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Questions that have a specific focus on people in the European region, more specifically when it is not necessary to use country-specific tags (such as [tag:united-kingdom]).

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Ask a girl whether she would like to come back to a hotel with me on a night out without being creepy

A bit of a background, I am in my early 20's, I was in a relationship for 8 years, we have broke up on good terms, and I have never experienced "single life" so I don't have any experience in this ...
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Etiquette when riding a taxi in Germany?

So I just recently rode a taxi again in Germany and I was wondering about the proper etiquette if there is one. I rode a total of like 3 taxi in my life and I never was sure on how to behave (I always ...
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How to press to receive updates without sounding obnoxious?

I recently (well, a few months ago now) backed a project on Kickstarter. It was not my first one, so I was fairly prepared (I thought) to the process. Well, turned out I was wrong. Unlike other ...
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How do I motivate my partner to study a certain field?

Background: I am an engineer, but I like to do more than that. I have some hobbies that also bring some extra cash. My wife, on the other hand, she doesn't work right now. She is looking for a job, ...
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I'm in a committed relationship and I'm being hit on in the workplace - how do I stop it without bringing it to HR?

Some Background I'm a 21 year old female I'm living in west Europe I am in a committed relationship with my boyfriend The Problem I recently started an internship for the summer which is amazing ...
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How can I decline an invitation and then go without them?

In 2016 I went to a comic con with a group of online friends, of which a couple of streamers with a decent sized community. F is in this community but nobody really speaks to him outside from what he ...
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How to deal with discussions about finances with SO without it escalating?

My SO (legal life-partnership status1) and I have been together for 6 years and bought a house together 1 year ago. He has a great paying job and earns about 3 times my salary. I have a decent pay. ...
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Is there something that screams 'virgin' about me? [closed]

At my work there are these two colleagues, let's call them Bob and Adam just for convenience, who have a history of trash-talking about literally everyone in the company. Recently I've stumbled upon ...
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I'm 24 with a 4-year-old son. How to handle uncomfortable questions from people?

I'm 24 years old and I have a 4 year old son who was conceived by accident. I don't know about other countries but that's definitely not usual in mine (Spain). My son's mother and I broke up about ...
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How to handle unexpected expenses during a road trip?

I took part in a 10 day road trip across several European countries, with a group of friends and acquaintances. We traveled with several cars, and were sharing the fuel costs. I took part several ...
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How can I convey my sympathy to friends who have recently told me they can't have children while avoiding hurting them?

Friends of mine recently wrote me that they would really have liked to have children but unfortunately can’t. I would like to express my sympathy for them while avoiding hurting them more than they ...
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How to ask why I was not included without causing a scene?

My partner has a friend from way-back, T. We sometimes hang out with him and his family and go on day trips together. I've known them for 5 years but the contact is not always as frequent. While we ...
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How to deal with my boyfriend’s mother without affecting my relationship with him?

Background I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 years now and even if everything is perfect with him and I couldn’t be happier, it is not the same with his family and especially with his mother, who ...
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How to create a more engaging online conversation with a friend? [duplicate]

I have a friend I talk with online and the conversations we are having are rather short. I would like to have more engaging conversations without forcing myself and the other person in a conversation ...
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6answers
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How to tactfully ask a housemate to leave

Background: Me and my fiancée have been living together for three years, two in our actual residence. Half a year ago we invited a friend of mine, who was coming to the city we live in to study, to ...
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6answers
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How to discuss that I have codependent behavior?

Codependence I have codependent behavior, which means that I tend to get too attached to someone. Wikipedia does a better job at explaining what it is. Background I have a girl I fancy a lot and ...
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How to ask someone not to lie?

A friend of mine asked me a question, which I answered. After 4 hours I got a message with "sorry I was busy doing homework, I'll come back to you tomorrow". While this on itself is not that big a ...
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How to properly reject an intimate suggestion?

This question comes from a situation that was quite a while ago. At the time I was 16, while I'm 22 now. I'm a guy and was at my girlfriend’s house while we were cuddling. She suggested that I touched ...
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How to persuade a close acquaintance to seek/try out psychotherapy? [closed]

"Jack" has had a severe personal trauma in the 80ies as a young adult and as a result had a series of very unfortunate experiences with neurologists and psychologists within a confined hospital unit. ...
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8answers
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How can I best let my once-close friend know that I think our friendship is over--if at all? [closed]

My once-closest friend and I have seriously drifted apart. It's come as far as that I do not want to invest any more energy in the friendship and I'd prefer it to just quietly end. I am unsure, ...
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2answers
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How to tell someone you don't remember an important event that happened?

Background While it is normal to forget events that happened in the past, there is an event I can't remember at all. This event happened 2 years ago when someone confessed(confession of love) to me. ...
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How can I communicate my expectations regarding scheduling a meet-up with someone?

I am currently in the situation where someone I'm dating (let's call that person Alex for now) thinks I am expecting more than I actually do. This relates to response times to chat messages. Two ...
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How can I ask my girlfriend to share the cost of our dates rather than having to always pay for them myself?

I went for a drink with my girlfriend yesterday. I don't see her very often - it is a one-hour drive for me, she's coming to my town in a few weeks for her first time. I always spend around 15€ on a ...
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How to ask people to be more straightforward? [closed]

Often when I'm talking to people they are simply not straight forward. I don't want to be rude but I don't like it when people beat around the bush. I often say to them something like this: Could ...
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12answers
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How to ask my partner not to postpone chores?

We've been living together for about a year. Things don't always go as well as they should due to my partner postponing chores A LOT. I on the other hand like to be organised as doing things on time ...
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11answers
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How to tell a colleague to take care of how he looks

I am working in a software consultancy company, and our job has a good deal of direct interaction with clients. We are a very international bunch of people, but we are based in Germany, and all our ...
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14answers
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Stopping a relationship with a good friend because It's too overwhelming and new for me

Context : I'm in my early forties and I've always been a loner and never really made friends. Until recently I didn't even know what was so great about them. I don't have any problems socializing, ...
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19answers
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How do I deal with a coworker who unplugs my monitor because I didn't turn it off?

Background: I have a coworker - let's call her Anne - who believes that saving energy wherever possible is everyone's most important responsibility. Anne has made that clear from the day that I joined ...
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4answers
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How to ask people to speak softer?

I am suffering from a medical condition called hyperacusis, which makes normal levels of noise painful (and potentially damaging) for me. I have found ways to cope with this condition in my daily life,...
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13answers
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How to ask a new friend about his sexuality?

A few weeks ago, I met a guy, and we started a friendship. We're still getting to know each other, but as time passes I have more and more reasons to believe he has different interests than I (a ...
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How to ask out a German girl in the college? [closed]

So I am an international student at a US university and I have acquaintance with a German girl (of the same age but a different program) through her roommates who are my classmates. We always interact ...
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1answer
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Conventions for small talk in Germany as a non-German English speaker

Small talk is something that I have trouble with. Most advice that I can find is quite US-centric, like asking people what they are looking forward to. In my country this would be quite strange. ...
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Invitation for dinner refused with a strange reason [closed]

I have got a new colleague to work together on a very long project. We have worked for a month now, things look good so far. She is a very reserved person, but I am not a big extrovert myself, so this ...
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12answers
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How to respond to questions that feel like I have to defend the relationship I'm in

I'm 18, my girlfriend is 23. We've known each other for a few years, been together for a few weeks. Sometimes people (a mix of family and acquaintances) will ask questions like "Isn't that a too big ...
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Answer to: “Why aren't you with your boyfriend right now?”

I have a boyfriend, but still live with my parents and siblings. We've been dating for 8 months. It seems that every time I have a spare moment with my significant other (SO) not present, someone's ...
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How can I politely ask my money back? [duplicate]

I lent some money to a friend two months ago, in order to help him start his own job. He asked me if I could give him 350€ to pay some workers that had done some wall painting at his place, and that ...
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Bringing up that something was mentioned before

So this personally is not me, but I saw it happen in our work chat room. A co-worker asked an overseas team to do something (we're in the USA). Their team lead replied about it being a holiday over ...
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How to get along with European roommates?

I am a white male engineer born in Brazil and lived also in United States and France. I usually opt to live with roommates since it is more affordable and also I like the atmosphere of a shared living....
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How can you distance yourself from people you have nothing in common with without being a snob?

Over the last couple of months, I was entrusted by a few people in my workplace with the fact that I was considered a snob by a large part of the staff. That sort of hit a soft spot since I always ...
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How to communicate to my co-workers that they don't have to say “bless you” when I sneeze?

I am slightly annoyed by my co-workers who say "bless you" everytime I sneeze. It feels awkward to me to reply with a "thank you". I usually only thank people when they really helped me out in a ...
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How to divulge good exam results without coming across as bragging?

I’m a graduate working in another industry than the one I studied for my BA, so I’m undertaking lots of external training relevant to my job. I've been studying quite hard and have been doing really ...
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How to get clients to pay their bills and still be happy?

I'm working in the enterprise SaaS equivalent of gym memberships. The client knows they should use it because it's good for them (earns them $$$), and once they get into the swing of it, they enjoy it....
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How can I talk to my boyfriend about chores “sharing”?

Background I have been living with my boyfriend for three months. Both of us are working as trainees in different companies, but while he has 2 hours of daily commuting, I can reach my workplace ...
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3answers
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How to explain to someone that expecting a favour from you is rude?

Context My partner and I are co-habiting, living with my parents. I commute to work Monday to Friday, working 38 hours a week. My partner works from home. He wakes up with me in the mornings to see ...
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Afraid of losing best friends, how can I tell them?

I have a group of friends with whom I've spent pretty much all of my time during high school and my childhood. We played on the same sports team, spent every free minute playing video games etc. I was ...
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How do I tell someone that I need to fire him for lack of talent?

I messed up. Hiring good programmers is a hard problem, and I failed. A few weeks have passed since the new replacement for the junior developer position started, and it is becoming increasingly ...
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How to react to someone pushing me in public transport?

Backround Today I was on my way to work on a bus that was really packed. A woman boarded at some point pushing the people already on board and near the entrance (including me) really hard. My ...
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Is it rude to compliment Northern/Western European girls on their appearance?

In countries like China, Japan, South Korea (the three countries I'm most familiar with), it is quite common, though a few feminists here and there don't like it, that men mention a girl's appearance ...
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What could you possibly say to a friend who cooked a meal you didn't enjoy at all?

Some friends invite you to their home. There's just the 4 of you (2 couples). S/he is cooking. At the end, s/he is asking you how was the meal s/he made for you. You didn't enjoy it at all, food was ...
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What to do if my family keeps trying to fix my relationship with a family member?

I've been estranged from my abusive mother for some time now. We always had problems and she suddenly stopped talking to me, which by no means upset me - I've been feeling better after this, because ...