Questions tagged [friends]

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How can I initiate a chat but avoid being a Q&A session?

I had a nice zoom chat with my friend yesterday; we are both college students. We haven't met each other for a while and we were both excited to share some updates of our lives. However, after the ...
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How can I politely ask someone to blow their nose in public?

From time to time there are cases when I would really like someone (a friend/acquaintance of mine) to blow their nose, whether it be because they're constantly sniffling, or that I can see snot in ...
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How to get close to an old friend, who is struggling with his situation now

I had a really good friend (let's call him X).The kind teachers would call inseparable. We went to the same school, the same private tuition and then hung out for some time. We were practically apart ...
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How to tell a friend their music is awful?

I have a friend who has been pouring his heart & soul into starting a rap career for the past 3 or 4 years. One day while hanging out with him at his flat, he plays me some of his new music from ...
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How can I signal to my friend that I'm open to talking about their obesity?

I have a close friend of several years who is overweight. I've been reading and thinking about the issue of obesity and how invisible it sometimes is - how difficult to discuss and yet how emotional ...
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How to approach a friend who is vague when trying to plan a meet up?

I have a friend and we talk frequently on WhatsApp. We have just got back in touch after a few years of losing touch. I remembered her to be quite unreliable but I have considered that after a few ...
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Politely reject advice because I don't respect the source's judgment

Sometimes, I am given unsolicited advice. I consider the advice itself (of course), but I also consider the source, as the expression goes. Usually, the advice must be written off entirely because the ...
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What are the etiquette rules for bringing someone with me to a high school reunion?

I got invited to a 10-year high school being hosted at a local restaurant. I'd like to go, but I haven't seen most of my classmates in years. I have some social awkwardness and didn't really form my ...
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How to support a friend when you disagree with their choices?

Background I (M) have a very close friend (F) who has recently been affected by an autoimmune disorder. Doctors' responses have been, essentially, 'well, we don't know why this happened but this is ...
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Afraid of losing best friends, how can I tell them?

I have a group of friends with whom I've spent pretty much all of my time during high school and my childhood. We played on the same sports team, spent every free minute playing video games etc. I was ...
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How do I let someone know I'm coming to their party?

This is something that I have never done before. It might seem trivial but I'm an overthinker. I heard about this gathering my friends are having and one of them said I should come. So I asked the ...
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How can I support someone who is repeatedly being untruthful?

Someone I am close to is repeatedly being untruthful towards me, in the sense that they are "making up" events, usually for the sake of empathy. The first instance where I noticed they were ...
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How can I enforce boundaries with a clingy younger woman without hurting her

Background Six months ago two sisters started to attend an association I am volunteering at. I developed a huge crush on the older sister, so I tried to approach her, but without success. Unexpectedly ...
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How to ask a new friend about his sexuality?

A few weeks ago, I met a guy, and we started a friendship. We're still getting to know each other, but as time passes I have more and more reasons to believe he has different interests than I (a ...
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How to tell a friend that she is too loud when she speaks without offending?

My partner and I hang out with another couple. We share many interests, have children of the same age, and are fairly compatible in many aspects. So all is fine for spending several hours together ...
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What pronoun to use when talking about a transgender person's past?

I have an old friend who recently came out as transgender. We have a very healthy relationship in general, but I often find myself wondering if I should mention his past (before he came out) and, if I ...
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How to explain to friends/family the status of a relationship when you're more than best friends with someone but not yet in an official relationship?

I have been looking for some terms or definitions of the following stage when two people are more than best friends but not in an official relationship. I'll delve into the grayness of "official&...
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How to enforce a "No Shoes" policy in my apartment?

I like to keep my apartment floor clean, as I enjoy walking around with bare feet after a shower without having to worry about them becoming dirty. As such, I don't like shoes beyond the doorway in my ...
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How do I tell a friend I don't want to play their game anymore, but invite them to mine

I am in a group of friends who meet to play dungeons and dragons. The person whose house we go to often cancels because their partner can't make it. So as we are all adults we don't meet up very often ...
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I live in a desirable, world-famous vacation spot. How do I handle visiting friends and set healthy boundaries?

I currently live in a desirable locale which is a world-famous vacation spot. Suddenly, I have a lot of friends and they want to visit me. I don't want to be rude but I have a few issues: For them, ...
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How can I invite a friend but not his girlfriend?

I'm planning on having a birthday party. I'd like to invite a friend of mine, however, nobody in our group likes his girlfriend. Is there a polite way of hinting I don't want her there? Chances are ...
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How do I lovingly end conversations without being rude?

I get overwhelmed with social interaction very quickly and can only handle so much at a certain time. Is there a socially appropriate way to initiate a conversation with a time limit? When I'm ...
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How to stop friends giving me burnout at social events?

I care about my friends, and I believe it's mutual, but I've noticed a trend over the past couple of years. Nowadays we generally tend to visit each other's homes rather than go out to bars or ...
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My classmate is sharing pictures of my mom without her knowledge. How can I make him stop?

A few days back my classmate shared a picture of my mom (her facebook profile picture) on a subreddit for cum tributes, and sent a screenshot to me. After much threatening and requesting I was able to ...
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How to deal with someone accidentally spitting in my food while dining out

This is a true story. I was dining out with a friend and an acquaintance (who was close friends with my friend). Back story: the acquaintance was jealous of how well her friend and I were getting ...
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How to inconspicuously distance myself from an unwanted friendship at work

Background I've been "good" friends with a co-worker for 2 or so years now. We have lunch together, from nearby food vendors, every day. After some recent events, I've decided I want to create some ...
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Reassuring my wife being jealous of my close female friend

In short, I've made a mistake of being overly friendly and supportive to another person and can't deal with the massive backfire due to me being untrustworthy. More details below. I met my girlfriend, ...
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How do I ask my friend to stop doing inappropriate things to me?

I have a friend, A, in my group that is very annoying (physically). They act the same with other friends in our group, but they are okay with that. I seem to be the only one with an issue. Problem is, ...
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How to explain to friends that I can do the technical part of making a website, but they have to come up with the content?

Where I live the economy isn't great for people trying to get into the tech industry, and that was before COVID-19. I would be happy to make websites for free for my friends. This would give me ...
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How can I talk to my friend in order to make sure he won't stay more than two weeks?

I recently bought a 3 bedroom house as a single male and as a result I have more than enough space for myself. My close friend has contacted me saying that his landlord wants to evict him and if he ...
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How to invite someone over but not for too long

On behalf of a friend, sometimes she wants to invite people over but many members of her extended family don’t know when to leave, even when given big clues (not as harsh as ‘close the door when you ...
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How can I get a friend to stop calling me all of the time?

My friend has been there for me through the worst times of my life, and to the point where no one really helped me besides her. She's going through a bit of a rough time now and I've done everything I ...
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How can I tell my friend I don't like the state of our friendship?

A little background: I'm attending a large university in an English-speaking western country I live at an international campus residence which has about a hundred international resident students ...
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Friend's controlling girlfriend is always listening to his phone calls with me. How to stop this?

Every time I call my friend he puts me on speaker. I don't know why but I know his girlfriend is controlling and is always in his life 24/7. How do I get a private conversation without sounding like I'...
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How do I find out if this girl has a crush on me, without asking her directly?

I am working in an IT company as project manager. I have met this girl who is a software engineer in a different team. We have known each other for one year now. She likes to talk to me. She calls me ...
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Unsure of how to handle upcoming high school reunion after being collectively ghosted

My high school 10 year reunion is coming up. I missed most of high school senior year due to a physical illness, the symptoms of which started the summer before. At the time, the diagnosis meant ...
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How to tell someone a friendship has run its course?

This person (male) and I (male) went to high school together over 10 years ago, during that time we spent a lot of time together, the typical bro-relationship. Since then a lot has changed, I went to ...
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What is the etiquette for hosting your own birthday event? Who pays?

I've never really had anyone to celebrate my birthday with, so I don't have experience with party/gathering norms. This year I decided to be proactive and invite people out somewhere, maybe Topgolf[1] ...
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Carpooling coworker sometimes makes me arrive late or stay late

TL;DR: I drive to work at my own expense. My friend gets a free ride from me, saving her money and time. I say "don't be late" sometimes, and she freaks out. So I live in a metropolitan area and have ...
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Moving away from Christian faith: how to retain relationships?

I grew up in a pretty religious (evangelical) family. Naturally, I believed what I was taught: the actual religious stuff like love your neighbors and enemies, be humble and kind, and so on. But also ...
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My best friend kissed me while I was half asleep. How can I bring this up and set boundaries, without making a big deal about it?

I am a 23-year-old woman and have been going through depression due to several life situations. I have a guy best friend (engaged) whom I am very close to. He has been acting as my support system to ...
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How do I mend a friendship that divided us apart for a couple months?

I've been friends with a girl for a few years now. We used to be very close friends. However, after she told me last November how she got diagnosed with clinical depression, she has been creating bad ...
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How do I stay friends with two people who are angry at one another?

I have two close friends in the university, Alice and Bob, who I've known since the first year. As the weeks passed, I felt less and less apart of our little group and I think the reason was that they ...
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Inviting a colleague to hang out without giving the impression I'm interested in something more than friendship

I have one collaborator from another country for whom I have great admiration. In fact I'm learning a lot with her and I think she is amazing both professionally and as a person, and I would like to ...
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How to exit toxic relationships without hurting friends

I've often noticed myself not being able to say no to things and I end up in toxic friendships where I get manipulated, and I'm too afraid to leave them because I don't want to hurt people. All the ...
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Friend constantly saying inappropriate things

I have a friend from college who I think may have mild autism. He is extremely intelligent knowing all manner of world affairs, trivia, etc. and generally witty and fun to be around. However, he says ...
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How can I communicate with my family and friend that they would appreciate the way I am?

I don't know...one day I was told by a friend that I was being too persnickety. I don't know that word to be honest so I looked up. Persnickety means someone being picky or fussy. I don't think I am ...
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How to better react/respond to a friend who rejects your advice but still keeps asking for your help?

I find that it’s particularly hard for me to help someone when they want my help but I disagree on what’s helpful? Especially when I’m seen as an expert. Instance: Friend for years messages me, By ...
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How to address issue of friend not replying to specific questions

Background: I have a friend named "Joe". When talking to him through messages it feels like he drops off mid conversation. On several occasions I asked him a direct question like "when ...
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Me and my close friend often have phases when we do not talk to each other

This is very repetitive. We are very close friends, probably the only close friends of each other. But still, this happens again and again. For example, last time I was traveling, my close friend did ...

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