Questions tagged [difficult-people]

For questions involving people who have shown a tendency to be stubborn, uncomprehending, or otherwise difficult to communicate with. Use this tag for issues like personality conflicts, not for difficulties arising from a physical or mental condition.

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How to deal with someone who ignores your lack of knowledge?

I purposely made this question generally broad so that it can apply to more people in need of similar interpersonal skills, but I can easily make it about a specific scenario if needed. Problem My ...
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How do my wife and I get her mother to stop buying stuff for us?

For years, my mother-in-law has purchased a huge number of holiday gifts for us. This is frustrating because at other points in the year, she'll ask for small loans ($500-$1000 or so) to pay for ...
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How can I best let my once-close friend know that I think our friendship is over--if at all? [closed]

My once-closest friend and I have seriously drifted apart. It's come as far as that I do not want to invest any more energy in the friendship and I'd prefer it to just quietly end. I am unsure, ...
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How do I communicate to a stubborn group that I'm well-intentioned? [closed]

Context I'm from a Latin American country. At my university there are student groups called "Student Chapters", there's one for each degree (Computer Science, Mechatronics etc.), and each chapter has ...
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How to deal with constantly negative roommate?

My roommate and close friend of about 3 years has gotten more and more negative over the years. He has been through a lot in his life and I can't say necessarily that his negativity/pessimism is ...
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How to tell a "friend" to stop pretending to flirt with my girlfriend?

There's this acquaintance of both my girlfriend and I that pretends to flirt with my girlfriend. Neither of us are close enough with him to classify him as a "friend," though both my girlfriend and I ...
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How can I politely tell parents of kids to stop playing with my son's toys/equipment to give him and his friends a chance?

Quite often we go to the park, or host a party and we have a few things like Stomp Rockets or Jumpers or other such things/toys. There are quite a few kids who look at longingly and want to come over (...
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How to deal with a super perfectionist classmate?

I am 17 years old. There is a girl in my class, let's call her Anne, who is very stubborn. For her to be happy, everything has to be perfect. I have no problem with it, as long as it doesn't affect ...
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How to find out how my father would like us to decide for him with regard to medical treatment?

So, this weekend my mom and dad both signed some official paperwork, which my dad handed to me with a 'read it carefully please'. The paperwork gives me and my brothers the power to make decisions for ...
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Friend's BF tends to get hammered, how do I politely address that I don't want his behavior to get out of hand at the campsite?

I have a friend and her boyfriend tends to get very hammered. I really enjoy spending time with her but him not so much. I don't want to exclude her from our group campsite but he's an issue. How ...
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How to tell someone they're not welcome at an event you organise

So I am taking part in organising an event for around 100 people. This is a leisure event. It is not work-related. These are events that take place three times a year, lasting from Friday to Sunday. ...
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Dealing with a friend who takes everything seriously

My question is similar to this one but the details are a little different. I have a friend D who takes things too seriously. Examples include: In our group (me, them and another friend O) we would ...
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How to deal with bullies who are teacher's pets? [closed]

I am a 13-year-old boy of eighth standard. I am neither very unpopular, nor very popular in school. E.g., everyone knows me because I am a "good student"(because I get good grades), thus I am popular. ...
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How to handle an unreasonably hostile individual when avoiding them/the situation is not an option?

This question was inspired by the events that took place on the Southwest flight from Portland to Sacramento where a woman became unruly and threatened to kill everyone on the plane when she was ...
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How do I isolate a group of my friends from a group of theirs

My friends and I play Dungeons and Dragons (don't judge). They all are friends with a few other people who also play D&D. I find their friends very obnoxious and they are not people who I would ...
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My brother is very unhygienic but claims that he is healthy

My brother is 18 years old but don't mix his age with his knowledge of health, he leaves a lot of mess around our house but claims that it is fine or my mother and I are just overreacting, but frankly ...
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How to respond to self-deprecating remarks

I have a few friends who will try to manipulate me with self deprecating remarks. Perhaps I've been helping them with something for a while and am obviously making moves to leave when they say ...
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Girlfriend's nosy mother keeps expressing that she'll show up unannounced

Some context: my girlfriend and I have been dating for a year, and we've decided to move in together now that she has graduated and found a job in her chosen career. We're both financially ...
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How can I tactfully ask someone whether posts they made are potentially about me on social media?

Background This is about me and my ex-best friend Alice. I'm currently living in the UK. Alice and I had been very good friends from about September last year, up until the beginning of this month. I ...
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How to approach incredibly rude persons on a train

Last weekend, I took the last train home. It was small (only one wagon), some people were drunk, which was okay, as they kept to themselves. I started listening to an audiobook and drifted off to ...
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How to handle being at the same events as my partner's ex-lover?

10 months ago I was out of the country for a period of three months for work reasons. During this time, my partner cheated on me with one of his friends, who is also one of his colleagues. This person ...
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How to talk with my co-worker to prevent a fight? [closed]

I currently have a conflict with a coworker (just call him Bob). Now he is challenging me to a fight. I am actually a violence free men: I think a fist fight is useless. I tried to convince him that ...
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How to manage an ex-flatmate who refuses any communication at all?

As I moved to Graz a couple of months ago I took a room in a shared flat with three other people. About a month after that one of them decided to leave, because she wanted to move to a friend of hers ...
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How do I address my friends unrealistic expectations regarding friendships and conduct?

I have a long-time friend, whom I'm very close to. we usually openly discuss all sorts of topics (even very private ones). Lately I've observed that my friend tends to judge people and situations ...
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How to acquire information from a confrontational stranger

I recently encountered a situation where I felt it was important to ask a stranger what they were doing/if everything was alright or prompt them to explain themselves, however, after they acted ...
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How to deal with unwanted attention at the swimming pool?

I swim twice a week in a sports complex. My hours are late and the place is almost empty. A few days ago a guy started a chat with me while I was in the sauna. I saw nothing wrong with it, so I ...
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Coworker at same rank is acting like he supervises us, and higher-ups don't seem to care. How to talk to him about it?

Our company is set up in a ranked structure. There is someone I know, when we are told to go to the back of a company or something, us senior ranked (but not too senior) employees would do what we are ...
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I gave a "gift" back to a friend after he asked for it back, and now he is trying to tax me for using it [closed]

I'm usually good at this sort of stuff but I don't know how to handle this situation. I'll start from the beginning. Backstory About 2-3 years ago, a good friend of mine, Henry, stole a grinder from ...
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How can I get a friend to stop calling me all of the time?

My friend has been there for me through the worst times of my life, and to the point where no one really helped me besides her. She's going through a bit of a rough time now and I've done everything I ...
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How should I handle the "loudest" voice in a group project? [closed]

I am in a Software Engineering class in college. Person A likes to be the voice of everyone. For example, I would ask "What do you think of this?" And without any discussion and a very immediate ...
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Problem on a seniors only web site [closed]

I have recently joined a seniors only web site. Most people there are decent, rational people. Unfortunately, however there are 5 or 6 who are constantly in attack mode and they always make snide anti-...
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How can I deal diplomatically with a feminist neighbor who continuously delivers political speeches in private?

This question is unlikely to have a very strong cultural context so I welcome answers from members all over the world. I met this person (code name Jane D) when I was studying sociology at Masters ...
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How to treat a pompous person who scares away people?

You know the type. One who lectures everyone, disapproves of questions if they don't fit in his (very narrow) definition of the subject discussed, be it history, YA novels, cinematography, cartoons or ...
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How can I politely tell my fellow tenants that I am not the caretaker?

I have 3 fellow tenants in the same building where I live. Every Monday evening, the refuse bins must be put out in the street so that the next morning the company could collect the garbage and empty ...
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Is it mistaken to express feelings clearly and fully in an email? [closed]

The easiest way to explain what precisely I'm asking is by quoting an email (minor edits) written to me by a well-meaning person with whom I was discussing a relationships issue. To help ensure that I ...
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Our maid is not allowing to work another maid

In Dhaka-Bangladesh, person, mostly women, worked as a maid. They worked for 2 hours approximately. Each day they work in many houses. One maid also works for us and her work is not good. We want to ...
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How do I make people stop seeing me as a child? [duplicate]

English is not my mother tongue so please be indulgent. In my family, we are pretty close to each other. I mean, when I say "family", it includes aunts, uncles and cousins. With my big sister, we ...
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How to deal with a possibly abusive stranger?

Recently, I was on a trip to a town that I didn’t know well. I play Pokemon GO, which has “raids,” a sort of social feature that requires people to gather in one place to coordinate in-game activities....
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How do I to tell someone to stop criticizing what we do?

TL;DR: How do I to tell a judgemental person with unsubstantiated statements, making it a clear and definitive statement, that she may not move things around in our office? That person (I'll call her ...
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How to deal with a colleague who tries to undermine me? [closed]

It's been 4 months since I joined my new company. There is a colleague (let's call him Bob) who joined with me. Bob and I were colleagues in my previous company and we both accepted interviews from ...
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An extremely confrontational person knows I blocked them, how to avoid confrontation?

I have a friend X who I have had to block on all social media after they have proven themselves to be: intense and demanding (A) trying to upset me (B) emotionally manipulative (C) having angry and ...
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How to deal with a student who is curious to the point of disrupting the class?

I'm giving a class for a new co-workers group. There are 9 students (or new co-workers), and one of them (let's call him Bob) has a lot of questions, of which many are really good (70%) and the ...
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How to discreetly reject an attention-seeker while you listen to someone else

Situation A group of people, who have known each other for a very long time, meets again. Among them are Alice and Mallory (not real names). Alice She has been gone for quite a while and just came ...
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How can I remind someone to do a task when reminding them makes them less likely to do it?

I have a bit of a problem with my girlfriend, in that things aren't getting done because she is forgetful about things she doesn't like to do. We've had many discussions on the topic, and we both ...
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How to disassociate with an obnoxious, arrogant, selfish friend

I'm from England. When I first moved to a foreign, non-English-speaking, country (France), it was difficult for me to make friends, I had to deal with the language barrier and culture shock. Luckily, ...
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Dealing with people who always try to prove you wrong in a conversation [closed]

Consider the following scenario: You have an acquaintance, who would probably be really good at turncoat (the game in which one person has to rapidly switch sides again and again on a topic). ...
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How to deal with a dangerous, developmentally disabled person I can not avoid?

On my way to work, I cannot help but encountering a developmentally disabled person who harasses me and other women. How can I deal with him? Background I have been taking the same train to work ...
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How can one handle an encounter with a beggar/homeless person? [closed]

I used to work in Downtown Orlando, which is notorious for its amount of people walking the streets no matter if it's day or night. I worked Downtown for about six months, and I started to notice the ...
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How to handle accidentally bumping into a drunk person while walking?

Yesterday when I left my office, I bumped into a drunk person while walking. I didn't notice him, since I was walking while checking my WhatsApp messages. Then, since he was drunk, he started ...
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How to deal with avoiding someone I don't like

Currently, as part of my work, I come into proximity with a lot of people (via getting food, to being at some company-wide meeting, or just at a mutual work friend's party), some of whom I do not like ...

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