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Questions tagged [family]

For any issues related to family or families. Whether it is the questioners family or someone else's family. Can be used for questions relating to gatherings for families.

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what should be my behavior toward my brother who is negative minded about me? [on hold]

I am working in a factory where I have to consult with a lot of males colleagues and I am bound to work at that factory because of my financial problems. My brother is actually very conservative & ...
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How can I end a phone-call with my aunt without sounding rude?

I'm terrible at phone calls. I don't know how to put an end to them if the other person doesn't take the initiative to put an end to them themselves. This is generally not a problem except with my ...
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How to get my wife to accept bisexuality before our daughter comes out of the closet?

My oldest daughter is 19 and told me last halloween that she's bi. My daughter is amazingly high functioning (mentally, socially, even professionally) but is living at home at the moment because ...
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How many time should you try to call someone if the other person is not answering?

Last Monday, I wanted to ask a question to my cousin and decided to phone her. I called her once and she didn't answer so I decided to try a second time right after my first attempt. When she finally ...
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How to keep an interesting conversation going when there's a dog present at family gatherings?

I try to pay a regular visit my grandparents once a week, and on special occasions like their birthdays. Most of these visits coincide with my aunt, uncle and cousins being there as well. They also ...
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How do I make my dad respect my opinions?

This has happened time after time. When making a decision together with dad, he always goes behind my back and ignore my opinions, which is really frustrating and even infuriating some times for me. ...
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My sister refuses to help clean. Our shared room is extremely cluttered and our relationship becoming strained. How can I get her to help out?

I share a bedroom with my younger sister, she is currently 15 and I am 20. Recently I have been becoming very stressed out with the clutter in the room. I begun cleaning out my own belongings, ...
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Etiquette at communion for someone who is not religious

I'm an agnostic young adult living in America A few years ago my family and I were at a Lutheran church because my cousin was becoming a pastor. Throughout the whole ceremony I did what I saw others ...
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How can I mediate between my fighting adult siblings?

TLDR: I have fighting adult siblings. How can I mediate? I have two adult sisters (I'll call them Janet and Carol) who have been fighting for some time now. The root of the fight was two years ...
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How can I refuse my brother's plan for an expensive trip?

I live in a developing country. My wife and I make US$32,000 yearly. My brother and his wife live and work in a developed country and make much more than us, probably 3 times more. Recently, some of ...
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How to ask close family and friends to stop casually joking about things that are hurtful to you?

I am an outgoing person. I have no problem interacting with people and making friends, nor do I have an ego problem. But I have recently noticed that sometimes when I am just hanging out with family ...
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How can I approach my bipolar brother so that he would speak with me?

My brother has a serious problem affecting all of us. Around 15 years ago, he started showing a great interest in religions and theology. He wanted to find God, the true and only God. Now after ...
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How to talk to my parents about their excessive social media usage?

I've recently graduated from university and am now working full time, while living at home until I finish paying off my student loans and can save up to move out. While I'm still living at home, I ...
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How can I defuse a violent argument between two people?

TL;DR How can I calm the situation when my mother and sister are violently arguing without the situation backfiring at me? Background The other day, my mother and my little sister (17 years) were ...
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How to tell a family member they are not to have unsupervised time with your child

My wife and I are struggling with a situation involving her sister. Let's call her Suzy. Suzy is an alcoholic/drug addict and is in a relationship with another alcoholic and physically abusive man, ...
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How to deal with a family member who does not care about anything in life?

TL;DR How to help/support a close person with no long-term goals in life who shies away from everything that is not immediately rewarding. My brother seems to be completely unmotivated. The only ...
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Going to live in someone else's house--how to ask for rules?

Background I have found a new job in another city. While I'm looking for an apartment I will be living in my cousin's house. I have never lived in her house before (and I have been at her house for ...
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How to deal with aunt harassing my 15-year-old daughter for money?

I'm uncertain how to deal with a family issue. My 15-year-old daughter is being hounded by her aunt for $8,000, for no good reason, and she's kept phoning her cellphone morning, noon and night. She ...
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Retorting to a lying person

Scenario When it comes to certain family matters, one of my cousins always lies to my mom. It could be from a simple occasion like where the family had gone for a vacation or a more serious one like ...
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Tactfully declining a family Thanksgiving invitation

That time of year is approaching once again. Tis' the season for social obligation, and my cousin has already started in about Thanksgiving via text messages. This year has brought a bit of a twist in ...
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How can I make peace with my younger brother

Personally, I am a 21-year-old male, and my family consists of my mum, dad and a younger brother aged 17. To provide an overall context of my family before I talk about the problem. Analysis of ...
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How to ask my grandmother to be nicer with my grandfather?

My grandfather (85 years old) is affected by Alzheimer disease, and although it is still a mild form, it is now visible in the conversation as he often struggles to remember a name or loses his train ...
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How to make girlfriend feel better about health and body

For context, my girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year now, and we're really close, especially when it comes to talking things over. We would both describe ourselves as nerds, and would ...
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How to communicate to my aunt that she made an honest mistake when buying food for a family meal?

TL;DR My aunt bought some houmous thinking it was vegan when it wasn't. How do I tell her she made a mistake without upsetting her? Background The other day, I was at a family dinner. My aunt didn'...
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How to (politely) tell someone they are not welcome in your home

A friend of mine, Chris, recently had a massive falling out with their "step-mom", Mary. That part they've learned to accept, but the problem is that Mary is the mother to one of Chris' siblings that ...
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What is “holding space” and how do I do it?

I recently came across an article titled A Man's Guide To "Holding Space", which was linked in an answer to this question. I had never heard the term before, but recognised some of my own patterns of ...
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How to communicate to my mother that I find it hurtful when she cooks dessert for everyone except me who is vegan?

TL;DR When my mom bakes a cake for us (whoever is at home but it's usually me, my little sister, my father and her), she uses eggs (which are not vegan), even if I will be there. How can I tell her ...
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How to suggest alternative music for my children to sing at my grandmother's religious funeral?

My religious maternal grandmother passed away recently and my mother is involved in planning the services which will be held at a chapel and presided over by the religious minister. My mother just ...
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How do I find the causes of the issues between me and my siblings?

My siblings and I have a rocky relationship and I want to find out what the causes for the issues are. The last times I've asked them about this I've got responses like "Everything is fine" or "There ...
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Family constantly bets when playing games

Background: My siblings are used to spending money without a care in the world and it has leaked into the board games we play. When we play games they always want to bet. When I ask them if we can ...
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How can I approach my dad talking to me about nothing but career and life choices?

TL;DR Strained relationship with my father, symptoms of which are: the only thing he can talk to me about are life choices, when I want to talk about literally anything else. How can I discuss this ...
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How to respond to someone being late with a favor [closed]

A relative of mine is doing me a favor. I didn't ask him for it, he offered it, but I'm genuinely happy that he wants to do it for me. He promised me to do it this week, but today he sent me a message ...
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Should I leave my dad? [closed]

I'm 19, I just graduated in May. I'm planning on joining the Air Force soon but due to the state of my family, I feel some guilt about doing this and leaving my dad. My family has very strong ...
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Asking my cousin to invite my GF to the wedding

I come from a very big family (31 first cousins) and I only see them about once a year since they live in Mexico and I live in Spain (I live alone with my brother, all the rest of the family is in ...
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How can I stress to my brother the importance of saving when he relies on me as a safety net?

My younger brother has a wife and two daughters and has habit of spending money. For example, he likes going to movies often, eating out often, and buying name brand clothes. I also have a wife and ...
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How can I work with my family to respect my boundaries when it comes to event planning when my husband is in town?

I'm in a long distance marriage right now - my husband is American, I am Canadian. He comes to visit me periodically (and I him), and when we do visits here, my family is very insistent that we do ...
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How to stop unwanted advice about my pet?

Me and my partner have an indoor cat. She stays in our apartment except when we are away travelling, then we take her to my partner's parents to look after her until we get back (this happens 2-3 ...
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Is there a way to ask a person to not ask so many questions without coming across as rude?

My aunt asks a lot of questions, some of which come across as invasive or non-constructive. One example is we were planning to meet at a mutual family members house and she kept asking me questions ...
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How to clarify to a person that I don't want her to talk to me about a certain topic anymore?

Every time my grandmother talks to me (everyday since I live in their house for almost a year now) she brings up a sensitive topic. This situation has been going on for about 4 months now and I can’t ...
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I think my mother is seducing me. How can I ask her about it?

My mother had behaviors towards me I'd consider inappropriate. For example, when I was 17 she dropped her pants in front of me once. I knew she did this on purpose. She stayed like this for 5-10 ...
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How can I talk to my friend about reciprocal sharing?

Context I currently live with my family, in a fairly sizeable house. My sister also lives at home, as does her boyfriend who has grown to be my closest friend. Both of our main hobbies is mechanical ...
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Asking family members to respect my space

I am a 17 year old female living with my parents, a brother and sister. Everyday when I get back from school I enjoy my alone time in my room as I get tired of being around people the whole day quite ...
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How to argue with father who denies everything and makes illogical arguments? [closed]

Not sure how to approach this question so please bear with me. Every member of my family, including me, has a problem with my father's behaviour. I am trying to find a way to solve it. Background ...
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What to tell family who ask about a friend I had a falling out with? [closed]

I had a very friend who I was close with that I knew for a long time. My family even knew him from birthday parties and we had gone on trips together etc. My friend recently involved me in a scam and ...
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How to talk to my sister about not spending as much time with her?

Background: Growing up, I was always close with my sister because I spent a lot of time with her and told her everything. As I grew older and went to college, I began spending less time with her and ...
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How to improve a relationship with my mother? [closed]

My mother often yells: “I’m a horrible mother. After everything I’ve done for you this is what I get. I don’t know why I am being punished. I should’ve enjoyed my activities instead of taking you to ...
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How do I send money as wedding gift [closed]

My cousin is getting married. She is considerably younger in age and we live in different parts of the country. I would not be attending the wedding. I know how much I would like to gift. But how can ...
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How do I help my girlfriend defend herself against manipulative parents?

Some Background My girlfriend's family moved to the US about 2 years ago to escape their home country (which is going through political and economic turmoil) to start over. Her mom sells insurance, ...
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How to deal with someone who always feels treated disrespectfully?

I already asked this question before, and it was deleted for being off-topic (also because I did not check back for too long, and thus was unable to adjust my post according to the comments / the ...
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How to handle dissatisfaction with not sharing problems [closed]

I'm a person that prefer to solve problems rather than sharing them. Talking about "my day" or venting out about issues is, from my point of view, a waste of time which I could use by solving the ...