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Etiquette is a set of rules or customs that control accepted behaviour in particular social groups or social situations.

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Proper etiquette for sending food back to the kitchen?

When eating out, a lot can go wrong: Sometimes you order food and there's this thing you really don't like, and you order a dish without it and it's still there. Or that thing you really don't like ...
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How to reply to unknown texter?

Occasionally I receive a text from an unrecognized number. From the content of the text, the sender probably expects me to recognize their number. How can I reply politely that I have no idea who they ...
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“Reserved” seats at crowded food court? [closed]

I am at a crowded food court, food stalls all have a 20 minutes queue, and not a single seat is available. Eating outside of the food court is not an easy option either. But then there is this 4 ...
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Who do you say Thanks, Thank You and Thank You Very Much to?

Situation: It's my birthday today and I am getting calls and messages from my friends and relatives for wishes. Some of them are close friends and some relatives are younger than me while others are ...
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When should one do “la bise” in France?

As a French woman with ASD, I often find myself struggling to know if I should do "la bise" (cheek-kiss) in greeting. In general, I don't like to do "la bise" for various reasons--one of them being ...
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Why do men rise when a woman leaves the room? [closed]

I once read that in Canada, it is considered polite for men to rise when a woman leaves a room and men normally offer their hands to women. My question is, what is the origin of this tradition?
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How do you deal with someone using hands or wrong utensil in buffet line?

This is one of several buffet etiquette questions which came up on a recent holiday. When in a buffet queue (line) how should you respond to someone in front of using their hands or a serving spoon ...
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Handshake Etiquette when wearing a Bandaid

How should one behave in situations that require a handshake but are wearing a bandaid on their hand or one of their fingers? Many people will find it unhygienic or at least unpleasant to touch a ...
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What are some good strategies for interrupting coworkers with more important information?

I work in a facility with a large manufacturing plant and a large number of engineers, lab techs, and manufacturing personnel. Because of the nature of the equipment we produce and the documentation ...
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How to handle people stressing me by standing too close in a line (and other similar circumstances)?

People standing too close In the lunch buffet room, I'm putting the food from the container on my plate, then scootch a step to the side, put some potatoes or whatever, then scootch again, etc. Right ...
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How do I let someone from a different culture know that they are doing something rude?

I'm a client paying for my take-out at a small authentic restaurant and quite pregnant. The female asian clerk is laying it on thick with: "Are you sure there is just one in there? = Yup! Just ...
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How can I talk to my grandfather about his public display of affections with a woman in my presence?

Our family takes turns watching over my grandpa since he's 92 and cannot live independently without assistance. I was at my grandpa's house over lunch and "Alice" stops by which was unusual- she is ...
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How do I greet someone when bowing is a common greeting among the people without being disrespectful?

Muslims are only allowed to bow and prostrate to God because we consider such things acts of worship, and Islam is a very monotheistic religion. This is a problem in Japan, where bowing is considered ...
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Asking friend to wait before ordering meal

A close group of girl friends and I enjoy getting together for lunch and dinners a few times a month. There are four of us, and every time we sit down and the server introduces themself to ask for our ...
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How to politely decline an equipment rent request?

Recently, my acquaintance asked me to do him a favor. He wants to borrow my ski googles for a week-end (2 days). I don't really want to lend them to him, because we are not close at all, furthermore ...
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Is it customary in the US not to say “bye” after a phone call? [closed]

I am French and we end our phone conversations with the equivalent of a "bye". I noticed however that in most of the US movies or TV series (especially the police/action ones), the callers ...
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How to introduce someone to a recruiter that I've worked with before?

When I was looking for a new job around 8 months ago I worked with an agency recruiter - the type that shops your resume around, not an in-house recruiter - to get some interviews. Working with them ...
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Is it rude not to sign a collective card? [closed]

Here is the situation. A short-term contract colleague is coming to the end of their time working with your firm or organization. You, in their few months there, have never had so much as one ...
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Is it better to ask parents of a kid if they are OK with a gift I buy for their child?

I don't come from a western culture and I am not sure what the norms of western culture are. In western countries, when you plan on buying a gift for a kid who is not yours, do you consult with ...
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How can I ask an unfamiliar coworker to eat more quietly?

I work in a cubicle farm. Recently, someone who I believe may be a new employee moved into a cube a row away from mine. I've not been introduced to him and we are antisocial engineers so I really ...
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What is the etiquette for responding to “Don't worry about it” with something you are sorry about

I was meant to buy travel tickets for somebody, but they all got sold out before I could. There were reasons for them not being able to buy the tickets themselves. I was helping out, they asked me to ...
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How can I greet people when I encounter someone searching for bottles in trash cans?

Often, when I bring out trash, I see homeless people (maybe not all of them are homeless, I'm not sure) searching for plastic bottles and other things in trash cans. Usually I greet neighbors and ...
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Duties of a “Plus One” [closed]

A long time platonic friend is going to a wedding in a few weeks and has invited me as her plus one. She is buying the wedding gift and saying it is from both of us. I'll be transporting her to and ...
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What is the etiquette for responding to someone thanking me for doing my job?

My manager has the habit of thanking me after every one-on-one meeting we have. Here is how those meetings goes: I present my work to my manager My manager gives me feedback and helps me improve ...
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How to handle when someone uninvited inserts themself into a conversation and takes over?

My partner and I were in a very casual restaurant (self seating, buffet style) with another couple who we were still getting to know. As we were about to eat, a good friend of the couple (but unknown ...
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The etiquette of holding foot traffic up to take a photo in public?

Is there a general consensus that I'm not aware of regarding the etiquette of holding foot traffic up to take a photo in public? This is most apparent where it is a group photo with a public monument ...
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How can I reintroduce myself in an email to someone I met a year ago without risking offending them?

About a year ago, I did an informational interview with a friend of a friend. We connected on LinkedIn shortly after, and I did a basic follow-up "thanks for meeting with me" email, but we ...
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How to ask people not to push in front of me at concerts?

I have some experience with concerts (mostly heavy-metal ones, but pretty sure it's the same for any genre). And every time some people try get to the front rows either by just walking as they have a ...
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My neighbour threatened to kill my cat. How to apologize and make sure he doesn't hurt my pets?

My old cat goes into the yard with me while I water (I don't leave him outside otherwise). Apparently he has managed to scale a 6ft fence and go into the neighbours yard, because I had a fairly ...
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What cultural hints to be aware of when Jewish friends are staying at our place?

Note: I considered asking this at Mi Yodeya but it is really about how to deal with people and culture, more than about Judaism as a religion. We will have Jewish friends (from the US) staying at our ...
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How to comfort someone in pain from a mild injury?

While playing a game of baseball with coworkers after work recently, one of my coworkers twisted his ankle. Obviously he was in pain, and we paused the game and asked if he was all right, but then I ...
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Inquiring about a colleague's retirement plans without seeming to be rude?

A colleague is nearing retirement age, and you are curious as to when they will take the step and what they plan to get up to. Your intentions are not self-serving beyond the fact that you will miss ...
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Responding to inappropriate personal questions at an interview?

I am an American living in Germany and had an interview with a manager of a company yesterday. At one point, the interviewer asked me about why I chose to come to Germany. I explained the reason, and ...
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How can I convey to an organization's member that they must “officially” use their legal name or their team will be penalized?

Someone submitted something to me with their full name as William "James" Smith. It is required to use their legal name. I continued to use the name "William" on other documentation but William ...
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How and when to tell someone they have food in their teeth

I'm in America and every once in a while I come across someone with food stuck in their teeth. Recently it happened with a coworker I feel friendly towards. I first noticed while we were having a 1:...
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How do I maintain eye contact with someone as a listener if it makes my body physically uncomfortable?

Here is an example: I'm talking to one of my professors, making eye contact and being engaged like a good student does, but all of a sudden I feel like I lose depth perception (I find that this ...
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A friend gifted me a relatively expensive present, what present is appropriate for me to give him back [closed]

I've been given a smart-watch as New Year present by a friend. I didn't expect it and didn't think our presents are going to be in that higher price range. Now I'm conflicted about what to do. I hate ...
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Should one apologize if they misunderstood/misinterpreted something in a fast paced discussion?

Example situation Let's suppose Peter and John are arguing about something via instant messaging chat (nobody is getting angry, but John gets way too fast and misinterprets what Peter said): Peter: I ...
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How to politely inform somebody that they are in your personal space

This is similar to the question here: When in queue at the supermarket, how do I get my personal space? However this question is mainly focussed on somebody being in an area they should not be in the ...
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How do I schedule an event with multiple people?

A few examples I've struggled with is scheduling scrimmages with a VR League I play in; I have four people on my team's availabilities to manage in conjunction with 5 others on a different team each ...
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How should I apologise for making someone feel bad for something that wasn't their fault? [closed]

I recently met a girl on a night out when we were both quite drunk, and, having liked her I began texting her every now and then. After a few days, we decided to go out for some coffee. Now, when we ...
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How to tell beginner pickleball player they shouldn't play?

Often a lower level pickleball player will come to a day set aside for advanced players. (Pickleball has 4 people on a court &usually played at community centers.) It seems if I am nice to them ...
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Is it acceptable to ask about visitation or memorial service for a funeral?

A family friend's wife died and they were very poor. I'm planning to call him soon, but I'm still hesitant about asking for visitation or memorial service. The only reason I think it could be rude/...
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How do I respond to someone saying “thanks for waiting” after a long wait I wasn't okay with? [closed]

Recently, I was in a line at the supermarket where the person ahead of me took nearly 10 minutes to resolve a payment issue with their order (usually, payment takes 30 seconds to a minute). When that ...
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What is a good way to correct a missing word in a text?

I was wondering if there are any good shorthand ways to let the receiver of a text know that the previous text was missing a word at a particular position. For example, if the text is: Hey Kim ...
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How do I tell the waiter that I want each course as soon as it's ready?

Sometimes when eating out, I'll be asked by the wait staff "Do you want to have the starter first or both courses at the same time?". I actually just want each food item to be brought as soon as it's ...
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How to decline food without sounding picky

My spouse has food sensitivities to things my parents frequently cook including tomatoes and nuts. These sensitivities don't put them into shock, but do cause sensations of pain and discomfort. In a ...
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What is the proper etiquette for making ones presence known non-verbally?

Years of dedicated martial arts training has resulted in a condition where my footfalls are nearly silent. This has led to some IPS problems. Specifically: People often jump when I "appear" in the ...
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How can I turn down requests for a relationship without causing undue hurt?

I am a 15-year-old aromantic asexual (that's the closest description I could come up with anyway). People at school say I'm really attractive; I've had four people ask me out in two weeks and my ...
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How to say hello without asking “how are you going?”

I try to say what I mean, and mean what I say. Sometimes I just want to say "Hi" or "Hello" without asking the person how they are going. I like to ask how they are or how they are going only when I ...