Questions tagged [friends]

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How do I convince my friends to move their group chat?

I am in a fairly large friend group - 12 people. We all go to the same school, but don’t interact much during the school day. Everyone in this group uses apple devices except one person - me. This ...
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How do I tell an older coworker I would like to become friends with him?

I've been in my internship in a state-owned enterprise for six months so far, and this is my last month there. Since I started, they assigned me a mentor who would make sure I and the rest of my ...
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I dislike children. How can I avoid alienating friends who have had children?

I have never liked children or wanted any of my own. I understand how it feels to find something extremely cute and adore something at first sight (I get this feeling with many animals), however when ...
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How to talk reasonably to a stubborn person without turning them into a disaster?

My best friend, Liz, is shy, introvert and has anxiety. Sometimes she asks me when I have free time to accompany her to parties, shopping and doing stuff so she feels more comfortable with me around. ...
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How to properly tell others that forgetting something doesn't mean I don't care about them?

I am taking postgraduate education and also have a very stressful job and I'm in a serious relationship. Getting these things together take a lot of my time and mind. When I'm around people not from ...
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How to stay as the well-wisher/friend without escalating her feeling for me?

I used to have a transwoman friend who was waiting to become financially strong before thinking about transitioning. I was going through some stressful times and we used to discuss our issues. She was ...
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How can I communicate better with my indirect friends as a direct person?

I am a very direct person. Say what you mean, mean what you say, nothing more, nothing less. Most of my friends of my same gender happen to be indirect. If I text one of my friends a question such ...
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How to keep people engaged in conversations? [closed]

So two months ago I said to myself that i'm being weak and that i'm pathetic for being lonely and feeling sorry for it without changing anything. So I started to try to meet people in order to make ...
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Explain to group of friends that I will not show empathy to other friend

Recently, a person in our group of friends, let's call her Rachel, was involved in a car accident. The problem is, she was drunk and driving a stolen car. To give a bit more details : there were two ...
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How can I refuse to disclose my occupation, without marring friendship in slightest?

I want to follow up my earlier question please. As I wrote, this year is husband's 10 year high school reunion. Some schoolmates emailed him about catching up separately. He's grappling — society, ...
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How to Resolve Underlying Tension with my Best Friend

I have a friend, that we'll call Alex, who I've been friends with for years. He's a good guy and our relationship is generally pretty good, but over the past few years there's been a kind of ...
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How to convey to parents and friends that I want to change my job? [closed]

My parents work for an amazing charity which does a lot of good work. Giving out to people is something they strongly believe in. They encouraged me to also work for the charity after I left school ...
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How do I reconnect with a friend after they tried once and I failed to respond

Background I've been out of college for about 4 years now, and during that time I've lost contact with one of my best friends. After I graduated college, I took a job in another city and moved about ...
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How to schedule meetups effectively?

I have a hard time scheduling meetups with friends lately. This has started since I have begun a day-job, and thus have less free time. Often, both parties are interested at meeting up, but the time ...
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How to explain that some of my difficulties won't improve with my effort or by their teasing?

update: this question is about not pushing me harder for indirect hints. it's not exactly on sensory issue I'm on the autism spectrum. In a particular classroom, a gang of people started to get ...
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How to ask for my money back without damaging my relationship with this person?

This situation involves three people: Myself An online friend and artist (we'll call him Saxton) My SO (we'll call her Reva.) I don't know Saxton's age exactly, but I don't think anybody here is ...
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I was mistakenly identified as a criminal, and this has caused rumors. How can I convince my friends that it is all a mistake?

A while ago, I was at a popular, busy local nightclub (this is in the Unites States) and ran into a friend of a friend. Let's call her Anne. After a bit of conversation with Anne, and mutual name-...
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How can I talk about loneliness without sounding like I'm indulging in self-pity?

I'm a 27-year-old man. I feel like a lot of the baggage I am carrying stems from moving around a lot and not really being able to find communities where I belong, as well as being pretty unpopular ...
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How do I mingle with westerners in office as a south asian in the UK? [closed]

I came to the UK to work on contract through software company. I've been in the UK now for more than 2 years now, but I'm still not able to make much rapport or personal friendship with westerners in ...
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Communicating to a close friend that I don't feel valued or respected at times

I have a close female friend who I've known for a few years. We've been through thick and thin together, and have always been able to be open and honest in many different situations. For example, she ...
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Expressing my disappointment over unreturned items

I lent something to a friend for a while (several months) and I asked to get it back but I don't get it back. I asked again and again over the course of a couple of months, but the friend has various ...
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how do I stop attracting wrong friend? [closed]

I have never been to a party or going out with friends and I usually stay at home for studying. (I know it sounds odd, but I am a homebody) I am also working as an engineer in a fairly big company. ...
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How to ask a friend why they unfriended me on Facebook, and not make them feel cornered?

I know being friends in social media don't equate to real friends in life. However I noticed a trend. Several people I hangout with on a regular basis unfriended me on Facebook. I can't help but ...
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How to express sympathy to a very great friend whose father is dying very soon?

Right now I am confronted with a difficult situation where I want to ask for your empathetic recommendation. The father of one of my very best friends strongly suffers on cancer and is dying very soon ...
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Does spending one day a week working remotely with someone I'm interested in increase the likelihood of a romantic relationship in the long term? [closed]

There's a girl I have a romantic interest in, but I'm all but certain she has a boyfriend. A couple months ago, I found that she works remotely on Fridays so I floated the idea of us both working at ...
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How to clarify to a friend-now-co-worker that I want our relationship to be less extensive?

I have known Bob for some five years - followed a few courses together, then worked closely together on a few projects, and now we share an office but work on largely separate things. Because we are ...
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How can I tell a friend about a future trip without upsetting another friend, who wants me to hold the truth about it?

Soon, I'll be going on a trip for one weekend; "Friend B", who is planning this trip, wants to exclude "Friend A" who will likely ask me sometime during the trip what I'm up to. "Friend B" reiterated ...
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How to make a gift without seeming creepy?

This month I'm going to visit London, how Pokémon fans knows for a very limited time in London will open a Pokémon center and I'll be there in that period. I'm very happy for what was a lucky ...
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How to make my entourage understand that I'm not a technical support [duplicate]

I'm a 20 years old programmer and everyday comes with this person asking me for help to configure his iCloud, fix his printer, remove a virus, and other tasks like that. Yesterday my father comes ask ...
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How to inform a friend about my will of ending the relationship?

I'm in my mid 20s and I've been friends for 20 years with this person with whom I practically grew up. We were in the same middle school, played together almost every single day after school, same ...
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Friend is using me to do her (home)work, how can I tell her I want this to stop?

I am a middle school student and I like to think I am a smart person. Typically people ask me to help them figure out problems; but there is one person I am having some trouble with. She sits next to ...
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What techniques I can use in conversations with my schizophrenic friend?

I have a friend who I've known for over forty years. Early on in our friendship, my friend was diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia and has been on medication and psychiatric care ever since. There ...
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How to convey to the people around me that I want to disengage myself from constant giving?

Once I’ve paid rent, bills, petrol, food, etc. I have a relatively small amount of money left over each month. I would get by just fine on this, if it wasn’t for spending the money on other people. A ...
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How can I ask my opposite-sex acquaintance to go to a museum with me?

I recently moved to a new city and there is a girl who I am interested in having a friendship with. I see her everyday besides weekends in orchestra where I usually make some mild chatter with her, ...
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Friend is very nitpicky about side comments I don't intend to be taken too seriously

I have a close friend who seems to hyper-analyze some things I say and gets upset with things he thinks I didn't give much thought to. One example is: we were hanging out and talking about card ...
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How can I inspire a friend to develop critical thinking? [closed]

I have a very close, very intelligent friend. We like to talk about "brainy" stuff, but in quite different ways. While I like to reflect and take apart knowledge and, generally, approach it critically,...
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Asking an over-anxious friend to stop flooding me with negativity

I have a young friend (25 years old) who keep complaining to me by message regarding each and every little problem he is facing in life, dramatizing those to the extreme. He seems in a constant state ...
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Tactfully avoiding sharing food with a friend

Note: one of my best friends is in this situation with her friends, so I'm asking this question for her (from her perspective). I have a friend, Alice, who I was very close with in college. We'd ...
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Conveying wishes that someone's death was peaceful

I recently had an old friend and co-worker pass away. He was an incredible person but I know he was struggling with a lot of family issues and was very likely in a troubling area mentally and ...
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My best friend kissed me while I was half asleep. How can I bring this up and set boundaries, without making a big deal about it?

I am a 23-year-old woman and have been going through depression due to several life situations. I have a guy best friend (engaged) whom I am very close to. He has been acting as my support system to ...
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How do I convince women that my intentions are pure? [closed]

I have decided to do my once per year attempt to not die alone this week that has passed. I decided to ask this nice looking lady that I know for coffee. The problem I have is that for some reason I ...
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How do I make friends with people who I have possibly alienated without making it awkward?

A week ago I moved into a single-room college dorm. I have 5 neighbors who have quickly gotten to know each other and now it's like they've been friends for years. They all typically hang out in the ...
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How to approach someone one likes and how to get to know them well? [closed]

How to approach; also how does the way that the approach in itself is organised differ depending on the location the person was met? As for approach I mean something between these lines Speak to (...
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How to gently end involvement with an online community?

Since 2011 I'm a member of an online community for Animal Crossing players. Sadly many things are changing in gaming world and many of these changes combined with new interests which I have found in ...
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How do I stop my co-worker sending me cat memes? [closed]

My coworker is very distracting and keeps sending me cat memes. He doesn't separate work from fun. He's an alright guy and I do find them funny and want to let him down gently. Anyone have any solid ...
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Is there a polite/tactful way to ask someone to leave your house after they come round for dinner? [duplicate]

I sometimes have friends over for dinner. I am an introvert & after they've been here for about 2-3 hours I wish for them to leave so I can relax a little before bed alone. Is there a polite way I ...
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How to tell a friend I don't want his help with miniature painting?

I have a friend with which we share a hobby, miniature painting. We both purchase what we need and sometimes get together to paint for the sake of just hanging out. The miniatures I purchase suit a ...
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How do I tell the bride that her comments are insensitive as a bridesmaid?

I'm a bridesmaid for my friend's wedding. We have known each other for 12 years and I have been friends with her and her sister. I was not born in the country we are currently in and I have a ...
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How to deal with people that are not able to confront you with Problems they have with you

In the last years I often find myself in situations where people tell me they got problems with other people and are going to remove them from their life if they don't change their attitude. The ...
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How to make a group of friends when in a completely residential Indian university hostel? [closed]

I am twenty-four and will be joining a completely residential Indian university for post-graduation. I generally don't fall apart while making a first friend in my school or college life. However, I ...