Questions tagged [family]
For any issues related to family or families, whether it is the questioner's family or someone else's family. (Can be used for questions relating to gatherings for families.)
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Buying Mercedes-Benz But not comfortable with relatives [closed]
I wanted to buy Mercedez-Benz, obviously it's a luxury car. But everytime when I thought of it then these bloody relatives come into my mind.
Because when I will buy it, I am 100% sure that the ...
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Trying to teach my nephew to improve on a skill
My nephew (16y) is a little bit on the spectrum and sometimes has a hard time dealing with people but has a great capacity to learn.
He loves to create 'games' on a platform called scratch.
I (36y) am ...
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Politely reject advice because I don't respect the source's judgment
Sometimes, I am given unsolicited advice. I consider the advice itself (of course), but I also consider the source, as the expression goes. Usually, the advice must be written off entirely because the ...
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How do I tell my sister that her daughters should not use their smart phones in church?
I am part of a family in which I and my siblings were all raised Christian and our parents took us to church every week. Our parents expected us to behave in church and to try our best to listen ...
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How to persuade my parents that I am learning by using computers but not playing games
I am currently learning C#, and I need to look for a lot of information through different webpages. However, my parents distrust me and they think I am playing computer games because almost each time ...
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How to tell my mom i want to move out of her house? [closed]
I'm a man, 28, living with my parents since I was born. I was raised in a very poor city, so I never had money to buy or do things I always wanted to do until I started working and making my own money....
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How can I explain my point to my father in an effective way without burning bridges?
The issue
My father has lately made a few sexist (and other -ist) "jokes", in the form of what I came to learn are called "disparagement jokes".
This has made me, and my wife, a ...
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How to tell a sister-in-law I don't like her how much personal content she sends me?
My husband is Indian and I am South American. We live in Europe and we deal well with our cultural differences, we talk and reach consensus most of the time.
It turns out that my husband's sister-in-...
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How do I politely reject my brother's morning dessert invitation?
This morning, my brother sent me a short message:
Come get some strudel
I was going to reply
Thank you, but I don't feel like eating strudel right now
Before I could send the message, I was ...
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My classmate is sharing pictures of my mom without her knowledge. How can I make him stop?
A few days back my classmate shared a picture of my mom (her facebook profile picture) on a subreddit for cum tributes, and sent a screenshot to me.
After much threatening and requesting I was able to ...
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How can I get my mother to give me a copy of her will?
When my father died my sisters went to his home and met with his attorney without me.
I did not see his will. My dad was wealthy,
I received $2000 from my dad's bank, and I don't know what my sisters ...
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Why is it that non-programmers (like my family) can't understand me? [closed]
I am 14 years old, I am from a not very developed country, which is far from such concepts as programming.
I really like programming, so I started doing it 3 years ago. During this time I gained ...
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How can two people with opposing & unwavering opinions again gather as a family without tension?
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Noah & Emma are family as a result of their children marrying.
Noah - Grandfather set in his ways and beliefs. Has strong influence over who can attend family gatherings.
Emma - ...
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How to express a strong need for change both non-confrontative and sufficiently powerful?
I have a family member, let's call him Nathan, who is extremely good at deflecting criticism, blaming everyone else or roping in unrelated stuff to muddy a discussion about something uncomfortable to ...
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Getting family to understand the difference between helping and meddling
My personal definitions of these are:
Helping is when someone asks you to assist them, or asks for your opinion or expertise, and you give it to them, keeping their interests and goals in mind at all ...
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How to politely say we won't be inviting family friends to our wedding?
My Fiancee and I are getting married next year, and we're currently in the process of sending out the save the dates. I was chatting to my parents about this, who then asked if I would be inviting ...
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How to say no to my brother while avoiding him thinking I no longer support him?
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My brother has a manipulative wife, which has essentially turned him against our mother. I want to keep the story short and won't go into too much detail. Essentially, his wife has ...
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Ways to mitigate a recurring argument between Alice who avoids and Bob who seeks resolution
Alice and Bob have a recurring argument. Alice says something that confuses Bob. It can be an unqualified pronoun, an unsignalled change of topic, a lack of context, etc. With some difficulty Bob ...
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How to better explain to my wife that I feel she commited a small betrayal of our trust, when she feels it was irrelevant?
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I try to avoid shopping while hungry as I make bad decisions but I wasn't expecting we'd be dropping by the store when my wife and I were out on a walk. She asked if I intended to share ...
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How to talk to my brother, who has mental health issues, about my frustrations with him?
I live with my parents while I finish up my degree. A couple of months ago, my brother got out of a long, toxic relationship. He has since moved back in with my parents. The relationship ending caused ...
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How to help a close friend seek help with possible early onset dementia
I have a close friend who is genetically predisposed to early-onset dementia. My friend is relatively young (mid-30s), but has been having concerning unexplained behavioral shifts, such as:
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How do I convey to a family member that the deadline for moving out is non-negotiable when they responded emotionally to a previous attempt?
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Over Christmas my spouse and I took in a family member who needed somewhere to stay temporarily. They contacted us because we were (and still are) the only family who had a spare room and, ...
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How to talk about my life without showing off?
As the title says, how to talk about myself without showing off?
when I was 21 years old and I was still studying, I was hired by an IT corporation and I had a good income. Now I'm 24 and my income is ...
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How can I change the relationship better with my mom, if she feels happy that I fail?
I had some arguments with my mom before, such as, when she invested in stocks, she just guessed and listened to the radio, or watched TV. And then I asked her, if she knew what P/E ratio was, so that ...
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How can I deal with my wife always changing her mind about things we already planned?
I like making plans whether they're short term or long term (> 6 months). Always have. My wife, however, tends to "forget" about plans we had already discussed and gets upset when I try ...
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How to debate with someone who uses other people's arguments as their own?
I sometimes end in face-to-face conversations/debates with my (adult) brother over a variety of topics that he usually brings up himself. They're often the kind of topics I don't pay much attention to ...
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How to be less awkward at a funeral?
My aunt (my mother's only sister) died a few days ago. I was like "uh". Not that I don't care. I loved her. My problem is that I can't feel. I was sad but felt no sadness, like I was ...
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How do I ask my family to stop buying me Star Wars themed presents?
When I was a child I was really into Star Wars, as many children are. Now as a grown man, with my own interests and hobbies, a fully developed brain, and two decades of bad Star Wars movies I have ...
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How can I better handle 'bad-news' talks about family members I don't care about?
There are a few people in my life that I can't avoid because they're family, but that I do not care about at all. Yet, from time to time a parent or grandparent will start sharing things about these ...
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How to deal with close relatives not taking COVID-19 seriously?
Context
I live in an Eastern European country within the EU where COVID-19 has created relatively few victims due to the lock-down being put in place quite quickly in the spring. However, as the ...
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How to get my parents to take my Mother's cancer diagnosis seriously?
I'm a 35y/o male in Canada. My parents are in their mid-late 60s and live in the UK. I have two older brothers also in the UK.
My mother has been diagnosed with cancer, though the full diagnosis is ...
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How do I get to the point of asking questions and getting answers?
No matter what I say or do, I am truly just always asking questions about what I do not understand to people who are capable of helping me understand what I need to know about that topic, and no one ...
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How to stop divulging information that I don't want to share?
My cousin asks me things that I don't want to share, yet I share details with her because I don't know a polite way to tell her that I don't want to share.
From time to time, she asks me about my ...
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How to deal with my grandma and aunt's hurtful behavior towards my family? [closed]
I am an unmarried 22 year old girl in college. I have a mother, father and brother who is also doing his masters in college. We live in India and all stay together in a flat. I'm the youngest in my ...
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How to open up a discussion with my parents about their funeral and last wishes?
My parents are in their 80s with degrading health. Visits to the hospital for various medical reasons have been increasing. I absolutely hate to admit this, but at some point, they might not come home ...
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My mother will judge me all the time
My mother will judge me all the time. She screams at me saying something like "You are so old already; you should know by now that one has to do this thing in this way and not in that way".
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How to convince my parents to let me study biotechnology instead of MBBS? [closed]
From my childhood, I haven't had any dream of becoming something but my parents always wanted me to study and become a doctor and that's why they enrolled me in Neet Coaching (The National Eligibility ...
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How to convince family to accept my choice?
My family and I live in a big crowded city. My dad has a little house with a big garden out of city (about 15 km away). At weekends my parents and my sister and her husband go there and stay for a few ...
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How can I stop my mom from targeting me to do the chores just because I’m a girl?
My mom is always trying to get me to do household chores like washing dishes, brooming, cooking, cleaning, etc. I hate that she is the designated person for doing chores in our household. I strongly ...
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How to convince adult child to pay for their keep
I’m asking advice for a close friend of ours. Let me give some background first. They have a 24 year old daughter that lives with them in the United States. She is the single mom of a 3 year old. ...
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How to tell my in-laws that they are making my spouse depressed?
My wife has been experiencing anxiety and increasingly, depression, as a result of her relationships with family treating her like she is worthless. It is never by words that they give this message to ...
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Preventing certain topics from being raised by a close relative
My friend (I got her consent to ask this question here) is currently dealing with major depression and anxiety issues (she is currently on therapy and medication), which started after a messy breakup -...
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How to explain to family that I don't want to keep fixing the same tech problems?
Firstly, I have a very good relationship with my family and there are no issues on that front. However, due to me working in a technical capacity professionally all of the technical questions / issues ...
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How do I refuse doing something for my possibly narcissistic grandmother?
I live with my possibly narcissistic grandmother, she is about 75 years old and has progressive hearing loss. Basically, it's almost impossible to get her into therapy now, and if she is truly ...
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How to prevent family from treating you like a child?
I am 24 years old, financially independent for the last 5 years and I live on my own as well. I'm a straight A student, happily engaged. Yet all members of my family communicate to me like I'm a ...
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How can I communicate with my family and friend that they would appreciate the way I am?
I don't know...one day I was told by a friend that I was being too persnickety. I don't know that word to be honest so I looked up. Persnickety means someone being picky or fussy. I don't think I am ...
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How can I refuse to kiss my mother while minimizing the hurt feelings?
Note: this has nothing to do with the current pandemic.
I don't like physical contact, especially kisses and especially when I don't fully trust the person touching me.
Also, my current relationship ...
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Why people don't take their responsibilities
I have a brother, 17 years old. He never likes the school. He doesn't do any homework, repeats courses, and he remains the same. He doesn't eat well, and only wants to talk with their friends. I've ...
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How can you get closure from ending a toxic family relationship?
My cousins (all in the same family) and I bicker, a lot. I don't like that they tend to harass my grandmother when she shares political posts. When this happens, I tend to call my cousins out for ...
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How to deal with parents political views?
I've grown up valuing democracy, liberties, and a trust in science. In Europe, among those lucky enough to be well-educated, my political views are quite average. Obviously, these views were seeded by ...
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