the most significant boundaries that keeps ruining our efforts. In short the challenge is that we have such different ...
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How to inform a friend who has anxiety that you don't dislike them

I have a friend who has depression and anxiety, they constantly think that when they do certain things such as state that they're feeling down or upset, or feel left out that I suddenly dislike them ...
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How to help a friend think about the impact of her actions when I am losing my patience?

I am writing to ask for advice about a friend of mine, let's call her A. A and I have known each other since our childhood and have been very close for most of our friendship. Recently there has ...
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What can I do when classmates don’t stop recording me after I ask them to stop?

I’m 18 years old in grade 11 in a high school in Bucharest. Some of my classmates wanted to make photos and videos of me and I hate that. I tried to tell them “enough!!” but they don’t listen. Q-1: ...
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How to resolve an argument about to occur in the workplace?

One of my colleagues is quite a volatile person. While they never usually mean harm, it can quickly end up in a heated argument with others over something very minor as a result. Typically such ...
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Saying not interested to business offers in a group setting [closed]

I go to dance classes run by one group and we have a common facebook chat to suggest bars to go to that play suitable music. We've talked about how we need to support venues by inviting non-dance ...
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How to convey to a person that I am not interested in talking to him?

I have a senior colleague at work with whom I do not wish to talk. He makes it a point to come over and talk to me despite me giving him a very clear cold shoulder. He stands there even when I have ...