Questions tagged [family]

For any issues related to family or families. Whether it is the questioners family or someone else's family. Can be used for questions relating to gatherings for families.

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Tactfully telling someone that they are the reason for your anxiety

Last weekend, I was at my parent's home and my aunt, uncle and a family friend were also invited. I have some anxiety issue which means that, when there is too many people, or just people that I'm not ...
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How to tell my mother that my wife does not want to attend a family birthday party? [closed]

After returning from an Anniversary trip last week, my sister informed us of an upcoming birthday party being held for her daughter this coming weekend - the drive there is several hours away, so we ...
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How to handle my perceived disrespect to Aunt? [closed]

Today I saw my aunt for the first time in months, possibly over a year. She was never around during my childhood, not a part of my or my siblings lives. We have never received a gift from her or were ...
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Effectively communicating that I am not withholding information

I am a twenty-four old man and I live with my mother. I have never been in any romantic relationship with anyone all my life. I wanted to take up a job and move out as soon as I graduated but my ...
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How to decline physical affection from a child whose parents are pressuring them?

My Situation I am an uncle to 6 nieces and nephews. I live about 1000 miles away from the rest of my family, so I only see them 2-3 times each year. When it comes time to say goodbye, it is common ...
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Communicating that I don't appreciate being repeatedly pressed to do something

A close family member, Ann, has been trying to get me to do XYZ for years. She'll text me every now and then asking if I've done it yet. Every time we see each other she'll no doubt bring it up. She's ...
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How to gracefully navigate potentially negative or bewildered reactions to calling a long lost relative?

I am seeking to reconnect with my estranged father of 20 years. I found an entry in the phone book that could potentially be his father (my grandfather). The name matches and it's a 20 minute walk to ...
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What to keep in mind when telling an aunt how wrong her actions are, without creating further family conflict?

In a few weeks, my grandparents will celebrate their 60th wedding anniversary by having a family dinner. My grandparents made 2 decisions about that dinner: To only invite their children, their ...
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Asking my sibling to not tease me about a specific subject

This weekend, I was with my sister (we are both around 25 years old and I'm the youngest). The first day, she learned something about me and started teasing me about it. The second day, we were ...
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How can I tell my wife to pay more attention to everything without sounding condescending or rude?

My wife doesn't pay attention to anything she's doing or what is happening around her. For example: she doesn't pay attention to holes, pits, and ledges when we're out and she's pushing our son's ...
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How to ask a 3rd party to tell someone to contact me?

I am looking for information on my estranged father of 20 years. I found the sister of his old best friend on Facebook. Her name is Lily. Lily told me her brother George lived with my father for many ...
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How do I explain to extended family/acquaintances that my husband has high-functioning Autism, and has particular habits?

So, I have been married since March 2018 to my loving husband. All through our relationship, I have known that he has mild aspergers, combined with being very introverted and deaf (I am deaf as well) ...
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How to politely ask my family to stop pressuring me to 'like' posts more on social media?

It happens fairly often: someone in the family buys a 'cool new thing', and posts pictures of it on social media like Whatsapp. Sometimes something interesting pops up that deserves a comment from me, ...
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How to ask my boyfriend's family if it bothers them that I'm coming along

I am in a romantic relationship with a very close friend of mine (we are both French and in the early 20s). We have been very close for years and we have been living together for a few months now. We ...
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How do I call out (tell him his behavior is unacceptable) a narcissistic father?

TL;DR: I want to communicate to my narcissistic father that it is unacceptable that he is attempting to blackmail my sister. Refer to my past questions for more information regarding my father and ...
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How to stop family members from giving me pictures of their children? [duplicate]

I want to know how to politely ask family members to not give me pictures of their children. Every year I try to find suitable presents for my family members only to receive the exact same present ...
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Re-Marriage of my father to his ex-Wife A-K-A my step mom [closed]

My father got married to my stepmother three years ago when I was in college. From the start, she mistreated me and my brother in every possible way, like sabotaging our possessions, breaking into ...
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How to confess severe mistakes to family?

I committed a grave error four years ago, I cannot exactly tell what is about, but is something that I must never do. My sister had already done the same thing before me, but no one had a knowledge ...
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How to tell daughter in law not to bring her friend to Easter dinner? [closed]

My daughter in law has a close friend that wants to come for Easter Sunday dinner. She invited herself. She is a very sweet girl and I normally do not mind having her around. At the same time, she ...
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Avoiding conflict when showing my family my new name

I don't like my name, I never had. Recently, I found myself a new name that I really love and I have started using it online. Now, the thing is that I just received a (nice) mug with my "new name" on ...
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Convey the wish of being grandparent while acknowledging your children views [closed]

There are multiple questions about expressing to family/friends that you don't or might not want children. I personally feel that my father's side of the family didn't do a great job about ...
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Stepmother wants me to sign for life insurance without consulting a lawyer, how do I tell her that I will only do this after talking to one?

Background: I am a 20 years old male, living alone in Austria I have two stepsisters and a stepmother and my father is deceased I lived together with my stepmother for the last 10 years, but moved ...
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How to reach out to an old family friend about information about my father?

I'm 30 years old and I am trying to piece together my family tree. I haven't seen my father since I was 11 but my mother's friend's husband was friends with my father in high school. I seen these ...
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How to get my wife to accept bisexuality before our daughter comes out of the closet?

My oldest daughter is 19 and told me last halloween that she's bi. My daughter is amazingly high functioning (mentally, socially, even professionally) but is living at home at the moment because ...
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Acknowledge there is a problem without making the other person more worried

A little about me: I'm on the autism spectrum; I have tiredness issues and other related problems. I'm currently working full time and this plus my tiredness makes it really difficult for me to eat in ...
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How to say no to a family member who wants to drive the car

I am a very introverted kind of person and don't argue with others. Sometimes it feels like some people just do not know how and where to stop with me. I have a car and there are some people in my ...
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How can I tell my mom that I found more beer in my brother's room while I was snooping?

Recently, I found my brother's stash of alcohol in the basement while looking for some paint. I told my mom about it, and she took care of it and decided to have a talk with him once he gets back from ...
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How to determine which gesture of appreciation will be the most effective?

Recently, I decided to learn more about Love languages. According to this website, here is a list of the various way people can show appreciation for someone: Physical touch Gift giving Words of ...
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How to ask my grandmother to be nicer with my grandfather?

My grandfather (85 years old) is affected by Alzheimer disease, and although it is still a mild form, it is now visible in the conversation as he often struggles to remember a name or loses his train ...
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How to avoid having to kiss my mother on the cheek without offending her

On a regular basis my Mother is absolutely insistent that I give her a kiss on the cheek whenever I go out to a certain location, or just at certain times. Now I have no issues with hugging her, ...
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How can I tell if family members consider my unvaccinated kids a threat?

My wife and I made a conscious decision to not vaccinate our children. I'm not sure how they found out about it, but it apparently is a cause of nervous tension between us and them and apparently, we ...
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Responding to half sister about biological father not returning her messages

I'm asking this on behalf of my partner, as he's asked me to help him respond to his half sister. Background: They both share a father. My partner was not brought up by his biological father and ...
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How do I explain to family members that I don't like to be greeted with a kiss?

I have an Asian background, and I live in Australia. My husband is European, and at family gatherings, his family members tend to greet me with a hug and a kiss on the cheek, which makes me ...
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How to cold call/post a long lost relative?

My mother lost touch with her cousins many years ago and I would have been about 5 years old the last time I seen them. I am 30 now. I am doing family research and trying to build the family tree. ...
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Asking family members to respect my space

I am a 17 year old female living with my parents, a brother and sister. Everyday when I get back from school I enjoy my alone time in my room as I get tired of being around people the whole day quite ...
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How can I properly refuse my mother's help?

I'm living in a theocratic country, where people have to study religion in schools and universities extensively, no matter the field of study. And holding different views from the mainstream religion ...
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Telling parents that it's okay if their child doesn't kiss me

I have cousins who both have children. Whenever we see each other, my cousins always told their children to "go kiss Ælis" but the children are sometimes reluctant to kiss me (which I can ...
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Talking to mom about her health state

My parents live in a different country; I get to see them once or twice a year. They are visiting me lately, and they will stay over for a month or so. My mom is a little bit sick and has to take ...
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Telling my cousin that she might want to learn more about cultural appropriation

The other day, I was at my cousin’s home and her daughter was dressed up like "an Indian" (her word to designate a Native American "traditional" outfit). This made me uncomfortable ...
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How to tell brother that not returning money when he has it is not cool

I lent my brother over 700€ more than a year ago because he needed it more than me (I needed it to because I was going to get married), he told me he was going to return them as soon as possible, a ...
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Parents fighting a lot recently, and aren't 'dealing' with the problem causing it to blow up next time - How do I get them to work it out?

My parents are the two best people I know. They both love each other, and wouldn't dream about even considering getting a divorce. But sometimes they lose sight of that. Recently, they've been getting ...
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How can you respond to the situation where you're expected to guide a younger nephew for X and you're not familiar with X? [closed]

I've had an extremely limited life and a broken childhood. At my late 30s, I'm now finally doing things/learning stuff that people did in their teens. Almost everyone else around me has a hell of a ...
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How do I introduce my new name to my friends?

I am Max and I am a 19 year old college student from Spain. I had a very troubled childhood laced with mental illness and bullying. I have since moved on but I feel like my birth name (not included ...
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How to tactfully request girlfriend's family to give us more space?

I have been dating my girlfriend for about 1 year now. I love her for her caring nature, intelligence, and sense of humor. However, since I met her parents about some months ago, they have much more ...
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How to proactively include myself in extrinsic ethnic family?

Background I come from a mixed heritage; half is white and the other half is Latin-American (I’ll refer to now as ‘ethnic’). I’ve grown up mainly around my white side of the family and only on rare ...
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How to keep an interesting conversation going when there's a dog present at family gatherings?

I try to pay a regular visit my grandparents once a week, and on special occasions like their birthdays. Most of these visits coincide with my aunt, uncle and cousins being there as well. They also ...
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How to improve communication with my mother in law?

I've been dating my partner for almost 5 years and our relationship is very good! We're excellent at communicating our feelings and we figure out solutions when we have disagreements instead of ...
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Tactfully telling my cousin that she might do too many of the chores in her household

My cousin is a wonderful person, she is a feminist, ecologist, etc.. activist, she cares a lot about people and I really love her (I see her and her family ~once a month for the weekend and I spend ...
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(How) can I ask gifts be in cash/check instead of more restrictive instruments?

When close family members give me gifts, it's often in the form of gift cards or pre-paid debit cards. I appreciate their generosity, and I spend the balances eventually, but I think both giver and ...
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How to “break up” with my toxic parents/family?

this is quite a long text but I think it is necessary to get an insight of where my motivation is coming from and why I want to "break up" with my parents. The Fight I A couple of months ago there ...

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