Questions tagged [friends]

For questions about interactions with friends, people with whom you share personal details of your lives and enjoy shared activities.

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How to deal with racist sexist friend

I have a childhood friend of 40 years, who is steadily becoming more intolerant of anyone who is not white anglo male. In the last year he has ranted to me over email (we live on different continents) ...
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How to approach someone who keeps interrupting conversations?

There's a person whom I think is genuinely my friend. He's showed a consistent willingness to help me out and talk to me in a friendly manner, and even sometimes calls me to start a conversation. ...
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How should I behave to assure my friends that I am not after their money?

I have some friends who recently came into a great deal of money. They have always been kind and supportive of me. I'd go so far as to say I owe them a great deal for the practical help they have ...
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I have only one friend, but they are really annoying and talk about really boring things, and are loud, what do I do? [on hold]

I have only one friend, but they are really annoying and talk about really boring things, and are loud, what do I do? How do I talk to them but so they won't say boring stuff to me?
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How do I politely refuse doing a favor for a friend?

I have a friend who doesn't speak English very well. She once asked me to help her with a small text that had just about two paragraphs and I helped her, correcting the mistakes that she made. After ...
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How to not manipulate the ones close to me [closed]

I'm a bit unsure, on how to actually describe and ask this, so I might edit the question a few times. So lets try. For my background, I'm rather happy with what I do and who I am. I've got a good ...
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How to befriend someone who doesn't like to talk?

Background: I’m a 22-year-old woman, my brother is a 25-year-old man. We were close growing up, but around high school we drifted apart. As of now I wouldn’t say there’s much friendship between us at ...
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Money problems with close friends

Introduction I'm a male software developer at the age of 25 in Austria who started his career about 2.5 years ago. Before my "real" career I was quite a social loser, I screwed up in school because I ...
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Contacting a friend when I haven't heard from them in weeks

Background Online I got some friends who I regularly play games with, these aren't just people on the internet you meet for me. I know a lot of things about them and we've been friends for a long ...
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Seeking closure over someone I have unblocked but whom I learned have passed on [closed]

There was someone close to me whom I blocked for a couple of years - we used to get on really well until he confessed his feelings for me and things got messy/ ugly. Since the negative feelings have ...
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How can I talk with my friend/co-worker about that fact that learning about his relationship upset me?

Background I am a male in my mid 20s. For about 10 years now I have been struggling with life and severe depression. I never had any friends, my family hates me and treats me pretty bad, my social ...
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Asking friend to wait before ordering meal

A close group of girl friends and I enjoy getting together for lunch and dinners a few times a month. There are four of us, and every time we sit down and the server introduces themself to ask for our ...
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Raising the stakes in a game without sounding eager or greedy

I was playing cards with some friends. The game was based on points, which we could use for bidding, hence winning or losing them. The game seemed to go well, until I had the impression that the ...
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Friend gave away my stuff - how to move forward from this?

I have a collection that happens to match the theme of two recent parties. This collection I’ve been growing and adding to from a young age. While it has some moderate monetary value, its value is ...
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How do I stop my classmates from overusing class property?

My classmates simply love doodling on the whiteboard. Using our class markers. Not only do I find it useless and annoying (it often causes chaos with what they write) it uses up ink. Just a week after ...
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How can I avoid lending my bike?

There's this kid I've been riding with for quite some time that keeps borrowing my bike non-stop leaving me riding his broken bike. Not that I dislike him riding my bike or anything, is just that ...
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How to politely turn down an offer from someone to join a pyramid scheme? [duplicate]

My girlfriend and I went out to eat with an acquaintance of hers and his wife. They were really nice people, but at the end of the dinner date, they brought up a known pyramid scheme that they're a ...
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How do you ask friends not to be so hard on you?

I was out with a group of friends listening to some music. A couple of them were grilling me and asking why I made decisions that I now regret. For example, I said I wish I had gone to a different ...
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How to ask the teacher questions without my friends thinking I'm rude or boastful?

I like to ask questions during class. And I like to clarify them, and sometimes "challenge" the teacher's answer or argue/discuss further. But when I do it in class, I have to raise my voice so that ...
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How to reapproach a girl that I liked when last conversation did not end well?

Today I talked to this girl that I liked for the 3rd time (the previous conversation ended fast and awkwardly). The conversation was going quite well (she likes dark chocolate!) until some of my idiot ...
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How to tell daughter in law not to bring her friend to Easter dinner? [closed]

My daughter in law has a close friend that wants to come for Easter Sunday dinner. She invited herself. She is a very sweet girl and I normally do not mind having her around. At the same time, she ...
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Letting people know they don't owe me directly

I've recently been able to afford things rather easily and I also live with flatmates (who are also coworkers). We all make the same amount and share a lot of stuff. Whenever I feel like it, I just ...
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How can I again be on friendly terms with a girl I have a crush on since she's avoiding me after I gave her a small gift?

I've met a girl in my department at university, and although I wasn't initially interested in her, she would often laugh at my dumbest jokes and flash me unwarranted smiles, so I thought perhaps she ...
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How to cancel a nearing appointment with a friend that I forgot about?

About a month ago, a friend I haven't heard from in some years invited me for dinner. We decided on a date that worked for both of us but I forgot to add it to my personal calendar. I was not ...
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How to tell a person I feel they're only pretending to like me when they need something? [closed]

I'm currently in a situation at school where I have a friend who I have invited out several times in the past few weeks. He always tells me that he's too busy to go out with anyone at the moment. ...
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How can I help talk a close friend out of religiously radicalizing? [closed]

I have a close friend that I grew up with that has begun to show signs of radicalizing in his religion. I do not share this religion but we are close friends. He has many friends, very educated, a ...
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How can I talk to a friend about his behaviour before distancing myself from him?

I have been friends with Bob for more than a decade. I recently realized that we both changed in different ways in the past years. Now I dislike his behavior more and more, to the point where pretty ...
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How to support a friend when you disagree with their choices?

Background I (M) have a very close friend (F) who has recently been affected by an autoimmune disorder. Doctors' responses have been, essentially, 'well, we don't know why this happened but this is ...
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How to talk with a girl about the fact that she keeps standing me up?

I'm interested in a girl in my circle of friends. We know each other as friends, but I decided to try a bit harder to see how far I can go. The first thing I did was talked with her the whole night ...
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How to deal with a friend that thinks he is always right? [closed]

I have a friend who I got to know through playing video games. I've known him for about 7 years now and have met him in person about 14 times. We've been actively playing together for 4 years and ...
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How can I let my male friends know how much they mean to me?

I (male in my mid-20s) recently found a girlfriend and another really close female friend, which I highly value in my life. I found that I can openly share my feelings with both of them, and after ...
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How can I ask this girl out when she's giving me mixed signals (and other various obstacles)? [closed]

I'm going to try to make this short, but there's quite a bit of stuff to explain. Background information: Me: Male, 17, Junior Her: Female, 17 (assumed), Junior Situation: So, this girl moved ...
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How do I get comfortable around boys? [closed]

I grew up in a family where most of us are girls. I have a sister and a little brother. My Dad started working abroad when I was 7 years old and only comes home once a year. We communicated most at ...
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How to tackle an unexpected argument at your party? [closed]

I was having a party with my close friends and suddenly two friends were arguing with each other. They were getting hyper and diverting the attention of all the other people to them. They wouldn't ...
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How do I deal with this kid who is really creeping me out in class? [closed]

For reference, I am a 17 y/o male in my Junior year of HS. So there's a kid in my class, not sure the age but I know he's a Junior (looks like a Freshman though), let's call him Andrew. Andrew ...
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How to ask my friend to stop blaming me for everything bad that happens to him?

I have a friend who blames me for everything bad that happens to him. If he can't find his things, he assumes that I stole it. If he trips or if someone hits him, he blames me. Recently, this is ...
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How to tell friends that I don't want them in my team?

This question relates to my football (soccer) team. Last year my team competed in a football tournament, we did okay but we didn't achieve our goal of winning the tournament. This year, I want to ...
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How to email a friend after a year-long argument?

A little background: I used to be pretty good friends with a family member, and we rented a house together along with some other family members. I got my first job and things seemed okay until my ...
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Get to meet someone from the internet without being pushy about it?

So I met this girl on Jodel (sort of like social media, but it's anonymous and you only can connect with people in your area) a few weeks ago and we have been chatting nonstop since then on Kik (...
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How can I make it clear that a conversation with a friend should stay private?

I recently had a long personal talk with a friend. Shortly thereafter, I found out that my friend had shared details of our conversation with one of his other friends (who is an acquaintance of mine)....
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Asking an update from a friend who agreed to help me but who didn't respond me last time

I have a friend who agreed to help me on something half a year ago. Around the winter holidays, last time we chatted, I told him I was ready to implement my plan but he told me that he was upset ...
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Informing friend their girlfriend might be pregnant

Background I have a friend I'll call Hamlet that I've known for quite awhile through school. He also has a girlfriend I'll call Ophelia that he's been dating for over 3 years. I've known Ophelia for ...
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How can I show someone that I am a good listener?

Scenario: I am a male and I have this female friend, who I consider to be one of my closest. She has opened up to me very slightly over the past year, telling me some deep things that have happened. ...
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Supporting depressed ex [closed]

Me and my ex had a long term relationship for 2 1/2 years. We were very close, and after we recently broke up we are still good friends. She has been diagnosed with severe depression, and was even ...
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How can I effectively use social media to become closer friends with people I don't see often? [closed]

There are some people who I want to get to know better, mainly childhood friends I've grown apart from, former co-workers and children of my parents' friends. I'm connected to them on Facebook but don'...
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How do I introduce my new name to my friends?

I am Max and I am a 19 year old college student from Spain. I had a very troubled childhood laced with mental illness and bullying. I have since moved on but I feel like my birth name (not included ...
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Asking people to meet outside of work/gym/etc

Lately I feel like all the people I meet only get and stay acquaintances to mine. I don't have a huge friend group and would enjoy forming new friendships, going out more with people, etc. If often ...
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How do I prevent an absent minded friend from inviting himself to stay with me every year?

I have a friend who is very intelligent but terribly absent minded who sends the odd gift out every couple of months and then announces every year that he will be coming over from the United Kingdom (...
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How to tell people to stop aggrandizing my allergies?

Background I’m a special li’l’ person in that I’m allergic to a lot of foods. This includes... All types of nuts Milk, eggs, cheese; all dairy products Avocado... especially on toast :( Gluten Only ...
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Responding to a man about the fact that they had been kissed by force

Some time ago (four years ago), I was eating in the cafeteria with a friend (let's call him Arthur) and a group of friends (4 people). Arthur wasn't a part of our regular friends group (even though ...