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How can I communicate to a friend that he should apply to more jobs?

An acquaintance of mine is a teacher. Because of a change of rules at his school, all the teachers will have to reapply for their jobs next year. I'm sure he'll get his job back, but if he does not, ...
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How to repay someone for a favour when it was their fault they had to do it in the first place? [closed]

This happened to a friend of mine (I framed the question differently to make it shorter). She told me about this and I'm wondering if she did the right thing given the situation. Background: My ...
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Heal a damaged friendship

I'm currently an IT student in college, and I encounter an issue with a friend of mine. Each year, a teacher gives to students, projects topics, and he dispatches them according to wishes that ...
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How to communicate to friend that his ideas most likely won't work

I have a good friend. He has a few startup ideas and is actively pursuing all of them - he set up companies and got a few people to join him on no salary, pure equity basis. I think his approach won'...
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How to make a friend I secretly love feel special on Valentine’s Day

I’m thinking about mailing flowers and perhaps some tasty snacks— anonymously of course. This friend is often uncomfortable with romantic situations, particularly ones where reciprocity is of ...
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What can I do to comfort an online friend who’s sibling just died?

I have an online friend whose little sister just passed away from congenital heart defects. I don’t know this friend in person, and she lives 4 hours away from me so I can’t hop in the car and go ...
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How to politely decline an equipment rent request?

Recently, my acquaintance asked me to do him a favor. He wants to borrow my ski googles for a week-end (2 days). I don't really want to lend them to him, because we are not close at all, furthermore ...
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How to ask my friend to tell her support group she was sexually assaulted?

Preface For the sake of my friend, I want to convince/ask her to talk to her extended support group about the situation. This is a decision she has to make herself and I really think that it’d help to ...
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The daughter of our religious friends writes scary notes when she's at us. How to communicate that?

My wife and I have two friends in our inner-circle of best friends. They are our neighbours as well. We are atheists, not missionary, but strict. They are religious, not missionary either, but very ...
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How to approach the topic of splitting a vacation rental bill by ability to pay?

I'm planning a trip with friends and I'd like to rent a house for the weekend. The bill for such rental, housing 8-10 people, is $800-1,000. I don't want to pay the whole cost myself, but I am happy ...
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How can I discuss beer without sounding like a snob?

I like beer. I like drinking it, discovering it, and I just recently started brewing it. Needless to say, one of my common topics of conversation is beer (of course there are plenty more, and beer is ...
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Online conversation vs face to face interaction

There are a lot of articles out there about the dangers of internet and some of them talk about the fact that online interactions are nothing compared to face to face conversation. Those sort of ...
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How to offer helping my friend with planning my meal at his wedding without coming across as rude?

Context I'm at this stage of life where quite a good part of my friends are getting married. Yay! Next Summer I'll attend two different weddings. The thing is, I have dietary restrictions (I'm ...
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Foreign Friend wants me to go to the hospital with him in order to translate

We are in Japan, and one of my British friends got neck pain and needs to go to the hospital. The injury occurred a few month ago and recently he asked me to go to the hospital with him. First he went ...
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How do I avoid making my friend feels like she has to "fake happiness" for me?

Often in my life, I feel like I have to act happy for the benefit of the person talking to me. This happens with acquaintance and coworkers, but also with close family members. So, whenever someone ...
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How can I help my friend who is depressed and isolated?

I have an old friend who has, over the past few years, gone through several cycles of depression, burnout, and isolation to the point of barely leaving his room. Often I don't find out how bad it's ...
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How do I tell my friend that I don't want to go to her church without hurting her feelings

My friend invited me to her church and I went to the Sunday service. However, I didn't really enjoy the way the pastor communicated his ideas with us and he repeated a lot of the same things over and ...
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How can I discourage constant messaging from online friend without raising it directly?

I am female and in a relationship with a wonderful man. I have an online friend, male and 10 years older than me, who lives on the other side of the planet and just seems to constantly message me day ...
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How to avoid a ride back from a bad driver? [closed]

I agreed to go somewhere with a friend and he drove. I had never been in his car before, and it turns out he was a really crazy, aggressive driver. It made me nauseous and fearful that we might get ...
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How to tactfully chase up free work from a friend

Some time ago an architect friend (who lives in a different part of the country to me) very kindly offered to draw up the plans for a house extension for free (I did offer to pay). So in short, there ...
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How to request close friends to improve food serving cleanliness?

I spent New Year's yesterday at the home of a close friend. I ate dinner at his house along with his family and extended family. I generally enjoy their place except for one thing - lapses in food ...
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How to communicate that the first impression I made at a party was misleading?

On Monday I celebrated New Year's Eve with a group of people I have never seen before because a good friend of mine invited me to go there with her. Since I'm very shy towards strangers, I was pretty ...
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How to stop a fragile friend from dumping their negative emotions on me?

This friend and I have a complicated history. We dated off and on, then decided to remain friends. When we talk about positive things, we have a good relationship. We're comfortable with each other, ...
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How to tell our friends unable to have children that my wife is pregnant again?

Background: In the group of our old friends there are around 30 people. We were all born around the late ‘70s to mid ‘80s. I’m actually 38 and my wife is 33. Some of us are still single, some are now ...
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How can I express to my boyfriend that I don't feel comfortable with this situation without sounding like blackmailing him?

My boyfriend and I have been in a serious relationship for a few years. I have known of this female friend ever since but have never met. She visited him once where he lives now and stayed over in ...
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How can I make sure that my ex's friend will help me to work out the situation? [closed]

Note: In this story, I will call my ex-girlfriend as Clara and her friend as Susan. 2 years ago Clara and I broke up because we knew that our situation couldn't maintain it. It was a ...
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How to politely tell a friend that his views on women are extreme?

I have a close friend that I know since college, we share almost every interest, and we were lucky enough to get hired at the same company. My problem is, with the metoo and timesup movement my ...
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How to avoid being perceived as cold or rude to people while only being depressed?

Some days I feel more depressed and anxious than normal and hence I am not very sociable and talkative like I normally would be. I worry that my friends would take it as being rude to them though I do ...
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How to tell a friend I don't want to continue giving him advice?

A friend of mine, who was one year behind in college and in the same graduate program, will soon graduate and is in the look out for a job. This friend has being asking me for advice (I'm very well ...
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How to tell someone you no longer wish to see them?

I currently have a friend that I’ve been talking to for many months. I find that it’s become draining on my emotional health to continue seeing them. In this case, I have developed feelings for them ...
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How to clarify relationship status with friend you haven't talked to in 2 years?

In college, I had a fairly close knit group of friends that I played games with pretty regularly. That group primarily consisted of 4 people, myself, Alice, Bob, and Sam, with others joining depending ...
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How to start or keep up a conversation with a friend or crush

I am currently studying in a high school, and I have several friends. Among them is a girl I like. We have several common interests e.g. gaming, and we're on very good terms and talk a bunch in real ...
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How can I tell my friend to take her medication?

I have a friend who takes medication for anxiety and depression. When she forgets to take her medication she has very specific behaviors, some of which include tantrums, panic attacks, and ...
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Difficult friend refuses to compromise regarding social outings [closed]

I have a pair of friends who I like to hang out with a great deal. We like to go out once a week. However, one of these friends refuses to go to any bar more than a few miles from his house. I end up ...
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How to Address My Weight in Conversations With Friends

I am a 38-year-old female and I am overweight (5'3", 210 lbs). I occasionally make remarks about my weight in conversations with friends. I don't do it in a self-deprecating way; I just mention it as ...
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Help a coworker or friend reconsider their work/private life balance

Context I work in IT services companies and I've seen several colleagues and/or friends of mine that are in power positions (project leader, tech expert...) take on too many responsibilities, with the ...
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By what ways can I seek attention of my friends to explore business oppotunities? [closed]

We are 4 close friends and all are well settled and prosper. I am initiating business proposals among us but the problem is none of them takes the conversation seriously. However, they all say that ...
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How can I ask for money return from friends without sounding selfish? [duplicate]

My 2 close friends borrowed a handsome amount from me without mentioning any deadline and that time I've had enough so I gave the amount, it's been 5 months when I gave the amount but now I need my ...
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How can I ask to continue a friendship after we accidentally took it to a romantic level?

Backstory I'm going through a difficult separation from my alcohol-abusing abusive wife and I've got custody of the children. Through the Q&A forum I met a woman who is in a similar situation, ...
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How do I get my friends to understand that I won't be social ALL the time and tolerate their scoff when I say 'I'm studying'

For a few months, I've been going out to wherever they've called. Spent money on food outside, had drinks with these folks. I have my exams coming up. Every time I get a text saying 'Hey, what's up! ...
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How can I help my roommates ignore my difficult past? [closed]

I have recently moved into an apartment with two other guys because I was going to university outside of my home town. I come from northern germany and moved a good bit further to the south. I am ...
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How can I gently question my friendship with someone who may or may not be my friend?

I moved to a metropolitan area for work so I didn't and still kinda don't know many people. I have a few friends now but am not trying to lose anyone so I've considered just breaking off all ...
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I have to work with an ex-friend, how can I limit the awkwardness of the situation?

Context I had this very good friend who told me a few days ago to stop any form of communication that is not work-related. Talking about the situation is not an option as she made it clear that she ...
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How to ask to join friends to vacation?

I recently overheard two of my friends, that they are planning to go on vacation next year together with another two or three friends of us. Well, overheard may be the wrong word in this context, they ...
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How to ask someone to stop addressing me with a certain form of endearment

I have a friend whose family I also know. Her mother likes me, and addresses me as her "(my ethnicity) daughter", or herself as my "(her ethnicity) mother" as a form of endearment. I live in a Western,...
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How many time should you try to call someone if the other person is not answering? [closed]

Last Monday, I wanted to ask a question to my cousin and decided to phone her. I called her once and she didn't answer so I decided to try a second time right after my first attempt. When she finally ...
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How to ask my roommate to move out?

Background I know it sounds selfish but here it is. From the past 3 years, I have been living alone in a rented room. 6 months ago, I had to change the city due to a new job. The rent here is a bit ...
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Calming a friend with an anger issue in a competitive environment

I like to play a certain video game competitively and I've met a lot of friends by doing so. We usually have the same groups at local tournaments, so I've gotten to know these people enough to call ...
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How to make a friend stop his racists jokes? [duplicate]

I am in a group of friends of 5 people. We're all white, male, in our mid to late twenties. The group was formed from working together on the same group projects at the university. Obviously, over ...
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How I refuse a request of my friend to give my laptop? [closed]

My question is about the one of my friend. She want to buy a laptop as I have two laptop. One for the university use and one for my home use. She ask me to buy my another laptop as I said I have my ...

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