Questions tagged [family]

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How to deal with a friend mocking my family? [closed]

I am 21 years old and have these friends who went to school with me. They were my classmates back then. We were close during our school days, but departed in our own ways once the school was over. We ...
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How to convince father to accept decision without holding a grudge later on?

So I got this situation going on: My sister is going to get married and doesn't want my father to escort her to the altar. She wants me to do it. My father has been told that he shall not escort her, ...
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How to tell my girlfriend, my friends and relatives that I might have alexithymia, without making it sound like an excuse?

Context: I'm a 25 years old, Brazilian, programmer, living alone for 5 years now. I acknowledge some bad traits that I have such as excessive laziness, huge need for hours of sleep, very connected to ...
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How do I convince my father to use his cell phone? [closed]

My (68 y/o) father does not use, upgrade, or keep his cell phone with him at all. His current phone is a very old Iphone, perhaps a ver. 5, and he generally leaves it at home when he goes out to do ...
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Telling mother about miscarriage [closed]

I am the oldest child in a family of three kids. When I was a young teen, my mother announced her fourth pregnancy and I reacted badly, by crying all evening. I do not remember why this news made me ...
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How can we tell people to stop suggesting adoption?

I am starting to fear I will never be able to have children on my own. I don't really feel like adopting is for me or my husband. How can we tell people to stop suggesting adoption? I am tired to ...
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How to confess severe mistakes to family?

I committed a grave error four years ago, I cannot exactly tell what is about, but is something that I must never do. My sister had already done the same thing before me, but no one had a knowledge ...
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How do I tactfully defuse a wrathful person unpacking anger on weaker target?

To be clear and answer to a comment: I don't need validation for my actions, the validation came from the aftermath. I am however asking for alternate methods and I'm narrating the story for context ...
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How can I deal with my toxic mother? [closed]

I'm 24 years old (woman), pursuing my master's degree, with 2 part-time jobs and in a relationship since 1 year ago. Since I was a child my mom has been controlling me, I have never thought that was ...
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How can I be more assertive when telling my family that I don't want to marry?

I am a 29 year old South Indian, been living abroad for sometime now, born into a conservative family that's religious and is society influenced/fearing in that what the society thinks matters a great ...
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How do I steer the conversation with my Mom away from the same few topics we always discuss?

Of the handful of phone calls I make every week, the one with my mom is by far the most socially draining; we always talk about the same topics every time: me, my pregnancy, her work, her finances and ...
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How can I politely inform my grandmother that I cannot provide my mother's contact information

My mother has a strained relationship with her family, particularly her mother. As children, we only met my mother's side of the family on rare occasions and now that my siblings and I are grown, I ...
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How to get out of visiting family as often without any hard feelings?

Growing up, we always had family dinners to celebrate birthdays and similar events like Mother's Day, Father's Day, and some other things that are personal to our family. These traditions have been ...
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How to convey seriousness in conditions when giving money to brother

TL;DR: I want to give my brother some money with a few conditions on how it is spent but believe he is unlikely to realise that I seriously plan to enforce those conditions. How can I convey my ...
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How do I convince my Mom I’m not inviting my brother to someone else’s bachelor party?

My friend is getting married, and another mutual friend is planning his bachelor party, to which I’ve been invited (we’re all in our early 30s). Initially, my mother wanted me to take it upon myself ...
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How to deal with my boyfriend’s mother without affecting my relationship with him?

Background I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 years now and even if everything is perfect with him and I couldn’t be happier, it is not the same with his family and especially with his mother, who ...
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How to respond to a family member wanting to commit suicide after their partner has committed suicide? [closed]

Emotional context This family member is going through a divorce with their ex dragging this divorce out as painfully long as possible so that by the time the divorce is finished they do not have to ...
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Establishing expectations with my parents about visiting after I give birth

I'm 8 months pregnant. I'm also an introvert who really doesn't cope well with change and stress. My mom is very outgoing and I need to talk to her about expectations when she visits me at the ...
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How to be there for my Dad when facing bad news?

Context My Dad has been diagnosed with Chronic Myeloid Leukemia for over a year. CML is liveable, but it may have progressed to the next stage - the accelerated phase. He is expecting to get the ...
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How do I tell a relative that I don't want them to spend their vacations in my house

Context: I'm a 26 years old South American, and up until mid last year I lived with my parents. In June I moved countries (7,000 miles) because of work and now I live alone, and so far I very much ...
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How do I tell my best friend that her brother sexually harassed me and that I don't want to hang out with her when he's around anymore?

Just recently, my closest friend's brother knowingly sexually harassed me just about a year after he previously forced a kiss on me. It never was too difficult to hang out with my best friend when he ...
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How do I become closer with my brother? He feels like a complete stranger

Growing up, I didn't get along very well with my elder brother. In addition to the usual sibling rivalry (fights and insults), I was always compared to him by everyone including teachers (we went to ...
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How to approach someone about possibly not attending an event without offending?

My younger brother is graduating college this spring. His college is halfway across the country from me, and graduation falls on a holiday weekend. I looked up travel options this weekend: ~$1000 for ...
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My family is ridiculing me because I didn't graduate university

A bit of context - I never finished university (I got to the stage where I had completed all courses and had my engineering thesis to complete - I didn't because I focused on work and getting ...
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Always put down

I am always put down by my family members whenever a situation arises when there's a decision making time. Recently a cousin of mine had an affair with someone, there were many discussions which went ...
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How do you deal with someone who's pushing you without explaining yourself?

There are certain people, especially family members you see from time to time or other close relatives, who simply don't know where to stop when offering you something. Usually it's about drinking ...
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How can I help a close person that is toxic seek professional help?

The person I'm talking about is my own mother. She has depression and she's seeing a doctor. It is a little rough talking about your own kind like this, but as rough as it is, it's the truth. My ...
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How to get out of family affairs [closed]

I'm a 22 years old student, living in a little village, about 8000 inhabitant, in Germany. I'm not that old, but very independent. I have my own apartment, and just try to live my life. In my village,...
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How to convince a family member to stop victimizing themselves?

Situation: My grandmother moved away from the bulk of our family almost two (2) years ago now. As the flights are expensive, she only tends to visit a few times a year. However, every time she visits ...
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How to deal with people who are aggressive when providing/denying help with problems?

I do programming and web development as a hobby, and I have experience building computers, and have fixed computers in the past, so naturally I'm going to seem like a good fit for solving most people'...
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How to tell my uncle I don’t want to see his turtles at his turtle farm?

My uncle and I have a good relationship. He, unfortunately, lives in Colorado while I live in another state also in the U.S. Due to the distance, I don’t get to visit him very often, so when I get the ...
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How to get out of being a free taxi for your Mam?

I'm 18 years old, have recently bought a semi expensive car for someone my age, and my Mam expects lifts everywhere if I'm not busy. Don't get me wrong, I don't mind giving lifts, especially to my Mam,...
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How to handle my girlfriend's parents' attitude to asking her for money?

I'm asking this question on behalf of my girlfriend because she's asking me for help but I'm not sure on how to handle this situation. A little bit of background: My girlfriend's parents moved from ...
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How to avoid short answers when talking to my family? [duplicate]

I am a 30 year old programmer, and I feel like becoming more and more a "program" myself. When talking with friends or families, except for a certain group of friends with whom it's always ...
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Father wants me to give him my work number and I don't want to

I'm moving to a new town (a big city in Florida) where I don't know anyone for work. I'm over 23. My father wants me to give him the number and e-mail for my primary work boss because sometimes I ...
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Dad wants me to invite his mother to my wedding. How to push it back?

Long story short, my fiancée and I wanted a small wedding. As small as 5 people max, signing the papers and eating at home. There are 34 guests invited now, eating at a restaurant at a cost of 165€ (...
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How to get our families and friends to get in better contact with us or cope with the situation [closed]

My spouse and I left our hometowns more than 10 years ago and got to know each other in the city where we are living now. The distance to our hometowns is about a 3 and a half hours drive in opposite ...
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Re-Marriage of my father to his ex-Wife A-K-A my step mom [closed]

My father got married to my stepmother three years ago when I was in college. From the start, she mistreated me and my brother in every possible way, like sabotaging our possessions, breaking into ...
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How do I ask my Dad to finance my computer?

Firstly I'm not sure is this the right place to ask so please tell me if not. I'm a 16 year old male and I need some help with talking about money and borrowing with my parents. The Context: ...
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How to clarify things with my team members as they think I am delaying projects being a procrastinator?

I work in the IT sector and I believe in perfection and following industry best practices in my work. People in my team believe in delivering projects early and earning brownie points even if the ...
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How to convey who will be asked to join my wife and me in the delivery room without causing offense?

My wife and I have just started trying to expand our family. Last night, the topic randomly came up of who should be in the delivery room with us (if we are lucky enough to conceive) as my wife asked ...
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How do I tell my mother that I'm an atheist?

I live with my mother, my grandmother and my cousin, who is also an atheist. I've had a feeling for a couple of years that I should let my mother and my family know that I no longer believe in God, ...
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How do I or my husband tell my mother in law she smells?

She is fully able bodied and not short of money. She has a hoarding problem, and her house just smells musty. She needs to do more washing basically. The other day, she babysat for us. When we ...
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How to convince my sister to talk to our family about her plans (or lack of)?

Background My sister and I (22F, Australian, twins) are both currently in Japan, but both with our own set of circumstances. I've been living in Japan for two years now after getting a job here ...
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Talking to mom about her health state

My parents live in a different country; I get to see them once or twice a year. They are visiting me lately, and they will stay over for a month or so. My mom is a little bit sick and has to take ...
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Should I have gotten up for my sister? [closed]

Me and my sister have a relationship that goes up and down, sometimes we can go through one door and sometimes definitely not.... Right now its somewhere in the middle mostly because we don't see ...
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How best to come out to socially conservative (and religious) family members?

Some background: I have a small number of close family members, and all of them (apart from my siblings) are socially conservative (ranging from quite socially conservative, to very socially ...
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My sister has an alcohol and drug addiction. How can I get people to stop asking me about her?

I have a younger sibling, let’s call her Sarah. Who has a severe alcohol and drug addiction problem. I’m talking 9 separate rehabs, 10 in hospital detox’s and 4 different events in which she was ...
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How to deal with a huge misunderstanding and an angry ex-girlfriend?

A few weeks ago, my ex-girlfriend and I broke up. It was a peaceful ending, with no tears, or fights - we simply accepted that was better for us to move on. We were living in the same place, until I ...
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Discussing going to a therapist and seeing my father

Background I'm a 22 year old male who had quite a rough past, however I will stick to what I think is important for the question. Currently I'm still a student. When I was 16 I stopped going to my ...

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