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Etiquette is a set of rules or customs that control accepted behaviour in particular social groups or social situations.

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Why do men rise when a woman leaves the room? [closed]

I once read that in Canada, it is considered polite for men to rise when a woman leaves a room and men normally offer their hands to women. My question is, what is the origin of this tradition?
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How do I approach the issue of someone reading what's on my phone when I'm on public transportation with them?

This is a problem which I face when I travel using public transportation. I have a habit of checking my messages, call data or Stack Exchange stuff that I missed and other social media stuff while I'...
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How do I respond when someone answers 'Yes' when I ask “Would anyone like the last [Item]?”?

So today at work we had a tray of doughnuts, my colleague called out to the office, "I'm going to have the last one unless anyone else would like it?". At this point, I realised that I don't think I'...
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What is the etiquette for hosting your own birthday event? Who pays?

I've never really had friends, so I've never really celebrated my birthday. This year, though, I wanted to invite my friends out somewhere, perhaps Topgolf [1] (not an advertisement, trying to give ...
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What do you do if someone is telling you something you already know about, such as a fact or something that happened?

One thing that has been happening lately is that people will tell me something that I already know. Naturally, I respond saying something like, "oh I heard/read about that". However, I feel like when ...
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My cousin doesn't know that I know he received money that belongs to me - how do I approach him about receiving the money?

My cousin was supposed to receive money from a sale, keep a percentage and then send the rest over to me. I found out that not only did he receive more money from the sale of my item ($550 instead of ...
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How can I turn down requests for a relationship without causing undue hurt?

I am a 15-year-old aromantic asexual (that's the closest description I could come up with anyway). People at school say I'm really attractive; I've had four people ask me out in two weeks and my ...
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How can I ask an unfamiliar coworker to eat more quietly?

I work in a cubicle farm. Recently, someone who I believe may be a new employee moved into a cube a row away from mine. I've not been introduced to him and we are antisocial engineers so I really ...
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Is it rude to ask how much a new neighbour paid for their apartment? [closed]

TLDR; Is it rude to ask how much a new neighbour paid for their apartment? My view is that it isn't, because it's information that's probably their favourite topic of conversation right now, and also ...
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What should I do with a short, unintentional eye contact? [closed]

Sometimes while walking past people, or because you thought you heard them say something (but they didn't), you look at people for a second. Sometimes your eye wanders when you're lost in thought. And ...
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How to find out if a party received your gift if it hasn't been somehow acknowledged?

This past winter, a pair of neighbors dug me out of a snowstorm*. I was incredibly grateful, as it was very deep and it would have taken me days to do what they did together in about two hours. I ...
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How to politely inform somebody that they are in your personal space

This is similar to the question here: When in queue at the supermarket, how do I get my personal space? However this question is mainly focussed on somebody being in an area they should not be in the ...
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Is it appropriate to offer speculation about a coworker's absence?

So here is a situation happened and that I basically answered sort of haphazardly: Coworker #1: hey do you know where coworker #2 is? Me: Oh they're out today. CW1: Do you know when they'll be back ...
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Is it acceptable to use someone else's device to look something up without their permission?

So not too long ago I was sitting in the living room and needed to quickly look something up on the internet. There weren't any of my devices (phone, tablet) near me, but my younger sister's phone was ...
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As a pedestrian, how to get someone to stop following you in a car?

Sorry, I just never had these situations occur until I moved into a neighborhood. Usually, we (well, my dogs) get most of our exercise in a large, unused field near my house. The people on our way ...
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Bringing up that something was mentioned before

So this personally is not me, but I saw it happen in our work chat room. A co-worker asked an overseas team to do something (we're in the USA). Their team lead replied about it being a holiday over ...
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How to handle when someone uninvited inserts themself into a conversation and takes over?

My partner and I were in a very casual restaurant (self seating, buffet style) with another couple who we were still getting to know. As we were about to eat, a good friend of the couple (but unknown ...
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What is a good way to correct a missing word in a text?

I was wondering if there are any good shorthand ways to let the receiver of a text know that the previous text was missing a word at a particular position. For example, if the text is: Hey Kim ...
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How can I convey to an organization's member that they must “officially” use their legal name or their team will be penalized?

Someone submitted something to me with their full name as William "James" Smith. It is required to use their legal name. I continued to use the name "William" on other documentation but William ...
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How and when to tell someone they have food in their teeth

I'm in America and every once in a while I come across someone with food stuck in their teeth. Recently it happened with a coworker I feel friendly towards. I first noticed while we were having a 1:...
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The etiquette of holding foot traffic up to take a photo in public?

Is there a general consensus that I'm not aware of regarding the etiquette of holding foot traffic up to take a photo in public? This is most apparent where it is a group photo with a public monument ...
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Is there a polite way to ask a kid to “move along”?

Another dog-related question, sorry. I read this question but I'm not sure it applies. My two Border Collies need/want a lot of exercise. One of the reasons I chose this neighborhood is that about ...
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How not to be rude when noticing people?

I wasn't sure how to word my question so let me explain what I mean. I currently work in a corporate setting where greeting and acknowledging people is important. It's awkward if you don't ...
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How do I decline contact with a previous buyer?

I recently sold my first car to someone. The sale went very fast, they test drove it, looked at it and signed over the car. This was about 3 weeks ago. All of a sudden I get a text message 'Can you ...
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How to explain to someone that expecting a favour from you is rude?

Context My partner and I are co-habiting, living with my parents. I commute to work Monday to Friday, working 38 hours a week. My partner works from home. He wakes up with me in the mornings to see ...
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How do I deal with people who can't deal with local payment customs?

I live in Japan. Japan still has a very cash oriented society especially when it comes to restaurants. Often someone will visit from out of town and will expect to be able to (1) pay with a credit ...
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What is the etiquette regarding ordering food at a restaurant if someone is late?

When at a restaurant with a group of friends (3 or more), and one person is running late, what is the etiquette around ordering before everyone has arrived? Considering that with an especially large ...
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How do you deal with someone that wants to converse in a public bathroom?

Most public restrooms for men in the US have a row of urinals separated by a small wall shingle bolted to the wall. These are usually around shoulder height on me, so do not block vision sideways. ...
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Who do you say Thanks, Thank You and Thank You Very Much to?

Situation: It's my birthday today and I am getting calls and messages from my friends and relatives for wishes. Some of them are close friends and some relatives are younger than me while others are ...
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How to safely phrase “I wish to broaden my cultural horizons while taking an interest in yours.” [duplicate]

There seems to be a great deal of misunderstanding about the following exchange between two people, the first wishes to broaden their cultural horizons while expressing an interest in the acquaintance'...
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What is the etiquette for asking a dog owner before I pet their dog?

Dogs are what I see mostly out on my day to day activities and I see some tied up outside shops and I'll pet them, I'll also pet some in passing i.e. just stroking them as I walk past and sometimes as ...
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Would it be unseemly or worse to ask a Japanese acquaintance if I could name my cat after him?

This question is now moot, because the cat died several years ago at an advanced age, but I have always been curious as to whether it would have been OK or horribly rude or somewhere in between. ...
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Asking someone “What's the worst thing that's ever happened to you”? [closed]

Let's say I'm interviewing a person that has likely gone through significant personal hardship. The purpose of the interview is ultimately to provide a short documentary of that person's life ...
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Is it rude to offer my seat up on public transit to someone who is much older than me but not yet a senior? [closed]

I am in my mid-twenties and I frequently use public transit in my city. Sometimes I notice someone get on the bus who appears to be much older than me but still seems young enough to have no problem ...
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Is it acceptable to sit in on a workshop class my partner is taking?

I plan to give my wife a Skill Workshop session as a gift. I've no interest in the skill myself, but I feel odd giving her a gift to do completely on her own. Ideally I'd like to go with her, and sit ...
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When is it appropriate and when is it inappropriate for a neurotypical (NT) to refer to a person with Asperger's as an Aspie? [closed]

People with Asperger's on this site refer to themselves as Aspies. Is this a term that should be used only by people with Asperger's? Or can neurotypicals (NTs, a term I learned only a few days ago) ...
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Is there a general rule for when/how to compliment a stranger? [closed]

The title pretty much says it all, I know there are cases where giving compliments to strangers makes them uncomfortable (for example, catcalling), but as I understand it there is a separate set of ...
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Arguing science with a passionate non-scientist?

As a physician for more than three decades and a Molecular Biologist before that, I know a lot of science and medicine (I also keep up with the literature.) I find that people hold on tightly to ...
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Sty on my eye, how to handle a meeting with my lecturer? [closed]

Today I had a rather larger sty on my lower eyelid, big enough that you could unmistakably see it within a couple of metres. I also had a meeting with my lecturer, that I needed to go to in order to ...
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Who should identify themself first on the phone: the caller or the person called?

This may be a generational thing. I was taught that the caller always identified himself first. The person answering says "hello", to establish that contact has been made, but is under no obligation ...
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How do I talk to someone through a translator?

I am a private piano teacher. I recently accepted a student who has only been living in the US for a couple weeks and does not know English. Her mother sits next to us during the lessons and ...
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Should one apologize if they misunderstood/misinterpreted something in a fast paced discussion?

Example situation Let's suppose Peter and John are arguing about something via instant messaging chat (nobody is getting angry, but John gets way too fast and misinterprets what Peter said): Peter: I ...
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How do you deal with someone using hands or wrong utensil in buffet line?

This is one of several buffet etiquette questions which came up on a recent holiday. When in a buffet queue (line) how should you respond to someone in front of using their hands or a serving spoon ...
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Should I help pay for a traffic ticket someone got while helping me? [closed]

A couple of weeks ago, my brother-in-law helped me by transporting a piece of furniture in his car, as my car was too small. On our way home, with me following him in my own car, he ran a red light (...
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Is it rude to refer to someone as “he” or “she” in their presence? [closed]

I always feel like it's rude when someone refers to some as "she" or "he" in their presence or when I've done it in the past. But I'm not sure what etiquette says to this in UK ...
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Are “pleasantries” in emails still … “pleasant”?

Hi [your name here]! It's been a long time since we last had a chance to catch up and I really hope you're doing well. Everything is great on my end [. . .] I'm writing because I really need someone ...
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How to confront a coworker that is too loud in the office? [closed]

You are in the cubicle farm and you have that co-worker that is just a little too loud for you to concentrate. How do you avoid the awkward conversation of "hey you are too loud I can't work?"
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How best to avoid politics at family gatherings?

Live in the United States where my family (on all sides) are extremely polarized. Often at family gatherings (holiday, birthday, etc.) family discusses their political views in strong terms. This ...
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What can I do to be a courteous guest, when someone says I don't need to bring anything?

My boyfriend made plans for us to have dinner with two of his friends, another couple. Since I have some dietary restrictions, they've decided to cook at home rather than go out (despite me saying I'm ...
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How can I convey to people that they spell my name wrong?

My name ends with a 'c', while in the country I live in it is much more often spelled with a 'k' at the end. When communicating verbally, this makes no difference as both names have the same ...