Questions tagged [germany]
Questions that have a specific focus on people in Germany or German culture.
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How do I tell someone I won't drive them anymore, when they have no car?
Background: To get a technical diploma I started to attend school last week again and will be there till may next year. I'm currently 22 yo and I'm generally a very agreeable person. The school is ...
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How to improve relationship with uninterested coworkers?
I'm not sure whether this is a question for the workplace or IPS board, but I think it's more of a inter-personal than work related issue. Please correct me if I'm wrong.
About three months ago I ...
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How do I decline conversation in my native language?
I often meet people who do not natively speak my language (German) but are learning it and would love to practice it by speaking German to me.
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The problem is that I talk in a ...
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Colleague thinks that he is too slow
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I am frequently working with a colleague who is a little bit junior to me (but not particularly "fresh" - he has been in the company for over 10 years in a lead developer/expert ...
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How to deal with a boss that privately texts an (uninterested) coworker
At the annual summer party of our company I have introduced a friend and colleague of mine to my supervisor. My colleague is from another department at another office and we have known each other some ...
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Address friends overly "agressive" way to get attention back on him when around girls
I often go out on weekends with a few friends of mine, we're all around 18-21 years old from Germany. One of them (lets name him L.) really is a chill guy. Me and my friends aren't really that good ...
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How to convey (non-awkwardly) that its my birthday? [duplicate]
First off, I know that this question is very close to mine, but has no answer that would match my needs.
Secondly, I find it shocking how many people answer for a workplace situation. This question ...
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Reclaiming my desk fan when the office I lent it to is also really hot
I work in a mid sized company. Due to company policy, we're usually not allowed to have personal electronics at work (all electronics in the offices must be tested every year, it's a licensing / ...
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How to talk to friend about changing his behaviour towards his girlfriend?
A friend of mine, let's call him Bob, is in a relationship with a girl, Sarah. He is 24, she is 19. They live together with her 4 year old child. They often struggle financially and I, as I'm better ...
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Using my own training plan without upsetting stubborn trainer
I've been working out at the local gym where I live for about half a year now. Since my town (if one can even call it that) is pretty small, the gym is too. There aren't a lot of people and therefore ...
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How to ask the girl I am dating if she likes me?
I am mexican working in Germany (31), I got to know an amazing german lady 3 months ago (26), we started texting eachother since, it is awesome, we always have something to talk about and we both love ...
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How to ask a store clerk to leave you alone without being rude?
When I go shopping (I am not doing that often, only sometimes when I really need some new clothes), I'd like to take my time, look at all available stuff, and thinking about what I need and what not, ...
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How to find out if my text messages are appreciated?
This might be a very basic thing for many but love is definitely not my strong subject at all!
There is a girl I like very much, long story short, we started to text each other around 3 - 4 times a ...
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How to tell my boss about his lack of hygiene
I work in a small consulting company. I love what I do and I love to work with my boss who is a kind of genius in our field. He is a quick thinker and can be very technical and smart. He is good and ...
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How to get to know a service staff without interrupting her work? [duplicate]
On friday night I was out with some friends of mine, we often go to a hookah lounge (which are quite common here in germany, I don't really know about other countries - basically you can smoke hookahs,...
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Grandpa has dementia, how to include him in conversation?
I'm not sure if this is a question that can be asked here (or even answered) but I'd like to try.
My grandpa is almost 80 and has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's a little over a year ago. Since then ...
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Asking a girl you love (without being rude) to be your girlfriend when you're married [closed]
I know a girl from the internet (we both live in Germany), and looks like everything is fine between us (we are talking every some hours, smiling, flirting ..etc).
I am currently married, but, as my ...
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How to tell an older colleague that they are not superior to me?
I've got a communication issue with my colleague, let's call her Alice. Alice seems to feel superior to me just because she is about 20 years older than me. We were hired for the same position at the ...
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How to refuse an invitation without offending good friends?
We have long-time friends, a married couple. We don't see them very often, maybe four to five times a year.
Two of the opportunities to meet them are their birthday parties. During these "parties&...
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How to ask a girl for a relationship [closed]
I'm dating a girl with the goal of finding a girlfriend. She told me before that it's weird for her to kind of be in a relationship but not properly. I thought she meant that the beginning phase of a ...
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How to talk to a friend claiming to go on a rampage?
My friend (m, 23) invited me (m, 23) to a house party and after a couple of beers he talked about a club in our city which he does not like.
He stated that the club is bad because the security ...
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How do I avoid strange questions because of a flag?
First of I should mention that I like Russia, have been there and I just like the people, the culture, the architecture. Pretty much every friend/coworker/family members knows and accepts that.
But ...
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How to handle accidential baldness in a professional environment?
Last night, I wanted to cut my own hair and I used a hair-cutting-machine for that. I wanted to cut it short, about 1-2cm. In the middle of the process, the machine stopped working, I opened it for ...
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Do I say 'You're Welcome' to a thank you message that would normally not require an answer? [closed]
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I work in a company in Germany and I'm fairly new to my colleagues. Recently our team got a new boss. During a task that my boss performed he pointed out the the outcome was not to his ...
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How do you deal with someone who's pushing you without explaining yourself?
There are certain people, especially family members you see from time to time or other close relatives, who simply don't know where to stop when offering you something. Usually it's about drinking ...
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How to interpret another couple's 'farewell ritual'?
My spouse has a friend who we both like a lot and love to hang out with her and her boyfriend, who is also very kind, but not as close as the friend. None of us have kids, we are all in our early 30s. ...
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How to answer why I didn't join a party, I was not invited to?
I'm living in a flat with another guy. We are both in our mid 20s.
He recently invited a few people over. While I know, that I could always join, I didn't feel comfortable doing so without getting ...
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How to react to an excuse if it wasn't "Ok"? [duplicate]
I was walking down the street, when a rushing older man just barged into me.
He very politely excused himself for that. So I wanted to accept that excuse, but since he could have prevented it from my ...
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How can I convey that i am interested in other job descriptions without making me sound disinterested in a particular one?
I'm currently in my last semester of my Dual Study (see below for a definition) at a middle sized company in Germany. The Study Programme is Computer Science mixed with some Electrical Engineering.
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Co-worker is too aggressively trying to make friends
We have a new colleague. He comes from another region (same country: Germany) and is rather outgoing: He talks a lot (sometimes too much), is generally very friendly and is rather cheerful. He moved ...
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Responding to inappropriate personal questions at an interview?
I am an American living in Germany and had an interview with a manager of a company yesterday. At one point, the interviewer asked me about why I chose to come to Germany. I explained the reason, and ...
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How to talk to family member about their spending?
My grandparents have a caravan at the Baltic see where they basically spend all summer. This, in my view, is good for them. They get to be in nature, which should be good for their health, and they ...
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How to reinitiate conversations online with stranger taking long to answer my mail
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For my first work, I recently moved from the town I studied in. As I currently don't know many people of my age in my new town, I joined a group on a social network where new ...
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How to make amends for an (unexpected) embarrassing situation?
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This situation is a little bit sensitive. Few days ago I was in restroom at my company, and just went about my business. Then one guy came in to the next urinal (restroom is kind of small,...
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Get team member to participate in project
I am currently experiencing a very unpleasent situation. We are a group of 5, working on a software project for "professional school". We use Discord to organize us and to talk with each other. ...
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How to get out of family affairs [closed]
I'm a 22 years old student, living in a little village, about 8000 inhabitant, in Germany. I'm not that old, but very independent. I have my own apartment, and just try to live my life.
In my village,...
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Discussing going to a therapist and seeing my father
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I'm a 22 year old male who had quite a rough past, however I will stick to what I think is important for the question. Currently I'm still a student.
When I was 16 I stopped going to my ...
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How can I switch a conversation from a language to another?
Being new in Germany (around ten months now), I am suffering from the language, and it is not that easy for me to keep the communication in German. Therefore sometimes I use English or even French ...
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How assert my wish of not being photographed to my mom?
When visiting my mom, there will be some moment when she wants to take pictures of me, even if I don't want her to. If I tell her directly, she will just put some excuse and ignore my boundaries. If I ...
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How to let someone know he hurt me without spreading negative feelings
I am living in a flat with 3 other persons, 2 females and 1 male. I am a 25 year old male too.
I have some romantic feelings for one of the female flatmates, Alice, but we have never spoken about it ...
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How to tell a colleague to take care of how he looks
I am working in a software consultancy company, and our job has a good deal of direct interaction with clients. We are a very international bunch of people, but we are based in Germany, and all our ...
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How to communicate that offered reward is not quite fair [closed]
My background:
I (18 year old guy) am currently studying computer science in a combined study program (between the semesters I work at a company that in turn pays me salary and my college fees). I ...
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How can I tell my wife that her fears and mistrust are hurting us?
I've been married now for few years (around 2 years), and everything is ok between my wife and me.
Before me, she was married (for around 8 months) to a husband who cheated on her with her sister (who ...
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How can I convince my boss without knowing every detail?
The Situation
I am an intern in germany as a german. The focus of the company isn't directly the same as my area of study (I study computer science, the company mainly designs, solders and programs ...
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How to stop colleague from talking so much when subtle hints are not working?
Explanation
Pronoun Game: "Using pronouns in dialogue to force other characters to ask for an explanation or conceal info." source
The story:
Every day I go to lunch with two of my colleagues (we ...
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How to adjust to a new country and its culture when people make you feel like an outsider [closed]
I'll be honest here, I've had a weird childhood. I was born to a German mother and an Indian father. I have a German citizenship, but as I moved to India when I was 2, I know the Indian culture much ...
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How to talk to grandma about money she promised me
About one year ago my grandfather died of cancer. Now my grandmother lives alone and got rid of most of his things over time including a model railway.
As a child, I spent many hours at my ...
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Coworker scans my body. How to best tell him to stop?
So, a (male) coworker of mine has the annoying habit of scanning my (female) body each time he walks by. By "scanning" I mean he's looking me up and down; essentially making it clear he is looking at ...
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How to tell my office mates stop talking when I am working?
I am a PhD student. I share an office room with 3 other master's students. Two of them talk with each other a lot and completely distracts me. I just started to work here so I don't want to tense the ...
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How to ask out a German girl in the college? [closed]
So I am an international student at a US university and I have acquaintance with a German girl (of the same age but a different program) through her roommates who are my classmates. We always interact ...
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