Questions tagged [family]

For any issues related to family or families. Whether it is the questioners family or someone else's family. Can be used for questions relating to gatherings for families.

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How can I stop my mom from targeting me to do the chores just because I’m a girl?

My mom is always trying to get me to do household chores like washing dishes, brooming, cooking, cleaning, etc. I hate that she is the designated person for doing chores in our household. I strongly ...
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How can I convince my sister's husband to switch to boxer shorts?

At a recent family gathering, my younger sister asked me for help. She and her husband have been trying to conceive a child but have been unsuccessful. After going to a fertility doctor, they got ...
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How to convince adult child to pay for their keep

I’m asking advice for a close friend of ours. Let me give some background first. They have a 24 year old daughter that lives with them in the United States. She is the single mom of a 3 year old. ...
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How to tell my in-laws that their poor treatment of my wife is making her depressed?

My wife has been experiencing anxiety and increasingly, depression, as a result of her relationships with friends and family treating her like she is worthless. It is never by words that they give ...
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Preventing certain topics from being raised by a close relative

My friend (I got her consent to ask this question here) is currently dealing with major depression and anxiety issues (she is currently on therapy and medication), which started after a messy breakup -...
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How to explain to family that I don't want to keep fixing the same tech problems?

Firstly, I have a very good relationship with my family and there are no issues on that front. However, due to me working in a technical capacity professionally all of the technical questions / issues ...
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How do I refuse doing something for my possibly narcissistic grandmother?

I live with my possibly narcissistic grandmother, she is about 75 years old and has progressive hearing loss. Basically, it's almost impossible to get her into therapy now, and if she is truly ...
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How to prevent family from treating you like a child?

I am 24 years old, financially independent for the last 5 years and I live on my own as well. I'm a straight A student, happily engaged. Yet all members of my family communicate to me like I'm a ...
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How can I communicate with my family and friend that they would appreciate the way I am?

I don't know...one day I was told by a friend that I was being too persnickety. I don't know that word to be honest so I looked up. Persnickety means someone being picky or fussy. I don't think I am ...
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How can I refuse to kiss my mother while minimizing the hurt feelings?

Note: this has nothing to do with the current pandemic. I don't like physical contact, especially kisses and especially when I don't fully trust the person touching me. Also, my current relationship ...
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Why people don't take their responsibilities

I have a brother, 17 years old. He never likes the school. He doesn't do any homework, repeats courses, and he remains the same. He doesn't eat well, and only wants to talk with their friends. I've ...
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How can you get closure from ending a toxic family relationship?

My cousins (all in the same family) and I bicker, a lot. I don't like that they tend to harass my grandmother when she shares political posts. When this happens, I tend to call my cousins out for ...
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How to deal with parents political views?

I've grown up valuing democracy, liberties, and a trust in science. In Europe, among those lucky enough to be well-educated, my political views are quite average. Obviously, these views were seeded by ...
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How can I explain to my partner that the relationship with parents depends on cultural expectations?

Me and my wife come from different countries with very different social norms and expectations (Russia and Spain). We live in Germany and handle the differences between us rather successfully as we ...
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Explaining to my future child why I chose to be absent from their life [closed]

[UK] I recently discovered that a girl I had been seeing a few months ago is pregnant and has decided to keep the baby. I've told her that I'm having no part in it. I won't be signing as the father ...
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How do I communicate with my friend about her hurtful behavior?

Context: L and I have been friends since junior high. Starting college, we both left our home town and went our separate ways in life. Over the last 20 years we still kept in touch and would meet up ...
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How do I discuss boundaries and moving out with my son?

I am a mother, I need to talk with my son, let's call him Jay, about moving out. He is 28 and has had severe depression over the years. He left college after the 1st year and has had several jobs. To ...
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How can my family and I reconcile with my son-in-law?

My son-in-law wants nothing to do with my family and I'd really like to change that and have him as part of the family. Some background information about how we got here is needed, my daughter met ...
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How to get relative to respond without coming across as overly nudgy?

About two weeks ago, I reconnected with a second cousin of mine. She was visiting with her family, and although our two families are close, I never had the opportunity to really communicate with her (...
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What to say to someone going to a funeral they are looking forward to?

When a family member or friend is going to a funeral for someone they deeply hated (and have practically been celebrating their death), what do you say to sign off a conversation on the topic? Have ...
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How to politely ask a parent to not say something about me in public?

On three occasions (so far) my father has blurted out a phrase along the lines of "my son works as an X. he makes really good money. Tell him/her how much you make", then he looks at me. The first ...
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How to talk to someone who is interfering with my parenting?

I am an introvert and recently moved into a house where I live with my wife's brothers as their mom has recently died. The elder brother of my wife is very cocky and proud and yet does nothing. He is ...
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How can I tell my brother to stop giving me condoms for my birthday?

Every year since I turned 18, my older brother has given me a 3-pack of condoms for my birthday with a note that says, "Maybe this year, loser." The first time it happened, I just kind of laughed it ...
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How to encourage a great-aunt with dementia to talk about her past instead of reiterating the same story?

This Christmas, we're going to not only have my grandparents, but also two siblings of my grandmother join our family for dinner. The great-uncle is often fine, he's still very active, has plenty of ...
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How to explain my complicated family background to people that I don't know very well?

In 2016 I moved 8,000 km from Canada to Ireland with my Irish husband and daughter. It's coming up to Christmas and some people have asked me (including some newly found cousins) some seemingly ...
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How do I effectively convey to a family member that tipping a certain amount is expected?

In the United States, it is customary to tip anywhere between 18-25% for "regular" service in restaurants (though from experience, people - myself included - usually aim for 20%). In extreme ...
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Wife hanging out with her brothers, makes husband jealous

I have a friend who is recently married. My friend loves both her husband and her brothers. Frequently, she goes out with her husband and her brothers for a movie night or shopping. During these ...
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How to convince younger brother to participate in helping me and others instead of being too focused to something?

Background I fought my younger brother when he flat out told me that whatever he's doing at the moment is much more important than any problems that are not his and that it is too much of a hassle to ...
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How to properly tell others that forgetting something doesn't mean I don't care about them?

I am taking postgraduate education and also have a very stressful job and I'm in a serious relationship. Getting these things together take a lot of my time and mind. When I'm around people not from ...
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How to tell my Mom that I don't care about someone without upsetting her?

Last week my Grandmother had surgery. My Mom asked me why I didn't visit her. I don't care about my Grandmother due to horrible things she does sometimes. For example, out of revenge, she creates ...
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How do I deal with my boyfriends parents who hate me? [closed]

For a backstory, my boyfriend just recently graduated and moved to college, because he already had a rocky relationship with his parents. He was on the edge of getting kicked out of his house several ...
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How to convey to parents and friends that I want to change my job? [closed]

My parents work for an amazing charity which does a lot of good work. Giving out to people is something they strongly believe in. They encouraged me to also work for the charity after I left school ...
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How to tell my alcoholic aunt I fear for my cousins' lives because of her drunk-driving?

Content warning: Alcoholism, physical and psychological violence. My cousin just called me in tears. Again. She shared her fears with me about her parents drinking too much, even when they have to ...
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How can I approach the situation where I feel I’m neglected?

I’m the youngest child out of three and I’ve felt passive and alone most of the time since I was a kid. My oldest siblings were and are closer to each other (now even physically since I’m abroad). ...
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How do I bring up with my parents that I'm transgender? [closed]

I want to come out to my parents that I'm transgender so I can start with my Hormone Replacement Therapy. I'm an adult, so I don't need their consent but then I would be sneaking it behind their backs ...
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How do express my condolences, when I couldn't show up at the funeral?

Two days ago, one of my old relatives passed away. His family lives 900km away and due to my job, I couldn't show up at funeral. Where I live it's important to show up. I've thought of calling his ...
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How to make my entourage understand that I'm not a technical support [duplicate]

I'm a 20 years old programmer and everyday comes with this person asking me for help to configure his iCloud, fix his printer, remove a virus, and other tasks like that. Yesterday my father comes ask ...
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Family member got offended when my uncle gave her a compliment which she thinks is not ok to give to a young woman [closed]

So we have a groupchat on messenger which includes all family members (20 persons) now 1 girl posted a picture of a magazine in which her picture is. A lot of aunts said: "wow you look great!" etc. ...
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How to let my kids believe in Santa Claus without lying to them?

I believe that the most important aspect of human morality is honestly. So I've always been... reluctant... about telling my kids Santa is coming. On the one hand, I want them to enjoy the ...
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How to stop paying for my parent's poor financial decisions? [closed]

One of my parents decided to pay for and renovate an old house with all of their remaining money (inherited, not saved by them). When this decision was made, I warned them that I thought it was a bad ...
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How to inform my family of my child's new gender identity?

As an extension to this question, my daughter was very relieved when I offered to talk to my family for her. My husband thought of having a brunch with our kids not in attendance. I thought of doing ...
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How to talk about what religious denomination you belong to without making the person uncomfortable?

I recently came into contact with some close relatives (my paternal grandparents) that I've never met and we've been talking on the phone and over email for a month or so. I sent them pictures of my ...
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How to ask a stranger on Facebook to talk to someone about getting in touch without sounding like a creepy stalker?

I found a long lost relative of mine on Facebook. He is my paternal uncle. I added him as a friend and sent a message a few months ago. My relative does not go on Facebook very often and has not yet ...
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How to handle the aftermath of a parent leaking information I want to keep private to family?

My parents have a 'bad' habit of disclosing information about any unfinished business of mine, or about other things I like to keep private for reasons, to people ranging from family to vague ...
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How to help my child come out as a trans woman to extended family?

My daughter was brave enough to come out to us that she is a woman. That story is on Parenting SE. My daughter would like to come out to the extended family well before the holidays so that people ...
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How to help my girlfriend be more expressive of herself and develop own identity

I have a girlfriend whom I love very much. She is very intelligent and has a warm, caring personality. However, one thing I noticed is that she is somewhat reluctant to have her own opinions on a lot ...
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How do I convince my dad to support my mom’s surgery?

Context My mom has been terminally ill for almost a year and my dad has been the primary care taker. I recently moved internationally back to my home country and have been the secondary care taker ...
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How can I refuse a dinner with my relatives? [closed]

I have never been close to one of my relatives. The only living thing I like is my dog. We are having dinner tomorrow with a bunch of relatives and friends. My dad will pick me up at 7 pm but I don'...
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How to tell/ask my brother to provide his own food?

I host regular game and activity nights at my house. I have a somewhat open group of friends that I invite, and these people are welcome to bring an additional friend as well. I want everyone, ...
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Tactfully telling someone that they are the reason for your anxiety

Last weekend, I was at my parent's home and my aunt, uncle and a family friend were also invited. I have some anxiety issue which means that, when there is too many people, or just people that I'm not ...

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