Questions tagged [etiquette]

Etiquette is a set of rules or customs that control accepted behaviour in particular social groups or social situations.

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How should I tell my band-members I'm out?

I'm a 21-year-old guy from Denmark, who plays in a band. The band consist of: Lead vocal (LV) 35 Drummer (D) 42 Bass (B) 48 Rhythm guitar (RG) 54 Lead guitar (me) Context RG has been my guitar-...
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Is it acceptable to sit in on a workshop class my partner is taking?

I plan to give my wife a Skill Workshop session as a gift. I've no interest in the skill myself, but I feel odd giving her a gift to do completely on her own. Ideally I'd like to go with her, and sit ...
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Figuring out interesting questions in friendly or romantic conversations

How can I figure out which questions are interesting and will be pleasant for the person to whom they are addressed to answer? I am a person who has an extreme problem conveying what he wants to ...
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Do I need to tip in a restaurant that has both a waiter and a cashier?

Restaurant setup: In Canada, meals under $10 a person. Usually smallish Asian, Pizza or Fish and Chips type of restaurants. Sit down, grab your own menu from the table. Waiter shows up to take the ...
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How to deal with comments about my likes and dislikes [closed]

Let me try to explain. I have certain food items that I really dislike. I am not allergic to them, but their taste I just can not bear at all. They include some foods that people tend to have in too ...
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Bringing up that something was mentioned before

So this personally is not me, but I saw it happen in our work chat room. A co-worker asked an overseas team to do something (we're in the USA). Their team lead replied about it being a holiday over ...
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How not to be rude when noticing people?

I wasn't sure how to word my question so let me explain what I mean. I currently work in a corporate setting where greeting and acknowledging people is important. It's awkward if you don't ...
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How do I socialise with a guy in the gym and in my hostel that I want to become friends with?

I am a 20 year old male living in India. Most probably, I am bi, but I am not out yet. My problem is a mixture of shyness, attraction, and confusion. So I live in a college in a hostel (hall) of 400 ...
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Politely declining a request to use my railway card to get a ticket when the person has to stand in the queue

Background: I'm from India. In our railways, we have multiple ways of booking tickets, one of them being the regular way (stand in the queue) and the other, a card which lets you get your ticket ...
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I have a co-worker from India, who has lost several family members to covid. How is it most appropriate to express condoleances?

I am an academic in a US university. My co-worker is a more junior academic who grew up in India and has family in New Delhi. Today I learned that he has lost several family members (uncles, aunts, ...
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What is the etiquette about how/when to Stop Conversation with other matches when dating online? [closed]

I don't believe this question or an answer is specific to OKCupid, but that's the particular platform I have been using in case there are any answers/advice that is specific to that site. In OKCupid ...
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What's the proper etiquette to be relocated from table at a restaurant?

Context I was at a restaurant yesterday and one person on the table next to us was so loud that they sounded as if sat right at our own table, an annoying companion you could say. Regularly, loud ...
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Etiquette about signing card when coworker leaves

Let's assume that you are working somewhere, a co-worker of yours leaves and someone takes the initiative to buy a "best wishes" card for people to sign. Is there a specific etiquette regarding who ...
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How many time should you try to call someone if the other person is not answering? [closed]

Last Monday, I wanted to ask a question to my cousin and decided to phone her. I called her once and she didn't answer so I decided to try a second time right after my first attempt. When she finally ...
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Is there a way to ask a person to not ask so many questions without coming across as rude?

My aunt asks a lot of questions, some of which come across as invasive or non-constructive. One example is we were planning to meet at a mutual family members house and she kept asking me questions ...
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Was it inappropriate for me to wear a qipao as a formal dress? [closed]

I wore a qipao to a holiday party earlier this year. I am an American with Vietnamese parents (They were born in Vietnam, escaped to America during the Vietnam War, and I was born in America) I do not ...
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Is it rude to not ask for a reason first when receiving a gift (chocolate) from a colleague? [closed]

Little bit of backstory: My colleague gave me a fancy looking chocolate (not a whole box) which I accepted saying "Thank you!" but then she asked "You are not asking, what's the occasion?". I did ask ...
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Group Date Split Check

My wife and I would like to ask another couple to a group date at a local restaurant. I'm fine with this, but I'm unsure as to whether a "group date" implies that the check will be split between the ...
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How do I correct the grammar of another person if they claim to be speaking my language for practice?

I have a friend, let's call him Bob. I met Bob many years ago back when I was working in another country. We keep in touch over Facebook, occasionally we can have a small conversation. Bob wants to ...
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How to convey interest after I've declined multiple invitations?

My neighbor who lives across the hall from me in my apartment building is clearly trying to extend an olive branch of friendship. We met at a community gathering for residents a little over a month ...
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Confronting an Inconsiderate Co-Worker

A little background: I am very conflict averse. I go out of my way to be friendly and accommodating. Recently I was promoted at work, but I am in a different group. I used to be in a technical ...
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Reminding lecturer to reply to previous email I sent

I sent an email to my lecturer asking for clarification about something however it has been a few days and he has not replied. Sometimes he replies to emails sometimes he does not. I need a reply fast ...
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Buying an expensive item from an acquaintance — making an offer

I want to buy an item from an acquaintance---we work in the same field roughly and have hung out a few times, I might refer to them as a friend loosely. The list price at a local shop is $1,050 pre-...
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What is the proper workplace etiquette for saying goodbye to a higher ranking coworker that you almost never interact with?

One of my colleagues is quitting his job and our supervisor has invited us to his adieu at a nearby restaurant. I cannot go there but would like to be polite enough to say goodbye to him. We were ...
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Etiquette regarding money participation when a coworker leaves?

I live in France. One of my coworkers is leaving soon and some other coworkers decided to collect money for him (in order to buy this coworker a gift). I was wondering, is there any formal etiquette ...
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What is a polite way to apologize when sneezing frequently at the office? [closed]

I have allergies and I sneeze a lot (at least twice a day and could be even 20 times a day) Does etiquette demand that I say "excuse me/sorry" after every time I sneeze, given the fact that it ...
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Is “I'm sorry” appropriate when offering condolence?

I think it's conventional to say "I'm sorry" when offering condolence -- for example, "I'm sorry to hear your mum died", or, "I was sorry to hear your mum died". Although it may be conventional I ...
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Etiquette of sending a “thank you” message to the host after attending a house party? [closed]

I was recently invited to my friend's house for lunch on a Sunday. We spent the afternoon together as well. I wonder if in western culture it is necessary to call up the next day and say something ...
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Grocery store line etiquette [closed]

Consider the following situation at the grocery store, on a normal day (i.e., not including out-of-the-ordinary cases like Black Friday) in a medium to large town (i.e., where almost no one will know ...
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What is the etiquette around greetings in online communication in India?

Background I work with people from a rather diverse set of cultures. We are spread across several cities, so most of our communication takes place on Slack. I have several co-workers who are from ...
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Refusing food from a neighbour?

I have a very good relationship with my neighbour. She sent us dishes but none of my family member likes her dishes including me. I do not wanna say to her that "please do not send us dishes" but I ...
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How to appreciate someone who is showing interest towards me? [closed]

I like a person on linkedin. He is a information security veteran and very knowledgable and famous person. When I reach out to him, he was very eager and generous towards me. I wish I could say him ...
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How to Ask a Muslim if He Adheres to strict Halal tradition [duplicate]

I would like to invite a Muslim friend and his family over for dinner and want to know how to casually inquire if they are strict Halal when it comes to food so that we can make the appropriate ...
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How do I politely ask the staff at my gym how long it will be before I can use the shower?

I'm male, and I often work out at around the time where the staff at my gym is cleaning the showers. They aren't doing it at a specific time, so I can't plan my way out of it. When it's female staff ...
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How to deal with “why not” as a response to the a why question? [closed]

I work with people who when asked "why are you doing it that way" or "why [any question]?" their response is always "why not"? My feeling is always that this a frivolous response and indicates a poor ...
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How to keep passengers off the phone

I am often the driver for friends and family whenever we travel, whether short or long distances. This is mostly due to the fact that I have the best track record, reflexes, judgement, etc. on the ...
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How to give a gift that was declined on the basis of welfare of the gifting party without being rude?

I am attending the wedding of a very close family member soon (45 days). This family member and their fiancé need new phones, their current one doesn't seem to last 30 minutes of use with a full ...
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Etiquette about crossing a door when someone also wants to cross from the opposite side?

Let's take the following situation: I'm on the outside and want to go inside Someone is inside and want to go outside The door is open (one of us is holding it) There isn't enough room for both of ...
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What is the etiquette for leaving after a stay with an unexpected host? [closed]

Say you go with a few friends on a night out, downtown fairly far from where you live. Afterwards, rather than dealing with how to get home, a friend of a friend offers the couch in their shared ...
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What is the proper etiquette for when someone you're not very close with is dealing with a terminally ill family member?

I'm currently enrolled in graduate school. I've been having a lot of trouble getting in touch with my advisor recently. He finally responded with apologies that he has been dealing with a terminally ...
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Etiquette for Cancelling Abroad Trip

A friend and I were looking at flights to Japan from our home city for a week or so back leading up to this year's Black Friday. Typically flights range from $1000-$1600 round trip, however during ...
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What's the etiquette for greeting people in a formal letter?

I need to send a case to the French Ministry of Justice for personal issues, so this is pretty much an official and important mail. I don't know who will read this mail so I can't begin the letter ...
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How many “bise” (kisses) should I give?

Context Let's assume we are in a COVID-free environment. In France, depending on where you are, we give different amounts of "bises" (kisses on the cheek) in greeting. For example, we give ...
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How to address a Korean co-worker?

My current employer is a global software company with offices in several continents. The company tries to maintain a culture of conviviality. Our main communication medium is text chat in English ; ...
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How do I tactfully ask for my hotel room to be cleaned more thoroughly? [closed]

I am doing some temporary work for a few months and the company is paying for my housing in a nearby hotel. The room comes with typical housekeeping service to clean the sheets, bathroom, etc. I have ...
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Appropriate wait time before re-sending RSVP request? [closed]

My teenage son has sent out an e-vite (online invitation service) for his birthday party at a one of those bowling/laser tag/multi-activity places. He’s extremely excited about the event, but ...
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Best way to respond to continue possible friendship

I am taking an online course. Two days ago, the instructor organized a meeting of all the students. I liked one of them – he is senior to me, and seems like a nice sort of person, friendly-like – and ...
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How to be persistent but not annoying when dealing with property manager

I'm trying to get my property manager to move me (total household = me + minor child) from a 1 bedroom unit to a 2 bedroom unit. I actually thought this would be a simple request but it's not ...
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What's the best way to talk to/meet a woman when you're an introvert who is nerdy/geeky type person? [closed]

Context: I am an introvert; I would classify myself as a creative problem solver with a love for art/math/science. Specifically drawing, computer programming, solving mathematical equations etc. My ...
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Telling my neighbors to not blow his weedy lawn clippings onto my newly mowed lawn [closed]

I have new neighbors who are apparently not well versed in mowing their lawn, or neighborly manners. When they first moved in, they did not have a working mower, only a very old push mower. After ...