Questions tagged [family]

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How to handle the aftermath of a parent leaking information I want to keep private to family?

My parents have a 'bad' habit of disclosing information about any unfinished business of mine, or about other things I like to keep private for reasons, to people ranging from family to vague ...
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How do me and my dad cope with my mom doing a disappearing act and stating she isn't coming back? [closed]

My mom has recently become an illegal immigrant in England; she's admitted it as such via her Instagram. She just upped and left, with no real warning; my dad is devastated. I'm 25/F and an only ...
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What are the consequences of giving money to a family member that helped me previously? [closed]

My sister is searching the apartment of her dreams. She found an interesting offer, but she can't afford the down-payment to start the loan. So she asked our parents and me if we could borrow her some ...
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How to help my child come out as a trans woman to extended family?

My daughter was brave enough to come out to us that she is a woman. That story is on Parenting SE. My daughter would like to come out to the extended family well before the holidays so that people ...
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How to help my girlfriend be more expressive of herself and develop own identity

I have a girlfriend whom I love very much. She is very intelligent and has a warm, caring personality. However, one thing I noticed is that she is somewhat reluctant to have her own opinions on a lot ...
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How do I convince my dad to support my mom’s surgery?

Context My mom has been terminally ill for almost a year and my dad has been the primary care taker. I recently moved internationally back to my home country and have been the secondary care taker ...
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How can I refuse a dinner with my relatives? [closed]

I have never been close to one of my relatives. The only living thing I like is my dog. We are having dinner tomorrow with a bunch of relatives and friends. My dad will pick me up at 7 pm but I don'...
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How to tell/ask my brother to provide his own food?

I host regular game and activity nights at my house. I have a somewhat open group of friends that I invite, and these people are welcome to bring an additional friend as well. I want everyone, ...
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Tactfully telling someone that they are the reason for your anxiety

Last weekend, I was at my parent's home and my aunt, uncle and a family friend were also invited. I have some anxiety issue which means that, when there is too many people, or just people that I'm ...
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How can I tactfully refuse to tell my loving brother my home address?

I'm chummy and cozy with my brother, but he has very loose lips and can't keep secrets - peradventure because he has genetic disorders? Of course my door is always open to him! Rather, my parents are ...
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How to tell my mother that my wife does not want to attend a family birthday party? [closed]

After returning from an Anniversary trip last week, my sister informed us of an upcoming birthday party being held for her daughter this coming weekend - the drive there is several hours away, so we ...
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How to handle my perceived disrespect to Aunt? [closed]

Today I saw my aunt for the first time in months, possibly over a year. She was never around during my childhood, not a part of my or my siblings lives. We have never received a gift from her or were ...
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How can I stop my niece with developmental disorder from sitting behind my juice bar?

I own a small juice bar, with two seats behind the counter for me and my employees, and a piddling number of seats for customers that are usually occupied. My brother has genetic disorders and his ...
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Effectively communicating that I am not withholding information

I am a twenty-four old man and I live with my mother. I have never been in any romantic relationship with anyone all my life. I wanted to take up a job and move out as soon as I graduated but my ...
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How to befriend someone who doesn't like to talk?

Background: I’m a 22-year-old woman, my brother is a 25-year-old man. We were close growing up, but around high school we drifted apart. As of now I wouldn’t say there’s much friendship between us at ...
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How to tell your grandparent to not come to fetch you with their car?

I often come to visit my grandparents during the weekend and they will always come to fetch me at the train station in their car. However, my grandpa (who is the one driving) is old and his vision ...
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How to decline physical affection from a child whose parents are pressuring them?

My Situation I am an uncle to 6 nieces and nephews. I live about 1000 miles away from the rest of my family, so I only see them 2-3 times each year. When it comes time to say goodbye, it is common ...
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Communicating that I don't appreciate being repeatedly pressed to do something

A close family member, Ann, has been trying to get me to do XYZ for years. She'll text me every now and then asking if I've done it yet. Every time we see each other she'll no doubt bring it up. She's ...
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How to approach boundary setting when family composition changes?

My wife's sister is very close to our family, and over the course of the last few years, it's become a common practice for her to do her laundry at our house. I don't generally mind this, my wife ...
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How to gracefully navigate potentially negative or bewildered reactions to calling a long lost relative?

I am seeking to reconnect with my estranged father of 20 years. I found an entry in the phone book that could potentially be his father (my grandfather). The name matches and it's a 20 minute walk to ...
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What to keep in mind when telling an aunt how wrong her actions are, without creating further family conflict?

In a few weeks, my grandparents will celebrate their 60th wedding anniversary by having a family dinner. My grandparents made 2 decisions about that dinner: To only invite their children, their ...
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Asking my sibling to not tease me about a specific subject

This weekend, I was with my sister (we are both around 25 years old and I'm the youngest). The first day, she learned something about me and started teasing me about it. The second day, we were ...
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How can I tell my wife to pay more attention to everything without sounding condescending or rude?

My wife doesn't pay attention to anything she's doing or what is happening around her. For example: she doesn't pay attention to holes, pits, and ledges when we're out and she's pushing our son's ...
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How to ask a 3rd party to tell someone to contact me?

I am looking for information on my estranged father of 20 years. I found the sister of his old best friend on Facebook. Her name is Lily. Lily told me her brother George lived with my father for many ...
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How to politely ask my family to stop pressuring me to 'like' posts more on social media?

It happens fairly often: someone in the family buys a 'cool new thing', and posts pictures of it on social media like Whatsapp. Sometimes something interesting pops up that deserves a comment from me, ...
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How to stop family members from giving me pictures of their children? [duplicate]

I want to know how to politely ask family members to not give me pictures of their children. Every year I try to find suitable presents for my family members only to receive the exact same present ...
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How do I call out (tell him his behavior is unacceptable) a narcissistic father?

TL;DR: I want to communicate to my narcissistic father that it is unacceptable that he is attempting to blackmail my sister. Refer to my past questions for more information regarding my father and ...
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Convey the wish of being grandparent while acknowledging your children views [closed]

There are multiple questions about expressing to family/friends that you don't or might not want children. I personally feel that my father's side of the family didn't do a great job about ...
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Avoiding conflict when showing my family my new name

I don't like my name, I never had. Recently, I found myself a new name that I really love and I have started using it online. Now, the thing is that I just received a (nice) mug with my "new name" on ...
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How to tell daughter in law not to bring her friend to Easter dinner? [closed]

My daughter in law has a close friend that wants to come for Easter Sunday dinner. She invited herself. She is a very sweet girl and I normally do not mind having her around. At the same time, she ...
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Acknowledge there is a problem without making the other person more worried

A little about me: I'm on the autism spectrum; I have tiredness issues and other related problems. I'm currently working full time and this plus my tiredness makes it really difficult for me to eat ...
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How to say no to a family member who wants to drive the car

I am a very introverted kind of person and don't argue with others. Sometimes it feels like some people just do not know how and where to stop with me. I have a car and there are some people in my ...
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How to stop reoccuring conflict in family home

Context: I am an early 20's British Male. I moved home after University and am suffering from somewhat severe depression. As I got towards graduating, my mother suggested I moved home instead of ...
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How to determine which gesture of appreciation will be the most effective?

Recently, I decided to learn more about Love languages. According to this website, here is a list of the various way people can show appreciation for someone: Physical touch Gift giving Words of ...
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Responding to half sister about biological father not returning her messages

I'm asking this on behalf of my partner, as he's asked me to help him respond to his half sister. Background: They both share a father. My partner was not brought up by his biological father and ...
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How to reach out to an old family friend about information about my father?

I'm 30 years old and I am trying to piece together my family tree. I haven't seen my father since I was 11 but my mother's friend's husband was friends with my father in high school. I seen these ...
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How to cold call/post a long lost relative?

My mother lost touch with her cousins many years ago and I would have been about 5 years old the last time I seen them. I am 30 now. I am doing family research and trying to build the family tree. ...
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Telling parents that it's okay if their child doesn't kiss me

I have cousins who both have children. Whenever we see each other, my cousins always told their children to "go kiss Ælis" but the children are sometimes reluctant to kiss me (which I can understand). ...
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Telling my cousin that she might want to learn more about cultural appropriation

The other day, I was at my cousin’s home and her daughter was dressed up like "an Indian" (her word to designate a Native American "traditional" outfit). This made me uncomfortable as I was afraid ...
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How can you respond to the situation where you're expected to guide a younger nephew for X and you're not familiar with X? [closed]

I've had an extremely limited life and a broken childhood. At my late 30s, I'm now finally doing things/learning stuff that people did in their teens. Almost everyone else around me has a hell of a ...
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Parents fighting a lot recently, and aren't 'dealing' with the problem causing it to blow up next time - How do I get them to work it out?

My parents are the two best people I know. They both love each other, and wouldn't dream about even considering getting a divorce. But sometimes they lose sight of that. Recently, they've been getting ...
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Replacing broken item when price has changed [closed]

My 12-year-old cousin knocked over and broke a somewhat expensive TV at my place. After we cleaned up the mess, his parents offered to replace the TV. I told them the figure I remembered paying for it,...
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How to tell brother that not returning money when he has it is not cool

I lent my brother over 700€ more than a year ago because he needed it more than me (I needed it to because I was going to get married), he told me he was going to return them as soon as possible, a ...
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How do I introduce my new name to my friends?

I am Max and I am a 19 year old college student from Spain. I had a very troubled childhood laced with mental illness and bullying. I have since moved on but I feel like my birth name (not included ...
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How to proactively include myself in extrinsic ethnic family?

Background I come from a mixed heritage; half is white and the other half is Latin-American (I’ll refer to now as ‘ethnic’). I’ve grown up mainly around my white side of the family and only on rare ...
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How to tactfully request girlfriend's family to give us more space?

I have been dating my girlfriend for about 1 year now. I love her for her caring nature, intelligence, and sense of humor. However, since I met her parents about some months ago, they have much more ...
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How to improve communication with my mother in law?

I've been dating my partner for almost 5 years and our relationship is very good! We're excellent at communicating our feelings and we figure out solutions when we have disagreements instead of ...
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Tactfully telling my cousin that she might do too many of the chores in her household

My cousin is a wonderful person, she is a feminist, ecologist, etc.. activist, she cares a lot about people and I really love her (I see her and her family ~once a month for the weekend and I spend ...
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(How) can I ask gifts be in cash/check instead of more restrictive instruments?

When close family members give me gifts, it's often in the form of gift cards or pre-paid debit cards. I appreciate their generosity, and I spend the balances eventually, but I think both giver and ...
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How to “break up” with my toxic parents/family?

this is quite a long text but I think it is necessary to get an insight of where my motivation is coming from and why I want to "break up" with my parents. The Fight I A couple of months ago there ...