Questions tagged [friend-groups]

Questions related to interpersonal skills in a friend group. Use this tag to ask about various skills that are commonly needed in a group of friends.

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How do I tell my internet friends I'm actually female?

So I joined this online group roughly 2 years ago for a specific purpose that I thought would be short lived. It's centered primarily around a sports team and I came there from a social media site ...
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What to do with a friend who cheats in games?

What to do with a friend who slightly improves his chances in the card or board games we play, by, for example, picking another card while we don't look or turning the dice? The games are played for ...
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How to handle very opinionated and aggressive friend?

A bit of background first I've been hanging with the same circle of friends for roughly 10 years now, we're quite a diverse bunch in terms of opinions, and it often sparks debates. Usually, everything ...
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How to ask why I was not included without causing a scene?

My partner has a friend from way-back, T. We sometimes hang out with him and his family and go on day trips together. I've known them for 5 years but the contact is not always as frequent. While we ...
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Two people from small group of friends want to have a "meeting" with me. The circumstances are strange and give me a bad feeling

I have a small group of friends that get together and hangout. Usually we hangout on Fridays. We usually go to the same person's home. One person from this group (call him Bob) contacted me. He said ...
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What to do if I suspect my friend is stealing from me?

Let's name the suspected stealing friend, Mark. Value of missing items is around 20$. I have been told from my other friends that Mark has been known to be around when things go missing, with a ...
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How do I tell my friends that I want to be included in activities beyond our gaming sessions without alienating them?

I'm approaching a social situation now where I'm straddling the line of authority figure and friend, and while I think I have a plan set to address this, I'd like some input from others, get some ...
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How to permanently leave a group activity without insulting a friend

Currently I am in a group activity (pen&paper online) we started 2 years ago and which is held weekly. I consider everyone of this group as my friend. But I have had arguments with the leader of ...
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How to participate in group conversations as an outsider?

Background I moved about 1000 miles from home after graduating college, and most of my friends are scattered all over the US. I'm not an extremely social person, so I didn't make many new friends ...
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How to show interest in getting to know others while still protecting yourself [closed]

I've been criticized for being too reserved and guarded. I've spent time considering how to be more open and 'authentic' with others, but my experiences have only confirmed the necessity of keeping ...
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How to gently end involvement with an online community?

Since 2011 I'm a member of an online community for Animal Crossing players. Sadly many things are changing in gaming world and many of these changes combined with new interests which I have found in ...
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Joining an existing group of friends

Many times we try to blend in with some friend's friends. However, being accepted into that group of friends is not so simple, for a few reasons. While hanging around that group does allow someone ...
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How do I ask someone to stop changing your plans?

Background: I am a 25-year-old male and I have two best friends. I have known them almost my entire life and they are like brothers to me. We also hang out with other friends from school/college every ...
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How to encourage conversations beyond small talk with close friends

I had 2 friends in high school, and we were quite close. Then college life started, and we went to different colleges. One of them went to a college out of state. And so there was no physical contact ...
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How do I uninvite my friend's boyfriend from Dungeons and Dragons?

A few months back, four of my friends and I started meeting monthly for Dungeons and Dragons sessions. We weren't all close at the start of our campaign, but are now a tight-knit group. One member of ...
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Relationship with a friend's ex-girlfriend

Background I was working for a big company and I felt bad about the work I was doing. A friend (let's call him Tony) from my school (I am recently graduated) offered me a good position in his ...
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How to decline a wedding invitation from a friend I haven't seen in years?

Three years back somebody of my group of friends got a girlfriend. Ever since he got together with her, me and the other friends of the same group did not hear from him again, despite our efforts to ...
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How can I be more convincing when it comes to my words?

I have a big problem with people that know me. I do have slight anger issues (like 0-90 in 1 second, and 90-100 in 10), and I know some people (my friends) that would irritate me just for their ...
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How do I make friends with service staff at restaurants/bars?

There are people at my local brewery I enjoy chatting with casually during down time. We've had some good conversation and things have gone great. My problem is how do I go about inviting them to ...
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How to tell if you're being too clingy or inviting yourself unnecessarily?

I find that there are some situations where I am not sure whether the other person enjoys my presence enough to warrant further interaction. For example, if you meet someone during a talk at the end ...
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How to suggest to friend that he should clean up after himself in another's home

In our group of friends, "Mike" always hosts game nights, study sessions, etc. The rest of us never can return the favor since we don't have enough space and privacy. I feel it's the least I can do to ...
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How do I deal with a friend group that I fear is making its more successful member upset?

I'm one of a close group of friends, we'll call them A, B, C, D, E and F. All of us are middle-aged. Of those, A (which is not me) is quite successful; he has his own home and family, a property ...
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Responding to a man about the fact that they had been kissed by force

Some time ago (four years ago), I was eating in the cafeteria with a friend (let's call him Arthur) and a group of friends (4 people). Arthur wasn't a part of our regular friends group (even though we ...
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How to interact with a friend dating my ex-girlfriend when we hang out?

Background Jane and I belonged to the same group of friends since childhood. In this group, we all used to hang out, go camping, all kinds of stuff. Despite all of us eventually growing older and ...
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How to tell an acquaintance that there will be only me

A friend and I (both males) met a girl at university who is in the city as part of an exchange program. The 3 of us have been working occasionally together on university material. We get along well ...
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(ex)friend scammed me and is trying to discredit me in group of friends. How can I proactivley let them know what happened?

A close and old friend of mine said he knew someone who wanted to hire me to make a computer program. This "someone" provided me with fake id and never paid me. I eventually traced my stolen program ...
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How to handle limited time with an unwelcoming group

Sometimes I get myself in situations where I'm introduced to a group and we are going to spend a limited amount of time together, such as a party. While some people and/or groups are incredibly open ...
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When should I pay for dinner or drinks? [closed]

Too often I've been out with friends and one determines they should pay for the group. However, I've never actually done so. This usually happens when I'm out for a drink with one friend. When should ...
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How to handle finding out your friends are getting together without you?

Some Background I'm a college student, currently a junior. Part of a large-ish diverse group of friends, split across two six person suites. I've been in this group and friends with these people, for ...
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How to convince a group of friends to drop a topic that's making the group uncomfortable?

My close friend is a very dominant (DISC) person. Last time, he bashed my ex-high school when we hang out with some friends. He had valid points, and I had admitted it, but nevertheless, I asked him ...
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How can I tell my friend her boyfriend is (allegedly) a rapist?

My friend Alice is going out with Bob. Myself and others have seen Bob acting inappropriately with other women (getting very close and caressing) multiple times and we suspect he has slept with other ...
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Explain to group of friends that I will not show empathy to other friend

Recently, a person in our group of friends, let's call her Rachel, was involved in a car accident. The problem is, she was drunk and driving a stolen car. To give a bit more details : there were two ...
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How can I interact and have fun with two friends doing things I don't enjoy?

Background My friend just came to visit from a foreign country. She used to live where I did, but moved away because of a job offer. Recently, when she came back, we met up with one more friend as a ...
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How can I handle someone railroading conversations?

So I have a few fairly new friends. Most are very quiet and shy except for one person who is super confident, friendly and LOUD... lets call her Lucy. The other day the 6 of us had a barbecue where ...
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How to respond to a gossiping friend?

There's a friend of mine, let's call her... Rachel. We're very close (platonic) friends, and we'll frequently hang out as part of a larger group of mixed gender (including both my girlfriend and her ...
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Money problems with close friends

Introduction I'm a male software developer at the age of 25 in Austria who started his career about 2.5 years ago. Before my "real" career I was quite a social loser, I screwed up in school ...
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Dealing with friends are attempting to recruit me for a job

I'm going to leave as many details out as possible to keep this anonymous since they are in tech, but here we go: I have some friends who are starting their own company. They have some small capital, ...
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How to contact and spend more time with the friends of my best friend?

Around a year back I met who I'd now definitely consider to be my best friend. She's always there and looks out for me. We are both busy but we see each other a few times a month and always have a ...
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How to communicate that the first impression I made at a party was misleading?

On Monday I celebrated New Year's Eve with a group of people I have never seen before because a good friend of mine invited me to go there with her. Since I'm very shy towards strangers, I was pretty ...
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How to throw out the group mentor in a proper way?

I am a part of an activity group of 10 members (in our case: theatre). We mostly get along pretty well, know each other for quite some years already, but have worked as such a group only for a year by ...
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How do I stay friends with two people who are angry at one another?

I have two close friends in the university, Alice and Bob, who I've known since the first year. As the weeks passed, I felt less and less apart of our little group and I think the reason was that they ...
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How to deal with a depressed person who thinks people are uniting against her?

Let's call this person Alice. Alice is currently in therapy and taking drugs to treat a long lasting depression. Alice is also quite egocentric i.e. likes to be in everybody's focus and tries to get ...
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Friend of a friend trying to coerce me to quit smoking

I play badminton with my roommate Scott regularly in a nearby court. Sometimes he brings his office colleagues to play. One of his friend Amy joins us from time to time. I would say I don't know her ...
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How to politely ask a band member to stop being late/ditching last minute?

So I am in a band consisting of 5 people: 2 guitarists, the drummer, the bassist and a vocalist (might be worth mentioning that the guitarists are brothers that only tend to see each other at practice)...
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How to join an ongoing conversation without being rude?

I'm an introvert and sometimes when people are having conversations I usually tend to not engage. However, currently , I wanted to change my behavior, to be more social and engaging. And not to be ...
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How to keep contact with one half of a couple if the others makes you very uncomfortable?

Background: I am in a "let's occasionally do some Star Trek Themed Roleplay via IRC"-group that includes a couple I have known for ages. The group has one more member, but he is totally ...
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How can I tell a friend about a future trip without upsetting another friend, who wants me to hold the truth about it?

Soon, I'll be going on a trip for one weekend; "Friend B", who is planning this trip, wants to exclude "Friend A" who will likely ask me sometime during the trip what I'm up to. "Friend B" reiterated ...
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Address friends overly "agressive" way to get attention back on him when around girls

I often go out on weekends with a few friends of mine, we're all around 18-21 years old from Germany. One of them (lets name him L.) really is a chill guy. Me and my friends aren't really that good ...
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How to deal with a friend who is "throwing" online games

I have a friend with whom I have been playing a certain online game for many years. I also play with his wife. I have been friends with both of them for over three decades, first individually, and ...
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How to convince friends to assist me in telling a friend that we will be continuing with a group activity without him?

A group of my friends often play semi-long term strategy video games together online. These games often span several play sessions a couple of times a week over a few months. Recently, one of my ...