Questions tagged [friends]
For questions about interactions with friends, people with whom you share personal details of your lives and enjoy shared activities.
714
questions
0
votes
1
answer
109
views
How to check in with a friend whose sister went for a c section yesterday? [closed]
A friend's sister went for a c section yesterday and I want to check in how the delivery went and if everything is okay. I don't know what would be an appropriate way to follow up with that friend, ...
- 11
4
votes
2
answers
1k
views
Politely reject advice because I don't respect the source's judgment
Sometimes, I am given unsolicited advice. I consider the advice itself (of course), but I also consider the source, as the expression goes. Usually, the advice must be written off entirely because the ...
- 763
2
votes
1
answer
395
views
How to approach a friend who is vague when trying to plan a meet up?
I have a friend and we talk frequently on WhatsApp. We have just got back in touch after a few years of losing touch. I remembered her to be quite unreliable but I have considered that after a few ...
- 21
2
votes
0
answers
180
views
how to end friendship with ex crush [closed]
It is a quite complicated. We were school friends. I had crush on her a long ago. we were very good friends then. then we got separated. after 6-7 years, she again got my number and we started talking ...
- 121
2
votes
1
answer
784
views
How can I enforce boundaries with a clingy younger woman without hurting her
Background
Six months ago two sisters started to attend an association I am volunteering at. I developed a huge crush on the older sister, so I tried to approach her, but without success. Unexpectedly ...
- 21
1
vote
1
answer
531
views
How do I lovingly end conversations without being rude?
I get overwhelmed with social interaction very quickly and can only handle so much at a certain time. Is there a socially appropriate way to initiate a conversation with a time limit?
When I'm ...
5
votes
2
answers
552
views
How can I support someone who is repeatedly being untruthful?
Someone I am close to is repeatedly being untruthful towards me, in the sense that they are "making up" events, usually for the sake of empathy.
The first instance where I noticed they were ...
- 51
3
votes
1
answer
441
views
How do I ask my friend to stop doing inappropriate things to me?
I have a friend, A, in my group that is very annoying (physically). They act the same with other friends in our group, but they are okay with that. I seem to be the only one with an issue. Problem is, ...
- 31
2
votes
2
answers
1k
views
How do I find out if this girl has a crush on me, without asking her directly?
I am working in an IT company as project manager. I have met this girl who is a software engineer in a different team. We have known each other for one year now.
She likes to talk to me. She calls me ...
- 23
6
votes
2
answers
3k
views
My classmate is sharing pictures of my mom without her knowledge. How can I make him stop?
A few days back my classmate shared a picture of my mom (her facebook profile picture) on a subreddit for cum tributes, and sent a screenshot to me.
After much threatening and requesting I was able to ...
2
votes
1
answer
365
views
How do I mend a friendship that divided us apart for a couple months?
I've been friends with a girl for a few years now. We used to be very close friends. However, after she told me last November how she got diagnosed with clinical depression, she has been creating bad ...
- 103
4
votes
5
answers
1k
views
How to invite someone over but not for too long
On behalf of a friend, sometimes she wants to invite people over but many members of her extended family don’t know when to leave, even when given big clues (not as harsh as ‘close the door when you ...
- 141
3
votes
1
answer
572
views
Inviting a colleague to hang out without giving the impression I'm interested in something more than friendship
I have one collaborator from another country for whom I have great admiration. In fact I'm learning a lot with her and I think she is amazing both professionally and as a person, and I would like to ...
user35094
1
vote
2
answers
534
views
How to exit toxic relationships without hurting friends
I've often noticed myself not being able to say no to things and I end up in toxic friendships where I get manipulated, and I'm too afraid to leave them because I don't want to hurt people.
All the ...
- 111
5
votes
3
answers
2k
views
How to tell someone a friendship has run its course?
This person (male) and I (male) went to high school together over 10 years ago, during that time we spent a lot of time together, the typical bro-relationship.
Since then a lot has changed, I went to ...
user35765
1
vote
1
answer
321
views
How to address issue of friend not replying to specific questions
Background:
I have a friend named "Joe". When talking to him through messages it feels like he drops off mid conversation. On several occasions I asked him a direct question like "when ...
- 203
17
votes
5
answers
8k
views
How to ask friend not to leave so quickly, or at least let me know if he doesn't plan on staying very long?
I have a friend who often leaves early and abruptly. He does this in many different situations.
Here is one common example: we met for coffee. After about 30 minutes he said he had to leave in 15 ...
- 203
1
vote
2
answers
626
views
Me and my close friend often have phases when we do not talk to each other
This is very repetitive. We are very close friends, probably the only close friends of each other. But still, this happens again and again. For example, last time I was traveling, my close friend did ...
user9533
3
votes
1
answer
972
views
A friend always talks in dry-professional language even though being very close to me for years
It is strange that one of my close friends, who I know for years and have spent a lot of time in recreational activities, talks to me in very dry-professional language. It is a very minor thing, but ...
user9533
5
votes
2
answers
1k
views
How to get a friend to stop acting like a therapist?
I suffer from Bipolar Disorder. I suffered from a depressive episode last year. A friend of mine feels I'm too negative. He constantly prods me in social situations -- "What's going good Bob?&...
- 51
1
vote
1
answer
375
views
How can I avoid misunderstanding in this case? [closed]
I was dropping off a gift for my friend yesterday. When we talked about where I could meet her, she suggested a place where it's easier for me to find, but I actually know the entrance of the building ...
- 141
1
vote
1
answer
579
views
How to better react/respond to a friend who rejects your advice but still keeps asking for your help?
I find that it’s particularly hard for me to help someone when they want my help but I disagree on what’s helpful? Especially when I’m seen as an expert.
Instance: Friend for years messages me,
By ...
- 113
3
votes
0
answers
704
views
How to explain to friends/family the status of a relationship when you're more than best friends with someone but not yet in an official relationship?
I have been looking for some terms or definitions of the following stage when two people are more than best friends but not in an official relationship. I'll delve into the grayness of "official&...
- 309
4
votes
1
answer
1k
views
How to better handle my friends passive aggressive comments, preferably so there'll be less/none at all?
I'm a millennial and a lot (too many) of my friends were those who were of the opinion that, immediately following the 2016 election, the best way to demonstrate how much they value love, tolerance, ...
4
votes
0
answers
758
views
How can I initiate a chat but avoid being a Q&A session?
I had a nice zoom chat with my friend yesterday; we are both college students. We haven't met each other for a while and we were both excited to share some updates of our lives.
However, after the ...
- 141
2
votes
1
answer
351
views
How can I strengthen my friendship with a particular person in a group?
I'm an international student working in a research group at my university. A friend of mine is also in the group and he is a native student. We have weekly zoom conversations about academic topics.
He ...
- 141
2
votes
1
answer
421
views
How to follow through on not playing tennis together anymore, without damaging our friendship?
I played tennis with my friend almost daily, and as my commitment and rate of improvement increased, we reduced it to two or three times a week on average. He's improved too but since there's a skill ...
- 21
1
vote
1
answer
664
views
How to tell my senior friend stop talking me about the life's experience?
I have a senior friend (colleague) who keeps talking to me about her experience even something it costs me a lot of time (one or two hours per time) unnecessarily. She may want me to be better or else ...
- 113
11
votes
2
answers
1k
views
Trust issues with male friend: how to make him understand I can't tell him about everything?
I have recently become close friends with a male classmate in my college.
It started with simple straightforward discussions about academics. Then we have grown closer as friends and we daily exchange ...
0
votes
2
answers
537
views
How to repair a friendship with a friend?
I (21 Male) had a friend (20 Female) and I had some feelings towards her. I told her about it but as she was committed she denied. We remained friends, but one day I said something wrong about her ...
- 117
4
votes
0
answers
383
views
How do I get my friend to stop singing along when I'm trying to listen to the music? [closed]
I have a friend who has an absolute tin ear... could not carry a tune to save her life. But she is a genius with lyrics. Because of this, she loves to sing along to things. It is almost as if she is ...
- 397
2
votes
1
answer
981
views
How to look after a partner at a party?
My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 months and enjoy going to parties together. We both always have a great time and are comfortable doing things together and splitting off to do our own ...
- 309
0
votes
2
answers
2k
views
How do I get a close female friend to like me romantically?
Let me give you as much information as possible so you understand how I ended up in this situation:
A couple months ago, on Valentine’s Day, I messaged my best friend who I’ve known for about two ...
- 29
7
votes
1
answer
700
views
Helping daughter deal with overwhelming 'friend'
My step-daughter is very tolerant of other people, and kind-hearted. She is also quite mature for her age (11) and is not emotionally volatile like some of the other children in her class. I don't for ...
- 71
4
votes
1
answer
585
views
How to deal with an egoistic friend who only talks politics and religion?
I'm 27 M (living in India). I have this friend (say John). We were school classmates for 9 years. We shared a good relationship during school days but our mentality and perspectives to look at the ...
- 141
7
votes
1
answer
419
views
How to help a close friend seek help with possible early onset dementia
I have a close friend who is genetically predisposed to early-onset dementia. My friend is relatively young (mid-30s), but has been having concerning unexplained behavioral shifts, such as:
...
3
votes
1
answer
775
views
Respectful way to stop connecting with a friend?
Recently I have realized that my interaction with a friend has exhausted itself. They are not a boy/girl-friend and there's no third person involved. We have been closely connected in the past, but ...
- 153
1
vote
2
answers
2k
views
How do I let someone know I'm coming to their party?
This is something that I have never done before. It might seem trivial but I'm an overthinker. I heard about this gathering my friends are having and one of them said I should come.
So I asked the ...
- 11
20
votes
5
answers
6k
views
How can I talk to my friend in order to make sure he won't stay more than two weeks?
I recently bought a 3 bedroom house as a single male and as a result I have more than enough space for myself. My close friend has contacted me saying that his landlord wants to evict him and if he ...
- 317
36
votes
12
answers
10k
views
Moving away from Christian faith: how to retain relationships?
I grew up in a pretty religious (evangelical) family. Naturally, I believed what I was taught: the actual religious stuff like love your neighbors and enemies, be humble and kind, and so on. But also ...
- 379
4
votes
2
answers
931
views
How to talk about my life without showing off?
As the title says, how to talk about myself without showing off?
when I was 21 years old and I was still studying, I was hired by an IT corporation and I had a good income. Now I'm 24 and my income is ...
- 963
0
votes
1
answer
788
views
How to get a young Egyptian woman to talk about herself
About half a year ago a young Egyptian woman contacted me via Facebook, because she was looking for a native German speaker who also has some decent English skills. Of course at first I suspected some ...
- 815
0
votes
2
answers
415
views
How to be there for my friends during the pandemic?
2020 was a bad year for (face to face) human interaction, and 2021 is going down the same route (at least in my country, and in many others for sure).
For almost a year now, I have barely seen my ...
- 158
2
votes
1
answer
556
views
Talking to a friend that isn't very reasonable about people having different opinions
Me, personally speak my mind. For example, if someone asks for my opinion about a shoe and if I think it is ugly I just say it. I'm not rude or don't want to be mean. It is ugly in my opinion but it ...
- 963
6
votes
2
answers
2k
views
How to approach asking a longtime friend out?
Some context is due. We've known each other for more or less 9 years now, from our late teens and now nearing our late twenties. We both lead rather busy lives, so especially throughout the past few ...
- 63
11
votes
3
answers
1k
views
What is the proper etiquette with regards to reciprocating Thanksgiving dinner invitations?
A little bit of background: I am an international graduate student at a university in the US. A domestic friend invited me to his apartment to celebrate Thanksgiving Day and we had a great time on ...
- 213
2
votes
2
answers
874
views
How to politely offer someone reward/compensation for a favour?
I have already reviewed this thread here, and while it's useful and kind of similar, it's a bit different and I think it deserves its own discussion.
This situation is happening in Canada (if it helps)...
- 123
16
votes
5
answers
6k
views
How to encourage conversations beyond small talk with close friends
I had 2 friends in high school, and we were quite close. Then college life started, and we went to different colleges. One of them went to a college out of state. And so there was no physical contact ...
4
votes
2
answers
1k
views
How do I convince someone that I "Just don't want to be friends again" if they are in denial about it
Almost exactly a year ago, I met this guy through a university society and since we both studied the same subject, I agreed to chat and meet him before lectures a few times. He would message me ...
- 49
3
votes
2
answers
1k
views
How can I help a hoarder friend while I worry about the health of her cats I need to feed?
One of my best friends, "Anne", has mental health problems for a long time. She's very closed off, just like me, and never responded much to my offers of help. I still tried to help her any ...
- 39