Questions tagged [family]

For any issues related to family or families. Whether it is the questioners family or someone else's family. Can be used for questions relating to gatherings for families.

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My parents just can't understand boundaries

My parents won't seem to understand that I'm 26, living in another country and not needing for their permission the whole time. My mom was diagnosed with depression a while ago. She's very religious ...
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How to properly tell others that forgetting something doesn't mean I don't care about them?

I am taking postgraduate education and also have a very stressful job and I'm in a serious relationship. Getting these things together take a lot of my time and mind. When I'm around people not from ...
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How to tell my Mom that I don't care about someone without upsetting her?

Last week my Grandmother had surgery. My Mom asked me why I didn't visit her. I don't care about my Grandmother due to horrible things she does sometimes. For example, out of revenge, she creates ...
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How do I deal with my boyfriends parents who hate me? [closed]

For a backstory, my boyfriend just recently graduated and moved to college, because he already had a rocky relationship with his parents. He was on the edge of getting kicked out of his house several ...
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How to convey to parents and friends that I want to change my job? [closed]

My parents work for an amazing charity which does a lot of good work. Giving out to people is something they strongly believe in. They encouraged me to also work for the charity after I left school ...
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How to tell my alcoholic aunt I fear for my cousins' lives because of her drunk-driving?

Content warning: Alcoholism, physical and psychological violence. My cousin just called me in tears. Again. She shared her fears with me about her parents drinking too much, even when they have to ...
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How can I approach the situation where I feel I’m neglected?

I’m the youngest child out of three and I’ve felt passive and alone most of the time since I was a kid. My oldest siblings were and are closer to each other (now even physically since I’m abroad). ...
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How do I bring up with my parents that I'm transgender? [closed]

I want to come out to my parents that I'm transgender so I can start with my Hormone Replacement Therapy. I'm an adult, so I don't need their consent but then I would be sneaking it behind their backs ...
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How do express my condolences, when I couldn't show up at the funeral?

Two days ago, one of my old relatives passed away. His family lives 900km away and due to my job, I couldn't show up at funeral. Where I live it's important to show up. I've thought of calling his ...
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How to make my entourage understand that I'm not a technical support [duplicate]

I'm a 20 years old programmer and everyday comes with this person asking me for help to configure his iCloud, fix his printer, remove a virus, and other tasks like that. Yesterday my father comes ask ...
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Family member got offended when my uncle gave her a compliment which she thinks is not ok to give to a young woman [closed]

So we have a groupchat on messenger which includes all family members (20 persons) now 1 girl posted a picture of a magazine in which her picture is. A lot of aunts said: "wow you look great!" etc. ...
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Dealing with mom's split personality and her not remembering her behavior afterward? [closed]

I'm 26, female, and have moved back in with my parents in March after my relationship with my girlfriend didn't work out; she had to move to Los Angeles for work and the relationship had ended anyway (...
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How to let my kids believe in Santa Claus without lying to them?

I believe that the most important aspect of human morality is honestly. So I've always been... reluctant... about telling my kids Santa is coming. On the one hand, I want them to enjoy the ...
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How to stop paying for my parent's poor financial decisions? [closed]

One of my parents decided to pay for and renovate an old house with all of their remaining money (inherited, not saved by them). When this decision was made, I warned them that I thought it was a bad ...
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How to inform my family of my child's new gender identity?

As an extension to this question, my daughter was very relieved when I offered to talk to my family for her. My husband thought of having a brunch with our kids not in attendance. I thought of doing ...
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How to talk about what religious denomination you belong to without making the person uncomfortable?

I recently came into contact with some close relatives (my paternal grandparents) that I've never met and we've been talking on the phone and over email for a month or so. I sent them pictures of my ...
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How to ask a stranger on Facebook to talk to someone about getting in touch without sounding like a creepy stalker?

I found a long lost relative of mine on Facebook. He is my paternal uncle. I added him as a friend and sent a message a few months ago. My relative does not go on Facebook very often and has not yet ...
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How to handle the aftermath of a parent leaking information I want to keep private to family?

My parents have a 'bad' habit of disclosing information about any unfinished business of mine, or about other things I like to keep private for reasons, to people ranging from family to vague ...
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How to help my child come out as a trans woman to extended family?

My daughter was brave enough to come out to us that she is a woman. That story is on Parenting SE. My daughter would like to come out to the extended family well before the holidays so that people ...
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How to help my girlfriend be more expressive of herself and develop own identity

I have a girlfriend whom I love very much. She is very intelligent and has a warm, caring personality. However, one thing I noticed is that she is somewhat reluctant to have her own opinions on a lot ...
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How do I convince my dad to support my mom’s surgery?

Context My mom has been terminally ill for almost a year and my dad has been the primary care taker. I recently moved internationally back to my home country and have been the secondary care taker ...
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How can I refuse a dinner with my relatives? [closed]

I have never been close to one of my relatives. The only living thing I like is my dog. We are having dinner tomorrow with a bunch of relatives and friends. My dad will pick me up at 7 pm but I don'...
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How to tell/ask my brother to provide his own food?

I host regular game and activity nights at my house. I have a somewhat open group of friends that I invite, and these people are welcome to bring an additional friend as well. I want everyone, ...
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Tactfully telling someone that they are the reason for your anxiety

Last weekend, I was at my parent's home and my aunt, uncle and a family friend were also invited. I have some anxiety issue which means that, when there is too many people, or just people that I'm ...
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How can I tactfully refuse to tell my loving brother my home address?

I'm chummy and cozy with my brother, but he has very loose lips and can't keep secrets - peradventure because he has genetic disorders? Of course my door is always open to him! Rather, my parents are ...
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How to tell my mother that my wife does not want to attend a family birthday party? [closed]

After returning from an Anniversary trip last week, my sister informed us of an upcoming birthday party being held for her daughter this coming weekend - the drive there is several hours away, so we ...
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How to handle my perceived disrespect to Aunt? [closed]

Today I saw my aunt for the first time in months, possibly over a year. She was never around during my childhood, not a part of my or my siblings lives. We have never received a gift from her or were ...
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How can I stop my niece with developmental disorder from sitting behind my juice bar?

I own a small juice bar, with two seats behind the counter for me and my employees, and a piddling number of seats for customers that are usually occupied. My brother has genetic disorders and his ...
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Effectively communicating that I am not withholding information

I am a twenty-four old man and I live with my mother. I have never been in any romantic relationship with anyone all my life. I wanted to take up a job and move out as soon as I graduated but my ...
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How to befriend someone who doesn't like to talk?

Background: I’m a 22-year-old woman, my brother is a 25-year-old man. We were close growing up, but around high school we drifted apart. As of now I wouldn’t say there’s much friendship between us at ...
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How to tell your grandparent to not come to fetch you with their car?

I often come to visit my grandparents during the weekend and they will always come to fetch me at the train station in their car. However, my grandpa (who is the one driving) is old and his vision ...
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How to decline physical affection from a child whose parents are pressuring them?

My Situation I am an uncle to 6 nieces and nephews. I live about 1000 miles away from the rest of my family, so I only see them 2-3 times each year. When it comes time to say goodbye, it is common ...
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Communicating that I don't appreciate being repeatedly pressed to do something

A close family member, Ann, has been trying to get me to do XYZ for years. She'll text me every now and then asking if I've done it yet. Every time we see each other she'll no doubt bring it up. She's ...
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How to approach boundary setting when family composition changes?

My wife's sister is very close to our family, and over the course of the last few years, it's become a common practice for her to do her laundry at our house. I don't generally mind this, my wife ...
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How to gracefully navigate potentially negative or bewildered reactions to calling a long lost relative?

I am seeking to reconnect with my estranged father of 20 years. I found an entry in the phone book that could potentially be his father (my grandfather). The name matches and it's a 20 minute walk to ...
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What to keep in mind when telling an aunt how wrong her actions are, without creating further family conflict?

In a few weeks, my grandparents will celebrate their 60th wedding anniversary by having a family dinner. My grandparents made 2 decisions about that dinner: To only invite their children, their ...
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Asking my sibling to not tease me about a specific subject

This weekend, I was with my sister (we are both around 25 years old and I'm the youngest). The first day, she learned something about me and started teasing me about it. The second day, we were ...
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How can I tell my wife to pay more attention to everything without sounding condescending or rude?

My wife doesn't pay attention to anything she's doing or what is happening around her. For example: she doesn't pay attention to holes, pits, and ledges when we're out and she's pushing our son's ...
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How to ask a 3rd party to tell someone to contact me?

I am looking for information on my estranged father of 20 years. I found the sister of his old best friend on Facebook. Her name is Lily. Lily told me her brother George lived with my father for many ...
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How to politely ask my family to stop pressuring me to 'like' posts more on social media?

It happens fairly often: someone in the family buys a 'cool new thing', and posts pictures of it on social media like Whatsapp. Sometimes something interesting pops up that deserves a comment from me, ...
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How to stop family members from giving me pictures of their children? [duplicate]

I want to know how to politely ask family members to not give me pictures of their children. Every year I try to find suitable presents for my family members only to receive the exact same present ...
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How do I call out (tell him his behavior is unacceptable) a narcissistic father?

TL;DR: I want to communicate to my narcissistic father that it is unacceptable that he is attempting to blackmail my sister. Refer to my past questions for more information regarding my father and ...
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Convey the wish of being grandparent while acknowledging your children views [closed]

There are multiple questions about expressing to family/friends that you don't or might not want children. I personally feel that my father's side of the family didn't do a great job about ...
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Avoiding conflict when showing my family my new name

I don't like my name, I never had. Recently, I found myself a new name that I really love and I have started using it online. Now, the thing is that I just received a (nice) mug with my "new name" on ...
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How to tell daughter in law not to bring her friend to Easter dinner? [closed]

My daughter in law has a close friend that wants to come for Easter Sunday dinner. She invited herself. She is a very sweet girl and I normally do not mind having her around. At the same time, she ...
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Acknowledge there is a problem without making the other person more worried

A little about me: I'm on the autism spectrum; I have tiredness issues and other related problems. I'm currently working full time and this plus my tiredness makes it really difficult for me to eat ...
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How to say no to a family member who wants to drive the car

I am a very introverted kind of person and don't argue with others. Sometimes it feels like some people just do not know how and where to stop with me. I have a car and there are some people in my ...
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How to stop reoccuring conflict in family home

Context: I am an early 20's British Male. I moved home after University and am suffering from somewhat severe depression. As I got towards graduating, my mother suggested I moved home instead of ...
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How to determine which gesture of appreciation will be the most effective?

Recently, I decided to learn more about Love languages. According to this website, here is a list of the various way people can show appreciation for someone: Physical touch Gift giving Words of ...
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Responding to half sister about biological father not returning her messages

I'm asking this on behalf of my partner, as he's asked me to help him respond to his half sister. Background: They both share a father. My partner was not brought up by his biological father and ...