Questions tagged [disability]

For questions about people with disabilities, the questioner or someone else. Navigating socially and in public around this subject. Any issues surrounding communicating with someone with a disability, any awkwardness, or being on the receiving end of insensitive encounters. To be used with the appropriate context tag e.g. [friends], [public-issues].

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How to shake hands with someone having a prosthetic right arm/hand?

Airbus did a few years ago a few videos about inclusion of disabled people, including this one: https://youtu.be/RJuE_Ywl64o It features a disabled woman with a prosthetic right arm (or hand, it is ...
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How can I stop my niece with developmental disorder from sitting behind my juice bar?

I own a small juice bar, with two seats behind the counter for me and my employees, and a piddling number of seats for customers that are usually occupied. My brother has genetic disorders and his ...
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How to talk to a friend that just lost an eye [closed]

My friend just lost an eye on an accident and I don't know how to deal with it or what to tell him. He seems to have a good sense of humor about it but I can only imagine how bad it feels. Is there ...
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Non-disabled people parking on handicap spots

This morning, when I went to the local bakery, a woman (maybe around 25 years old) parking on the handicap spot right in front of the store. To me, she didn't look disabled at all. Granted, not every ...
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Is it acceptable to violate table manners in public due to my disability?

I have a tremor, which varies in intensity. I recently ordered a sandwich at a restaurant, which was pretty easy to eat, but I gave up trying to eat the salad, because I was unable to do so with a ...
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How do I protest my child's suspension without "poisoning the well"?

My high-functioning autistic daughter was suspended from summer camp for hitting a smaller child (my daughter's in the oldest grade; everyone is smaller than she is). I agreed at the time to placate ...
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Requesting someone to give up their seat to me on public transport if I have an invisible disability?

I have an invisible disability. I do not really want to disclose what it is, but I have trouble standing up on public transport for longer than a few minutes. I would like to sit down. Now, the bus/...
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How to address a someone who is constantly offended on my behalf

Background: I was born with several disabilities, including Asperger's syndrome, hearing impairment, and other difficulties related to being born blue. (Neonatal hypoxia) I am nearly 50, am ...
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How do I prevent people from thinking my deformity disables me?

Explanation:When I was younger, I broke my arm close to my growth plate near my elbow. As a result, part of my arm grew and the other part did not, resulting in a boomerang shaped arm (if I hold my ...
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How can I suggest to someone that he may potentially be colourblind?

My colleague recently had a disagreement with a client about the colour of two items. The client claimed both items were the same colour, while to my colleague one was red and one was green. I can ...
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How to stop someone in a wheelchair from calling in paramedics for minor accidents? [closed]

Someone I know quite closely quite enjoys the attention of paramedics. She is an amputee, is currently unemployed, and is very attention-centric. Every time she has a minor accident, she calls over ...
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How to communicate a non-dangerous mental illness to others?

I have severe panic disorder that often manifests in my shutting down and having a pseudo-seizure which makes me appear catatonic. Even when I come out of it, I am mute (selective mutism). I take ...
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How do I deal with someone who makes more of my disabilities than I do?

I am taking a class and the instructor knows I am hearing impaired. The only accommodation I need is to sit in the front and to the left of the classroom and I can do the rest on my own. Between ...
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How can I encourage a handicapped person to be as independent as possible?

This is a follow-up to How to approach the owner's handicapped son about him distracting our work? After a couple more weeks with him around, we agreed that he is likely being too protected by ...
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Explaining to a parent that they shouldn't yell ambiguous commands because you have misophonia?

Suppose there is a bottle of dried basil and a bottle of curcuma on the shelf, and your mother tells you to pass her the basil but points at the curcuma. You would be puzzled at whether to interpret ...
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How to effectively make others aware of my hearing impairment, which is non-obvious?

I have been hearing impaired since birth due to nerve damage. Since the problem is with the nerves themselves, there is no treatment so there's no hearing aid or surgery that can help. I read lips ...
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How to approach the owner's handicapped son about him distracting our work?

For the last two weeks, our owner's son has been coming to our office daily to "work". However, he can't work. There's no work that can be assigned to him, and he is constantly distracting us by ...
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How to handle first encounter with a disabled person?

By first encounter, I mean meeting the person in an event, such a meetup in a cafe, or a seminar, or such. The event is to be expected, but is not planned by us; we are invited to join the event, if ...
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Refusing free goods as a blind person

As a severely visually impaired person, I use a white cane in the public and unfamiliar shops for identification purposes and as a mobility aid. I regularly encounter sellers at bakeries or fast food ...
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Bringing up mental illness to dates?

I have bipolar disorder. It is under control, but I read that my children might inherit it and my medicines might affect unborn children. But, I'd like to get married and have children. After ...
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What are some other ways to speak to a deaf person without ASL?

One of my friends online is deaf, and we met on a game and made friends through in game communication. We've set up to meet, but I realized I may have made a critical misstep in that I don't know ...
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How do I get a delusional friend to seek professional help?

I have a good friend who has recently lost the ability to take advice or criticism and has become extremely delusional as a result. It's clear that he has a mental disability of some description and ...
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How to get a blind person's attention in a crowded public place?

A while back, I was sitting in a crowded train. Across from me was a blind individual with a guide dog. I noticed the guide dog was trying to eat a chocolate covered waffle and wanted to warn the ...
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Is it okay to talk about a blind person's guide dog to the blind person? [closed]

Obviously it's wrong to talk to a guide dog instead of the person: Don't talk to then guide dog instead of the blind person, this is insulting and the dog never answers. For some reason I was ...
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How to interact with a deaf/hard of hearing Uber driver

A friend of mine told me recently that he ordered an Uber, and while the car was coming, the app informed him that his driver was "deaf or hard of hearing." He was unsure of the proper etiquette for ...
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Using reserved "disabled parking" with a disability people cannot see

I have a disability that cannot be seen (diffuse scleroderma and a recalcitrant and relapsing polymyositis). I seem to walk around ok, but my muscles are wasted and continue to rebuild and waste, ...
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